I feel like I can't be myself in my relationship, what can I do?

[FlirtGuy]

She is very judgy over my actions sometimes. Especially the jokes I make. It makes me feel restricted.

[Anonymous]

You either talk to her, hope she can understand or you find someone else. I would say to try to be as calm about it as possible because honestly she’s going to feel like you’re attacking her. Like you’re saying she’s controlling. This is no way for someone to live their life, under a false assumption that you’re happy. Eventually you will start to resent her more.

[ThatBaldGuyOvetThere]

As with all things, I say communicate. Like don't be an asshole about it, but definitely have a serious talk, lay it all on the table and say how it's been affecting you. If she continues down the path you say she's going, then you should look for companionship elsewhere.

BUT, keep in mind she might not actually see it your way. And keep in mind she might have taken actual offense to certain jokes and what not. So make sure after you lay your side out, Ask for hers. If she does nothing but criticize without offering explanation, and won't offer an explanation, that is a red flag. The point of a relationship is to work together, not get the other person to change just so they fit your liking. Either partner will not like the explosive reaction that will happen years down the road from that time.

[livishay]

So I was like this with my ex. And tbh he eventually got tired of it. I didn’t understand until he broke up with me for being judged, rude and controlling of him.
Once it was over I started changing myself for myself but I am so ashamed for even making him feel uncomfortable especially after we told each other we loved each other. Love is kind and respectful.
I think you should express this to her and if she doesn’t take it very well then maybe take a break and let her realize that you need someone that will let you be you. I definitely had to learn my behaviors.

[IslaTheWitch]

talk to her, show your perspective, and talk about your feelings. DON'T blame, attack, or judge her. Ask about her perspective, try to set up boundaries or make an agreement...

it's called communication, it's essential in any relationship

[Messiah89]

The best thing you can do. is ask yourself some tough questions. Nobody should not be living on egg shells I have had this happen multiple times an im currently married an in a similar boat I cannot tell my wife things she doesn't wanna hear cause it's a fight so. i have to watch things unfold an its truly sad we are trying to work on it but it's a uphill battle so you need to decide whether its worth it or not to you.

[bobby_bush_eater]

Be honest about it. You need to have a conversation because if you don't it will continue until you break up or worse. When you bring it up though make sure you're calm, the point isn't to be confrontational it's because you love this person and you want to solve an issue. Speak calmly, control your tone and know what you want to say beforehand

[Little_Bumblebee]

Talk with her about it, work on it.
Or I would reconsider the relationship.

It's not worth it to be with someone you cannot feel like yourself in.
But start with addressing it and work on it.

[Yoursweetgirl]

Depends on your jokes and what type of person you are but you should say that directly to her. And if she continues to judge you and you feel like in jail, maybe you two just aren't each other's type of person

[Cheapskate]

Take your feelings seriously, bro. Express your needs. If she keeps on doing it despite you bringing it up, consider leaving.

[Fireguy17]

that is not fun, and it will only build up more and more resentment or something as time goes on.
Hopefully you can get this resolved soon.

[sage2021]

Well, look at your username. No wonder she gets what you call judgy.

[sawno]

Means your not compatible. Its worth being someone who truly loves you for you.

[boggboss]

So don't be in that relationship why would u want a relationship where u can't be yourself

[Anonymous]

That's a horrible feeling to not be yourself in a relationship. Can you even call it one, if you can't be yourself?

[sheikalana]

Hmmm you need to express this to her. You should feel comfortable around your partner.

[boobliker]

be yourself on one day a week the same day each week

[SolitarySolace]

Maybe you should break up and actually live a happy life

[RedInnocent69]

Change relationships. If you can’t be yourself around your partner, what’s the point?

[ThaMaskedMarvel]

Be with someone else.

[bobalife]

Talk to her how it makes you feel

[WhitneySnow]

What kind of jokes?

[Unit1]

Find another girl

[jahaims]

Be with someone that you can be yourself with

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

Pray, perhaps.

[laly520]

she isn't the one