My girlfriend doesn't believe in long distance relationship, what should I do?

[Dodo85]

These days we discussed a lot about our relationship but I couldn't make her understand that I'm trying to change, trying to be the man she's been waiting for. The problem is she doesn't believe in long distance relationship, she told me she needs a boyfriend who can be beside her and meet sometimes. I know I had a lot of mistakes before and I've explained to her already and I'm realizing everything now, facing all the situation for making better, brighter future for her, this is what I told her. But she's afraid she'll get hurt again and most importantly she doesn't have confidence in long distance relationship. How can I make her to believe in me and how to make her understand that long distance relationship can be good and it has benefit? I tried to ask her to come on skype before so that we can do video chat but she said it's no use, she wants to see me in real life not through webcam. I also told her long distance relationship is hard but we can work it out together but she still doesn't believe, I'm trying to send her messages, call her and something like this. I'm in another country and don't know when I can be back to her, what I've told her I need 2 years time to be a man she's been waiting for and if there's a chance then I'll come for a visit. We're pretty far away from each other, actually not that really far, just a couple of hours away but due to my mistakes before, my parents don't let me to go back, maybe later when I prove to them that I can stand on my own feet and can decide to good way. I've also asked my girlfriend to come here but she said she doesn't want, I can buy her plane ticket but still no. Please help me! What should I do? How to make her understand that I really want this relationship, don't wanna leave her and make her understand that there's a hope? We haven't seen each other for about like 2 months and I'm so in depression now. Thanks so much if you can help me out!

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+1 y

She doesn't call me or text me often like before now... But there was one time I didn't contact her for 2 days and she asked me why I didn't contact her, I don't miss her now or what? Am I seeing others now? I'm really confused, she's giving me mix signal

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even if we didn't break up yet but she told me before there's a guy she wanted to know more but I don't know about now. She said she started to hate him because she found out he's concentrating on his stuffs so much

[bdoran24]

how far is this long distance. I am in one right now and have been since last july. its hard but we really care for each other, even if she says no she doesn't want to do it she may come back feeling sad and miss you, I was going to see my girlfriend ever 4 months. there's hope do more then call and text keep the sexual thought in mind, one thing I did with my girlfriend was we would tell a sexy fantasy of what she wanted to do to me right then, then I respond and it made you think about the person sexually way but that help keep the relationship going, sorry I jumped around.

[Dodo85]

Well, I'm in Vietnam and she's in China so not that really far... I've tried sexy fantasy before but every time when I talked to her about it she feels horny and she said she needs to make love often... So I stopped doing that because I'll get hurt really if she'll do it with others

[Dodo85]

Is she really mean it when she said she hopes I can move on and find a better girl? She wished me happiness but other day she asked me do I have new girlfriend or not, do I wear our ring or not... I'm confused now

[bdoran24]

are you married, if you want to be with her then go to her if you can't then you might have to let her go, you'll be happy with a girl who you can see every day, it maybe hard but if she's also not putting in any effort she knows it might be over sorry dude I hope everything works out for you

[Dodo85]

No, we're not married. Yeah, I'd like to go to see her but not right now... Within 2 years I could make it, I just want her to understand that I'm trying to make all the thing to make our relationship better and have future but she's afraid she can't wait and she doesn't believe in long distance relationship... Should I just continue call her and text her everyday? Telling her what I'm doing and something like this because in the e-mail she asked me to her what I'm up to and what I'm doing

[Dodo85]

She doesn't call me or text me often like before now... But there was one time I didn't contact her for 2 days and she asked me why I didn't contact her, I don't miss her now or what? Am I seeing others now? I'm really confused, she's giving me mix signal even if we didn't break up yet but she told me before there's a guy she wanted to know more but I don't know about now. She said she started to hate him because she found out he's concentrating on his stuffs so much

[bdoran24]

In oder to keep her stop call and txting her and old. Answrr if she calls or txt. You have to make her miss you inorder to keep. Her. This method. Dose work. Its just so hard. To do at first. After a few days. Shell miss you txting and. She will call. Tell her how you feel. But. You begging.

[Dodo85]

I've done it, I didn't contact her for 2 days and she contacted me by herself asking why I didn't contact her, I don't miss her now or what? Or am I seeing other girl now? I told her that because I was doing something all the time. I'd like to do that method, no contact for a while but I'm afraid she'll think I don't care about her and I move on, also I'll loose her...

[TyroneJayJackson]

You are 25 years old... Why are you letting your parents control you?!?! Go and rent a flat nearer to her or something. Go by any means to see her. If you can't go see her than you may as well give up because it's obvious that if you don't see her than the relationship won't work.

[Dodo85]

Because like I said I did a lot of mistakes before, I don't want them to control me either but I was kind of child before, not a man they wanted and they're worrying about my health and something like this

[Dodo85]

And I'm trying to do everything possible way to go and see her but unsuccessful, why doesn't she want to come here? I could buy plane ticket, she can experience new country, culture and so on, we can spend a lot of times together too. I think she knows how much I love her

[TyroneJayJackson]

You need to try one way or another to build up that bond with both your parents and this girl you like. Otherwise there'll be no trust will there so try to get them to trust you by helping them and sorting your life out etc...

[Dodo85]

Yeah, I'll do it but it needs time and I asked her for 2 years time already and I can be difference, change and have the ability to do something... But the problem is she doesn't have confidence and I need an advice for making her have confidence and believe

[TyroneJayJackson]

Give her that reason then because she won't get confident unless she actually see's that you've changed and she can trust you. I don't know what else to say. Sorry man. Best of luck.

[Dodo85]

I understand but I'm far away so no matter what I'm doing she can't see it because if I'm saying something she'll think it's just coming out from my mouth only... Do you have any idea about this?

[TyroneJayJackson]

I guess you could make a video-tape of everyone saying about how you changed and how this girl should give you this chance. That might work.

[Dodo85]

Thanks!;-)

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[bdoran24]

Don't bug her or beg her. She's just going. To move on faster. 2 years together your sh*t togethers too long. You should. Get it together right now.

[Dodo85]

Yes, I understand this but right now I can't be back... So all I can do is just calling her and texting her. During this time I just need to show I care about her, right? I mean because she's probably afraid there's no hope in 2 years. If I'm keeping show her my care then it'll be good, right? Surely, I don't have to call her everyday or texting but I can send you two e-mails she sent me so maybe you can understand. Can I have your e-mail address please?

[Dodo85]

Also you know she doesn't ask me any questions, just like what I'm doing or something like this. She does sometimes actually but by text messages only, when I call her it was me who's asking how she's doing, what she's doing and so on... Anyway hoping you can give me your e-mail address so maybe you can understand more. Thanks in advance!

[Dodo85]

I've sent you mail so when you can please check it. Thanks in advance and waiting for your reply!