Is it normal feeling like such a loser for being a loner?

[Anonymous]

I am nearing 29, and I never had a real girlfriend. I don't have regular friends to hang out with on a Friday night or weekend. I just ate at a crowded restaurant all by myself. I feel so unwanted and feel like people view me as a creep or a misfit because I am that socially awkward loner.

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I feel like this world is cruel to people who have social deficits, disabilities, and people who are just different. We supposedly live in this "social justice" society that pushes for racial and gender equality, but I feel we are a long way off from treating people with social developmental disorders with dignity.

[JBlade]

I don't know you so I can't say anything too specific, but there are things within your control and things outside of your control. Try to focus on the things within your control, like how you feel about yourself and your good aspects or what you enjoy. I'm in the same boat due to my personality. I just like being by myself a lot and the dating pool kind of sucks. I'd still like to find a partner if possible one day, though I doubt it will happen🤷‍♂️.

Unfortunately, having certain relationships are a privilege and life is not fair. You can try to put yourself out there more or find a community but the results are not entirely within your control so don't beat yourself up about it. Most people are shallow, so their opinions shouldn't mean much. What's important is your opinion of yourself. if you don't like yourself, think about what you can do to like yourself.

[EricSummer]

Yes, most people would feel uncomfortable with the situation you are describing.

[Anonymous]

You are the maker of your destiny. You can only blame yourself.

[Asker]

All my former childhood friends are married. I have less and less in common with my peers as they move on to different chapters of their lives. I am involved in a single men's brotherhood Bible group, but sadly, when I asked if anyone wanted to grab a bite to eat, I didn't get any takers.

[Asker]

In addition, it is rather disparaging to tell a person on the Autistic Spectrum it is all his fault. It is just as bad as telling a black man it is his fault for being black.

[JBlade]

This is such a bad and negligent answer lmao.

[jeffend888]

Just wait until you get to 39.

[Asker]

Are you in this same boat but older?