Girls, Recently I got into a long distance relationship (700km) and she is very pessimistic, how do I help her and make her see that it will work out?

[Anonymous]

She even started doubting our relationship but she does love me, wants to be with me and even loved the idea of moving in together. She is currently in university, 1 year till graduating.

It has been hard lately for me trying to help her and I am out of ideas and now I am confused and lost. We really want to be together but she changes her mind quickly and thinks too negatively.

I will be visiting her soon, so I need all the help I can get haha, I really care about her. I know what she is going through, university, self doubt, tired all the time, etc.

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+1 y

It didn't work out, she just used me and played with my feelings, so she feels better about herself and found someone else to use while we were still talking.

[provokeesmokee]

Bluetooth connected distance toys. Lovense is my recommended brand.

You can get toys that interact with each other (e. g. your moves in your toy translate to vibrations in hers).

That aside, you'd have to ask her. Have that serious conversation. And consider moving to her - if you really want to show support, take action to support her.

You didn't mention yourself being in school, so you're the more flexible party. If you want her, make your move. Literally.

[SassyAussieAddy]

Long distance does not work out for the most part.

[Nikki1989]

Long distance rarely works out. One of you will have to move, and fast.

[Asker]

Saddly both of us can't move right now but I did tell her that we can do it in the future. I tried as best as I can to make see things positively but it hasen't been working. She is doubts herself way too much.

When I visit her I will sit and talk with her and go on an adventure and try to help her that way. Deep down she wants it to work.

[LostandFound__x]

I wish someone put in that much effort with me.

[Asker]

Same here and I wish people were more honest.

[LostandFound__x]

I second that

[Asker]

She used me and lied to me that she needs time and space while she actually just went with someone else. Stabbed me right in my heart and back.

[LostandFound__x]

I’m so sorry. You’ve got such a kind heart. I wish I could meet a guy who would be this thoughtful with me. I’ve got trust issues and anxiety and most of the men I dated either dismissed it or got angry with me about it. You’re a good a man. Don’t let her get to you.

[Asker]

Thank you, this will definitely give me trust issues and it already gave me something worse, depression. I hope you find the right person.

[LostandFound__x]

It gets better! I hope you do too.