Has anyone here gone from being hopeless to getting what you want?

[Anonymous]

Like you used to feel hopeless and thought you would be probably single for your lives but later on things changed and you ended up being in a lovely relationship?

[Shewolf30]

For sure, but there's one thing that I did I use to chase relationshios and always look for them, I was so desperate I would date a lot and feel so hopeless. I dated a guy for 4 months and I thought it would lead to something serious but he ended up leaving me, after that I just gave up! I stopped chasing, I stopped going on dates I didn't think about me anymore and I put all this energy into myself I worked out I ate healthy I started to love and care for myself and after a year some guy messaged me and now we're together for 3 years and engaged! When you stop chasing something and let go and put love and care into yourself the right person will come into your love and i can promise you that. Goodluck my friend!

[Shewolf30]

Men anymore *

[Asker]

That was so nice! Thanks for the opinion
Would love to know more about "Some guy messaged me" part.. did you know him before or did the relationship start with the messaging?

[Shewolf30]

Hey, no problem! And he just messaged me on FB and from there its history and I was so skeptical about him at first because of how I couldn't find anyone in the past but slowly I let him in, I spoke to him online for almost a year before I met up with him and when I met him in person for the first time I knew he was the one! And vice versa and by the way he was also in the same position as me! He never had a girlfriend and he become hopeless and then decided to message me because he saw that I had a jersey of his favourite basketball team on my profile picture and he had no intention of messaging me if I didn't have this jersey even though he found me attractive his purpose wasn't to get into a relationship with me even though that's what he wanted for a while he just never succeeded, he said he wouldn't have ever messaged me if not that jersey and I was about to change this picture too! Thank God I didn't. The universe has very amazing and mysterious ways to give you what you want and again put work into yourself and love yourself first and then everything you want will fall into place i experienced this so many times with different things! Detach from what you want and you will eventually receive it :)

[Asker]

That was such a sweet story and I am noting down (screenshot lol) your vice words
That really made sense
Thank you so much for your time and god bless you both!

[Shewolf30]

I'm glad I could help! Thank you so much and take care my friend, always keep in mind that good things come to those who wait! God bless you ❤️🙏🏻

[Asker]

Thank you again!
God bless you too💕

[XHopelessRomanticX]

Yeah :)

[Asker]

Cool , happy for you!
If you don't mind me asking , was there any effort from your side for that to happen or it just happened?

[XHopelessRomanticX]

It took a little effort in that I had to just put myself out there and learn to be patient. I met my current boyfriend online about a week after I joined the platform. We’re currently in a long distance relationship and we’ve been together since May.

[Asker]

Cool.. nice to hear that
Did you had to put on your apperance? (Unless you are a natural beauty unlike people like myself lol)

[XHopelessRomanticX]

I don’t really wear makeup or do anything special with my hair. I just took pictures of myself doing things I enjoy. I’m not a real beauty by any stretch of the imagination, and not every guy I’ve met has been attracted to me. Most guys aren’t! But he thought I was cute, and I look forward to when we get to meet in person.

[Asker]

Great!
Best wishes to you both!

[jennifer_bloom]

What I have concluded is that your prospects are determined by your effort and your respect for others, not your aptitude or your natural endowment at birth. I know very smart people from very rich families that can’t find jobs and I know people who came from poor families that are not highly educated who became rich and happily married. The difference was morality and personality.

[_Maya_]

Nah I can't say hopeless. I might be able to say frustrated or disappointed but not hopeless. I actually was intending to stay single at this point I'm my life but the world and fate had other plans. I'm starting my masters program really soon and it will take a lot of my time. That was the reasoning to staying single. That didn't work because I met the most wonderful girl and just couldn't pass up the chance with her. It's gonna work out because she is super chill with the fact I won't have tons of time. I lucked out.

[Asker]

Cool
I am sorry if this sounds rude, but to be honest you not like us and won't have trouble getting with relationships when you need one you know!!!
I think that sounds like a compliment, cause it in fact is lol!

[_Maya_]

Well then I appreciate the compliment.

[Billlewis]

That's what being a submissive fincuck is all about.

[Asker]

Oh Billi you again 😆
What's the submissive thing here lol?

[Billlewis]

It's the opposite of 'dominant', and to my understanding , only about 20-30% of the population refer to themselves as dominant, which makes submissives a dime a dozen.

[Asker]

You have to be in a relationship first to have Dom/Sub thing lol
Plus 75+ percent men are dominant and sorry you belong to the minority sissies 🤣
Only around 5 percent women like being dominant.. I think there would be Switch girls too.. so good like finding one.. I mean it

[Billlewis]

75% of men are dominant? I haven't heard that one. Let me see if I can find anything on it. That's why 'daddy doms' are so popular with young women, because they're not very common, in my recollection.

[Asker]

Well I saw a chart based on research that showed 75% though
Men in my opinion obviously tend to be dominant, in my opinion

[Billlewis]

Yes, sir, Wikipedia has the percentage at 61%, so there are definitely more dominant men than submissive guys.