Why do people cheat and act like they didn't do anything wrong?

[Anonymous]

[ohsheeT]

Lol it's so true
First they make a choice to do it

Then they come home to you and act all lovey dovey as nothing has happened

They keep doing it because they think they are smarter than you
And they don't care

Then they get caught and cry promising to never do it again they're so sorry

So let's see they're sorry they got caught

They're sorry that they kept it going when they knew they were wrong

There sorry they lied to you all those times

There sorry each and every time they did it they thought about you but said fuck her she will never know

There sorry that all There friends and family are going to find out

Then comes the fun part
Well I wouldn't have done it but I was drunk
I was lonely
I felt you were pushing me away she's just a friend

You were on your phone with your brother I thought you were seeing some one. ( my brother)

If I stopped she she would black mail me

To answer your question it's because they're selfish you thought they could get away with it and now they will cry just so you won't tell anybody what kind of person they are I say walk away

[SarahS98]

For the most part yes but I suppose there might be an exception. My mom cheated on dad with his then best friend way back in 1992. I wasn't even born. That's basically 31 years ago (eventually dad had a revenge affair years later and got forgiven quickly) and I guess she was really contrite. She bought him a new couch since that's where she cheated, on his couch; also helped him with the moving process. She also paid all the his individual counseling/therapy session and also their sessions, never once blamed him and answered all his question even if he repeated the same question or even if the answer was painful. They still got married in 1996. Lastly she gave him 3 daughters (me and my twin sister... all of us are his daughters) and raised a family, a life together with him. Hasn't cheated since 1992. If that's not being sorry I don't know what it is. They're still together.

[ohsheeT]

That is powerful and that is love that's true love do you think he really cheated the first time or do you think he was just trying to get something out of the system knowing that he was going to be in it for the Long Haul

[SarahS98]

Dad thought a revenge affair got make him feel like a man again, that it would make him feel better but it didn't. He ended up confessing. His cheating was way in 2000; I was only 2 years old by then. Then that was it, no more cheating on neither side. He made a deal with mom that neither of them would bring the topic about each other's cheating ever again. Their secret was kept silent until I accidentally read dad's old journal last year as I was cleaning some things in the basement, oops.

[SarahS98]

too much history they omitted to me and all the family members. It's interesting that I'm the innocent party of all that. I had no business knowing that I guess.

[ohsheeT]

Well you know it now and basically it's what you do with it if you look at it as a positive or negative if you look at it as a negative you'll think about it all the time and it will just kind of hold you back in some ways if you think of it as a positive you know keep you going forward

[SarahS98]

I'm thinking if they've resolved their issues and I've been raised good to the point I never knew they even had issues (until reading the journal), then what I can learn is we're all flawed humans no way or another.

[SarahS98]

we're all flawed humans one way or another. It doesn't have to be cheating but it can be other areas.

[Inbox]

@ohsheeT …. your former X was sleeping with your brother?

[ohsheeT]

And my sister the Milk man the mail man the babysitter. The girl next door.. wait a min. We didn't have a milk man oh well I'm sure someone did

[D_Bone_Steak]

Cheaters are like the prime source to find excuses for pretty much everything. They make excuses for themselves, excuses are given to everyone around them... even the person they cheated with cause they even lie to them.

I think a lack of accountability, compulsive lying, and pure selfishness make the perfect cheater.

I mean for reals... a cheater is literally the type of person that will blame you for what they do... and when that doesn't work they'll blame who they cheated with, they'll blame their friends, then even blame their parents or a random homeless guy that was just begging for change.

Not every case is like that, but I've fucked plenty of women that just don't mention they are cheating on someone, only to find out later in all sorts of strange ways. I don't think it's any different for a girl that ends up finding out her new boyfriend is actually married.

The basic cheater is a liar first and foremost. The advanced cheater is open and honest about it and rubbing it in the person's face that they're cheating on. The advanced cheater is usually the result of dealing with the basic cheater. One lies to everybody and even themselves and the other is telling you what's up from the start.

