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Cheaters are strange, I've seen this but I've also seen others who cheat and then want their SO to cheat to, that way they can feel less guilt about what they did.10
To put their guilt their shame onto others
Why do democrats blame Trump for everything that they do, I makes me sick that people blame others or their own mistakes misdeeds, their problems. Suck it up buttercup and face. up to it and take it like a. man
I had a girlfriend once she had a lot of issues she never cheated but all her issues caused a lot of problems and she would always twist it around to put the blame on me keepintn on me the defensive always explaining always justifying myself, she would take everyday things and make them into this major world is ending problem and it was all my fault making herself the innocent victim she would lie to herself all the time
I got so sick and tired of that even to this day I won't tolerate someone trying to shift the blame onto me and thanks to her im very good at recognizing it
Stick to your guns if you know you're right and you know you didn't do anything wrong dong apologize for shit because as soon as you do they got you, Sick to truth reason and logic if someone is trying to twist things around on you they are lying and eventually they will break and you'll catch'm0
The way we see cheaters getting what they deserve by having their partner cheat on them is not the way the cheater sees it. In the cheater’s mind, they have valid reasons for their cheating like “it just happened” or “I just slipped up once but didn’t mean to do it” so they just dismiss their own cheating because it didn’t hurt them. But when someone cheats on the cheater, it’s automatically because the partner was out to hurt them on purpose so the cheater assumes it was a personal attack for them to cheat. Cheaters who do this are basic sociopaths. If the cheater cheated and it didn’t make the cheater feel bad, then it was good and justified. If the cheater gets cheated on and it feels bad to the cheater then it’s wrong on every level.0
What Girls & Guys Said
Because they are self-absorbed and immature children.10
Cheating is quite a major act of betrayal. I have cheated because my needs simply weren't being met. She didn't wanna hang out, the sex was bad and not long enough, I was running out of time on my vacation. Strongly expressed that I desired to see her, she didn't care so I just cheated. Didn't feel bad.0
This is what happens when people feel (and call it thinking) instead of think. The infidelity of the cheater didn't hurt them, but their SO cheating did, so "its different". No real thought process involved. One felt good, the other hurt, so only the one that hurt was bad.0
It's a big deal because betrayal is one of the most psychologically damaging thing a person can do to another.10
I only cheat so that it won't be a big deal when she cheats on me.
It's the first rule to any long lasting healthy relationship: always cheat first2
Hypocrite and narcissists. They only think something is wrong if it affects them. In their minds itltbd fine if they do cause they'll come up with some self absorbed reason to excuse their behaviour.2
Two wrongs don't make a right.
If someone cheated on you, leave! Don't cheat back and try to justify.0
Because they're hypocrites. But in fairness; getting cheated on is a pretty big deal.0
Cheating is a big deal. It's a breach of trust. Now if they do the above, they're just hypocrites.0
Your question is a little confusing explain more please0
It’s called hypocrisy0
i don't cheat0
People cheat because they are selfish & emotionally immature. I’m going to share my personal story where I discovered I was on a path to cheating.
5 happy years of a beautiful relationship turned upside down, I was aware that depression was genetically in the family but unlike his father & brother he never had an on & off episode. The beginning our 6th year he become depress, I was very supportive & learned what I can about depression. After 6 mouths of hardly any physical Intimacy, scarce dates, lack of phone calls & had no desire to hang with friends I started to feel that he was falling out of love with me because this is such a different man that I had not been with for the past 5 years…
I spoke with him & open the door if he wanted to end the relationship he said no. So I stayed & watched him to waste away even more. By the end of a whole year of this I was feeling insecure about our connection, upset, lonely in my relationship. I confronted him that he needs to speak to a professional, he won’t. A trusted friend he won’t, read a book about his condition he won’t, take meds he won’t. Even though he has no control over the brain chemicals of his condition, He does have a choice to seek professional help to ease his condition.
I started feeling infuriated that he was throwing our love away where I’m breaking my back to stay with him. At the beginning of our 7th year we were invited to go to rent fair, my boyfriend did not want to go.
As I was having a good time this guy In this group that was a friend of a friends told me that I was Gorgeous & sharp as a whip, he would like to take me out for lunch. I told him I had a boyfriend and he said “ that lucky bastard!” I smiled sadly.
Just being around this guy from time to time he alway lifted me up with complements, held doors, was so ate entice & available to me. He was everything that my boyfriend was & isn’t now. I felt so seen, Appreciated, attractive & not my company not taken for granted. One day the guy asked why he has never met my boyfriend in group adventures then I burst out crying. This guy hugged me & I told him everything. He held me and was so Present in the conversation. He then looked down and said “ I’m sorry it’s this way for you, you truly are an amazing woman and truth be told I’m crushing on you. I know I’m not him but I would love to be here for you…
Silence fell over us and I looked up, he rubbed my eyes then look at my lips he then looked at me to see if it was ok “ can I kiss you”
I said no, I have to go. I sat with myself feeling disgusted I realized that I only developed this friendship because it made me feel better about myself, that subconsciously I was seeking the attention I was not getting from my boyfriend. I further realized that this is the beginning path of cheating and I did not give in to my selfishness. I though about how this will hurt the man I love and if I’m to do anything in need to break up with him first.
There are a lot of people that validate well I’m not getting enough love, They’re not loving me correctly, they are not Affectionate enough, they are letting me go, they don’t love me anymore, people get sucked into thier insacurity about what they are not getting from thier partner then they selfishly act out on what feels good to instantly Gratify what they are not getting from you.
People for get thier Commitments when they are not happy, when things start to hit the rocks people are so quick to skip that work and go back to the grass lands & when the rocks come the reaper that pattern never being able to work over the rocks and that’s what makes real marriage material.