If you had to choose a partner but one mental red flag behaviour was mandatory to come in them (to happen to you), which one would it be?

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From the list given below. Suggest more if I wasn't able to come up with them

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

No communication/ no deep-personal talks are what I voted for; I choose that one because for me it's the least harmful of all the others. I mean all the others are various forms of manipulation, but someone that just doesn't want to have deep talks I could deal with... and maybe eventually work together with to get to a point that talks could happen. So, I voted on No Communication because to me it would be the lesser of all the other evils and it offers the highest odds for potential improvement.

Honestly you put together a very good list. Anyone that has dated for more than a day has run across all these types, and we all know it's never just one or the other. Where there is smoke there is fire, and when you find one of these things all the other things on the list will soon follow. But hey, if she wants to date and not have deep convos then great, that usually means that she is aware of the things about her she needs to improve upon... or at least keep under wraps. So that means you could date and have fun and really enjoy yourself for a time and hope for the best until the truth comes out.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Being patronized over. Because she's a woman so the odds are pretty good she'll do that anyway.

sheenagwapa · Accepted Answer

i wanna chanfe my andwrt i love being patronize to this i mean my ex WAS my #1 fan and i loke it. second to that is boundaries being violated because i'm a forgiving person.
what i hate the most is not sharing or no deep talks. i feel lome i maybe immature at times with my behavior but intellectually/phychologicaly i'm very mature.
i want deep talks because i want to feel depper connection loke our relationship is not shallow i want a meaningful relationship

Anemone978 · Accepted Answer

I fell in love with a guy that did all of these things.. but I was the bad guy because I wanted to leave, I was hurting him when he wouldn't even be exclusive with me lol

ShellyB · Answer

Well I had a relationship that had ALL of these issues!! But I hated it. Today I do not think I would stay in a relationship w any of these behaviors, unless maybe it was minor or a matter of opinion, no relationship is perfect but the way these are worded, they sound pretty extreme. I guess being patronized would be the least upsetting to me. JMO!

magiusX26 · Answer

yeah, nope. every one of those are relationship enders and if seen before starting a relationship, ends even looking at her beyond an object to walk around so that you dont bump into it level of other person.

MissBoogus · Answer

I chose boundaries being violated because, well, I had to pick one but also I feel like it’s not always necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes being uncomfortable is ok you may learn something new about yourself.

RavVid · Answer

I think being manipulated into changes comes with a relationship i. e. rewards for good behavior. It is fairly intrinsic and even institutionalized. On valentines and anniversaries the guy is expected to go to some effort and most often will be rewarded with some good sex.

So of the list red flags I think manipulation is the least harmful. Often you do know you are being manipulated but play along with it.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Either red flag will do :( it's not going to last anyway...

Killsey · Answer

Those are some nightmare options. Gaslighted. I've had people try that. It's annoying, but not as bad as the others in my opinion.

Anonymous · Answer

I can't remember ever having a genuinely "deep" conversation with any woman.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Any and all of these are dealbreakers for me.

msc545 · Answer

Boundary violations leave the door open for everything else listed and more.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I'd take be patronized.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Being lazy I just leave her to be honest.

Grovermint · Answer

I'll take being patronized for 500.

Anonymous · Answer

none

Anonymous · Answer

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