[supercutebutt]

Yup. And Donald Trump cheated on every single one of his baby mommas. :)

[D_Bone_Steak]

@supercutebutt For once I think I agree with you about Trump. Marla Maples is a relative and wouldn't be surprised if that was one of the reasons for the split. I'm not sure about anything, but I wouldn't advise any of my daughters to get with that kind of guy.

Too much money, power, and brags in private... yeah. I don't know though, I'm just saying I would expect it to happen.

[supercutebutt]

www.newsweek.com/how-many-times-trump-cheated-wives-780550

[D_Bone_Steak]

@supercutebutt Thanks for the link. Another confirmed hoe in my family and that also confirms I wouldn't let a daughter around that. SMH... that was a doozy. Fucking hell. Glad my "Maples" name got changed. My mom still trying to make me change my name back to that. What for?

[supercutebutt]

Maybe because mom thinks you could go into the syrup business? Maples' Syrup.

[D_Bone_Steak]

@supercutebutt Lolz

[SarahS98]

For the most part yes but I suppose there might be an exception. My mom cheated on dad with his then best friend way back in 1992. I wasn't even born. That's basically 31 years ago (eventually dad had a revenge affair years later and got forgiven quickly) and I guess she was really contrite. She bought him a new couch since that's where she cheated, on his couch; also helped him with the moving process. She also paid all the his individual counseling/therapy session and also their sessions, never once blamed him and answered all his question even if he repeated the same question or even if the answer was painful. They still got married in 1996. Lastly she gave him 3 daughters (me and my twin sister... all of us are his daughters) and raised a family, a life together with him. Hasn't cheated since 1992. If that's not being sorry I don't know what it is. They're still together.

[supercutebutt]

@SarahS98 Your dad cheated with me in 2020, just before the pandemic. Your mom cheated with me earlier this year. We rubbed our snizzes together. I feel so guilty but a little better now that I got that off my chest. We are all very sorry :(

[WanderingLoveWizard]

You just described Democrats

[D_Bone_Steak]

@WanderingLoveWizard You know what they say about Democrats.

If they didn't cheat they wouldn't win anything at all.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

They do say that. As do I

[D_Bone_Steak]

@WanderingLoveWizard I say it too... I'm pretty sure the real Democrats say it as well with pride.

(Probably that rainbow pride they're so fond of)

[WanderingLoveWizard]

😂😂

[chloeaimeejensen]

I’m a prolific cheater and the reason why I don’t see I’ve done anything wrong is because the person I’m in a relationship with gave me a valid reason to find sex elsewhere. One guy spent more time on his Xbox than he did with me and turned down my offers of sex to play call of duty. Another guy spent more time out with his friends than he did with me, and even though he’d invite me along, he ignored me the moment he saw his friends even when I was right next to him and it made me feel excluded. And another was never in the mood for sex because he had a wanking addiction. I’ve got needs and these guys never fulfil them so I need to find other sources to fulfil my needs.

[Enlightenme21]

If you felt the relationship was one sided it makes more sense to simply leave the neglectful partner after you communicated your needs are not being met and your partner still neglects to be apart of the relationship.

You don't need to degrade yourself to fill a void, you just need to leave the relationship that does not serve you.

[definitelyNotHer]

My ex-boyfriend of a year had cheated on me our entire relationship and then tried gaslighting me into thinking what he was doing wasn't cheating... cheaters are 90% of the time manipulative assholes who once they get found out are embarrassed and try to downplay what they did. They cheat because they are insecure and think they're not good enough for you (which is why you always see these butt ugly guys cheating on their 10/10 gorgeous gfs) and are then embarrassed about it.

[mobiusforniner]

If someone cheats, in the sense they legitimately fell in love with another person, they won't feel they did something wrong because something else is already wrong in the primary relationship.

I won't justify cheating. But having ended up on that path, I recognize it was because my relationship was failing and my partner refused to listen or compromise. So when someone came along who understood and validated me where my partner didn't, well, lines became blurry and it found myself justifying malbehavior.

[lightbulb27]

The devil... which is inside them... which is their selfish self.

