Trying to end things on a positive note when you know your not getting what you want?

[Anonymous]

i already know that i'm not going to be getting what i want out of this situation but i'd still like to end things on a positive note with this other person. they've been here for the summer for work and will end that in another week or so. which is why i'd like to end things on a positive note with them

although not exactly sure what to say , i'd like to stay in touch but don't even have there # or email and not sure they'd give me anything or not. obviously not the outcome i'd hoped for but would feel better if things ended well

[Midgetmcwidget]

Why are yo not getting what you want?

[Asker]

well i had wanted to date this person but were more just friends although its an odd friendship if you'd call it that

[Midgetmcwidget]

Just tell them, from the sounds of it you have nothing to lose.

[Asker]

that i want to end things on a positive note? or that i'm disappointed in how things turned out

or just ask for there # email anyways and see what they say?

[Midgetmcwidget]

Yea get the contact details and go from there, what’s happened so far for it to be a disappointment?

[Asker]

just never able to get them to do anything with me outside of the place where i knew them , we talked a lot but didn't seem to communicate well and they weren't being honest with me about various things for no particular reason
but when we did talk there , we seemed to get along really well and had a natural connection so it didn't make a lot of sense to me

[Midgetmcwidget]

What kind of job is it? Why just the summer

[Asker]

restaurant , taking a course at college in another area of study. they had lived here full time before going to school and not sure what there plans are post school

[Midgetmcwidget]

Stay in touch, ou never know what may come of it. If the connection exists, don’t let distance out a stop to anything. I had a friend who would travel 6 hours on a coach most weekends to see he guy she loves and still today 8 years later, just make to first move, if it’s meant to be

[Asker]

i know , feel the connection is strong enough to justify staying in touch , not exactly sure how they'll re act , either will be open to idea or not. feel like maybe they need a break from me and might be more open when i see them again

[Midgetmcwidget]

Up to you, you won’t know unless you try. Just chat to them as you don’t know how they feel, might be waiting for you to make a move and wanting more.

[maximumpower]

Just be truthful.

[Asker]

i've tried to be truthful but she hasn't always been truthful with me

[maximumpower]

She's not getting the hint.
Be a bit more clear.
In all actuality, sounds like you need to be very clear and sever ties completely.

[Asker]

i know that i'll miss her though , i've tried to talk to her numerous times , things will seem better for a bit but never really that much better or what i actually wanted