My boyfriend pinches me, gently slaps me, is this considered abuse?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for around 2 months and he's behaviour is starting to be unormal.

It started with pinching my legs so I get small bruises. And we're not even arguing, it happens randomly.

Now its escalated to slapping my face and arm gently, slapping my butt really hard so it gets really red (it hurts bad). He gets a crazy look in he's eyes when doing it, like its all black...

[Hulk_kitty]

I'm not a relationship expert, but I can offer some general thoughts on the situation you're describing. It's important to recognize that any form of physical or emotional harm, even if it's presented as a joke or done gently, can be a concerning sign in a relationship. The behaviors you've described, such as pinching, slapping, and the change in his demeanor, raise potential red flags.

Healthy relationships are built on respect, trust, communication, and safety. It's essential that both partners feel comfortable and secure in the relationship, both physically and emotionally. If you are feeling uncomfortable, hurt, or unsafe due to your boyfriend's actions, it's important to address the issue.

Here are a few steps to consider:

Reflect on Your Feelings: Trust your instincts. If you're feeling uncomfortable, hurt, or unsafe due to your boyfriend's behavior, it's important to acknowledge those feelings.
Set Boundaries: Communicate your boundaries clearly with your boyfriend. Let him know how his actions are affecting you and that you don't appreciate the physical behavior.
Have a Conversation: Initiate an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend about how you feel. Express your concerns and let him know that his actions are not acceptable to you.
Seek Support: Consider confiding in a trusted friend, family member, or counselor about the situation. They can provide an outside perspective and support.
Safety First: If you ever feel unsafe or fear for your well-being, it's important to prioritize your safety. Reach out to a trusted person for support and consider taking steps to distance yourself from any potentially harmful situation.
Consider Professional Help: If the situation doesn't improve or if you're unsure about how to proceed, you might consider seeking guidance from a therapist or counselor who specializes in relationships.
Remember, your well-being and safety should always come first. If you ever feel threatened or uncomfortable in a relationship, it's important to take the necessary steps to protect yourself..

[Danny_dan92]

Considering there are girls that legit get punched, slapped, choked by their boyfriend’s etc.






I’d say this is him being playful. However it could be the quiet before the storm. Just pay attention to how he conducts himself when you argue. Because there is no couple that won’t argue

[AuroraSephine]

This is when you need to tell him, stop it now before it escalates further. He’s trying to see what he can get away with, if you keep allowing it then it will keep happening, don’t be scared of him, or break up if it’s not right.

[Reem12345reem]

tell him it bothers u and it hurt , if he didn;t stop , then yes it's considered abuse , breakup before it gets more than2 months

[Wonderingguyy]

That’s really bad. He’s not laughing and joking with you when he’s doing it is he? Or your not giving him a reaction that you like it? If not, you should probably stay far away from him.

[Dinklex3]

Have you had a conversation about it and expressed your thoughts/concerns?

[TonyMetal___86]

Kill me my dear, slap me right and left, make this tight ass red and after all these come here and ask "is this abuse" what the freak 🤣🤣

[Anonymous]

It's abuse but done in such a way that he can disguise it as something else if challenged.

[Shamalien]

He’s being playful and if you’re not into it you need to communicate that

[BarryLiverstone]

When you have asked him to stop and explained that you feel disrespected what did he say?

[Jmmmfi4]

If you don't like it then yes it's a problem

[sheikalana]

Does he do that to tease you or hurt you?

[LiamJHayden]

Tell him you do not like it.

[Anonymous]

Wonder why he doesn't choke too!

[Anonymous]

All that not during sex? Leave his bitchass

[Ms_Facesitter]

It's not.