Basically... they are justifying their behavior and avoiding any sense of pain or shame. They are selfish, feeding on their desires and lack empathy for the other person. One could argue this goes far back in society for there were people powerful enough to have hordes of mates.

Childhood training, personality, life conditioning. I hate to blame this on women for the men need to take responsibility, but women are feeding the monsters, society is accepting and promoting them.

The world is filled with terrible ideas that don't work. Be careful what you spend your time consuming in music, tv, media and whom you support.

The path to success is narrow...

[OfMiceandMen]

Quite often they cheat because they feel it's validated based on another person not paying enough attention to them.

If that's the case, just leave the person with some dignity and take the higher ground, why have revenge sex, you may think your getting back at them, but really your just sinking to a new low beneath what they did.

Cheaters are the worst kind, you can't justify having sex with someone else to get back at a person, especially, if you never made the effort to talk to them about it in the first place.

[sage2021]

No doubt!!! They always do that.

My ex said "You don't know the whole story".

My boyfriend says repeatedly "You don't know what you're talking about and if you accuse me again, I am leaving". All the while he was wearing somebody's sweatshirt that smelled like nasty cologne! Oh, but I am supposed to keep my mouth shut. Ah ha...

[Randogirl491]

They felt guilty when they were about to cheat and had to work up their mind to make themselves feel like it was justified/was the partner fault somehow. They washed themselves out of any feeling of guilt and shame before even starting to cheat so they could enjoy it with a clear mind. By the time they get confronted if it doesn't happen early they don't have a fuck left to give.

[Sexiestjohnson]

Cheating simply means defrauding. That term only comes to play when it is against a fellow brother. Like sleeping with your brother's wife.

As long as you are not doing that, it can't be called cheating.

[YoHoeRose]

Great question! Currently trying to solve this with my stepmom she cheated on my dad with a girl at work and is expecting us all to act like nothing happened?

[cosmosis181]

For guys, it's because being a fuckboy is both expected, and rewarded, now. For girls it's because society has historically excused them from responsibility as of late, no matter what happens, it's not her fault.

[IJhonnyI]

Because they aren't mature enough to take responsibility for what they know they've done wrong

[WanderingLoveWizard]

The same reason criminals think their actions are justified. They're stupid

[itsalyssaagain]

Because they’re selfish. And if there’s one thing I hate so much in the world besides lies is selfishness.

[EricSummer]

They claim good reasons. For example their partner may have neglected them.

[Mynameisbobby]

Because it's they know what they did was wrong, but don't want to admit it. Instead it's easier for them to blame someone else.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Because there's shitty people who have no morals or conscience.

[ProbablyClueless]

No one wants to think of themselves as the villain in their own story.

[Unit1]

Why should cheaters feel like they have done something wrong? Or murderers? Or robbers?

[_no_one_]

They think their actions have bo consequences and most certainly are self centred.

[Anonymous]

I help girls to cheat on their boyfriend/husband...
I love it having sex with others girlfriend/wives

[Billlewis]

You are absolutely magnificent, sir... but you already know that... lol

[Anonymous]

Girls who cheat are sluts but assume to be princesses, and they can do the rules, so they dont regreat cheating.

Guys only cheat only with hot girls, and hotties are a reward for them being smart.

[Tomisworthless]

Women don’t take accountability for cheating they justify their action as it being something the guy did wrong. It’s always his fault

[Anonymous]

I didn't act like I didn't do anything wrong, but I did question how stupid I was, to even consider "cheating". It was a LDR. Lesson learned. It's unwise to go that way.

[whistlingwh0res]

Because America is free country. You can do anything and feel nothing

[Ms_Facesitter]

In their eyes they did the right thing.

[Jamie05rhs]

Because they have no morals.

[Fuentes]

Cheaters are just dirty people

[Nominal]

Because of the way they think.

[Anonymous]

gaslighting/manipulative

[Christoff92]

Double standard 😏

[LiamJHayden]

No integrity.

[GoingDownSouth]

they are liars

[Anonymous]

It's human nature