When does telling the truth become a weapon to hurt rather than a healing in a relationship?

[shades777]

[CaptainOverthink]

Speculating.. please stand by..

I think it's about both knowing yourself deeply and also your SO//friend (or not, or using it - to weaponize). To know what truths cut deeper and are more sensitive to poke at.
To be keen and deeply intuitional to your SO//friend's mood, weakspots and to pick the right time, in the right context, before stabbing at the heart of the issue to avoid weaponizing it.
When you misstime, don't read the room, missunderstand them or use the truth in anger you risk weaponizing it.

It's a question of either sensitivity or intention.

[blueonblack22]

It’s when you tell the truth and:

• the other person has no real ability the change or improve the issue.
• when you point the obvious (you already the other person is plainly aware of the painful truth).
• when the you can dish it out but can’t take it. You want to play victim when the other person hits you back.
• you “enjoy” pointing out the ugly truth vs saying it to improve the other person. That what bullies do.

We all need some tough love time to time. But there is as tough as it is, it is still meant to be love. But when it’s said in pure malice that’s a reflection of you vs. them.

[provokeesmokee]

It's hard to say.

A good rule of thumb is you're telling the truth with the intent of helping, rather than hurting the recipient.

But even with the best intentions, it's possible to still hurt someone with uncomfortable truths.

The difference between a weapon and the regular impact of truth is why you're saying it, when, and with what tone.

If you're only using truths as insults, guilt trips, or manipultive tools, you're weaponising it.

[thatshydork]

When you use it vindictively rather then trying to help them be a better person.

[236color]

This is a tough one. Those cases definitely exist, but I don't no if there's a concise rule of thumb to identify them.

[shades777]

it becomes more about the type of person one dates rather the truth itself

[Anonymous]

At the very beginning. If people in the U. S. valued honesty, they wouldn't keep recycling the same politicians and falling for the same scams over and over, while telling the very people who ARE honest-that they're "rude." It's all talk. If actions do indeed speak louder than words, then the proof is in the pudding. Honesty is NOT what people want.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Truth is reality. Hiding from it behind a lie doesn't help a relationship. Never ask a question you aren't prepared for every possible answer.

[madhatters4]

when your truth either, unintended or intended, hurts more than it helps

[Deformate]

When you know your answer will hurt and you take delight in giving it anyway?

[TheSpaceGnome]

When its not constructive to fixing or preventing a problem or correcting/avoiding a mistake or risk.

[sheikalana]

When the other person can't deal with criticism or honesty.

[BigDog1989]

Voting, essentially

If I vote for someone who lied to me, they just ruined their relationship with me, right?

[CB-Raido-Time]

It becomes a weapon when it is recalled for no other reason but to hurt and cause damage to another person.

[Anonymous]

When you are telling the truth to help yourself rather than the relationship and partner, or to hurt your partner.

[jwmiller95]

How and when you say it will determine the purpose of it

[Anonymous]

I'm not if the understanding that it inherently is, nor that it is often used as one. Am I mistaken?

[McLlovin]

The motivation behind telling the truth

[Fuentes]

If ur a cheater

[peterrezeeek]

women have so smooth feelings

[OddBeMe]

Intent to hurt or intent to help.