At the end of the day do you ever think of someone and wish you could be with them?

[virtualwasp]

[Anonymous]

Not anymore. If she doesn't make any effort towards me why would I want to be with her? She isn't going to respect or care about me.

[virtualwasp]

Have you made effort

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, and all the effort I'm going to. 👍🙂

[virtualwasp]

How do i make effort or do I leave so he won't have to see me again?

[Opinion Owner]

I can't answer that. Not every woman is the same. The point is you make your intentions known. If she doesn't respond you move on. I don't care what her reasoning is. It's not relevant. I gave her a shot. If she didn't take it, I'm moving on.

[virtualwasp]

Maybe I leave then, he hasn't really made his intention ls known, he's also chatting to other women and it makes me feel like crap. I'll apply for other jobs and leave the area. I don't know.

[virtualwasp]

I don't know I'm soo conflicted, I've never liked someone like this before. But I don't know what to do about it.

[Opinion Owner]

To me it's simple. You put yourself out there (I hate this term but "shoot your shot"). If he doesn't respond in kind YOU MOVE ON! It's called self respect.
No that these "feelings" you have are most likely in your head.

[Opinion Owner]

Know* not no

[virtualwasp]

What are the symptoms for them being in my head Vs being in my heart?

[Opinion Owner]

Use common sense. You already said he's talking to other women. You KNOW deep down if he's talking to them friendly. Or flirting. You also know the level of flirting vs. You. Deep down you know.

[virtualwasp]

Friendly talking to others I believe but I don't know I just feel numb and want to cry. I've liked him since the second I saw him 18 months ago with his big smile. Obviously it's changed over time as I learnt more about him.

[virtualwasp]

I can't step smiling when I see him and feel so happy. But then he starts talking to others about me as they start looking over and it makes me feel uncomfortable so I become withdrawn

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, you're definitely not using common sense. 😆

[Opinion Owner]

I don't care how much I like a woman, am attracted to a woman. I ALWAYS keep my emotions in check.

[virtualwasp]

Wtf do I do?

[Opinion Owner]

I already told you. Nothing you want is going to change what is. Personally to me you sound to emotional to make a intelligent decision (no offense). But I know you're not going to let this go. So if you're going to do this at least do it the intelligent way. Make a pass at him. If he bites then trade shot for shot. If he passes let it go and move on.

[Opinion Owner]

Anything else is just going to end badly for you.

[virtualwasp]

He's older than I as well I wouldn't ever want an older gentleman but I don't know he's alright 😉

[virtualwasp]

I've never done this before, wtf do I do?

[virtualwasp]

I was an athlete I spent my childhood in sports halls and travelling, I never had time or was allowed to date. I've been on dates before but only because the guy liked me, I didn't really want to but was talked into it. This is new to me

[Opinion Owner]

Well I don't know how to entice a guy. I only know what I like. I don't know that this guy is ANYTHING like me.

[virtualwasp]

Maybe it's too difficult, I don't know.

[virtualwasp]

He's goes red in the face when I'm close and look at him and he's get erections sometimes

[virtualwasp]

But he's avoiding me because I was made that he talks to other women and not me.

[virtualwasp]

Any ideas?

[Anonymous]

My exes obviously as well asked those I'm sure were interested in me at the time however briefly