If you had the opportunity to have an amazing love affair or stop before it starts and get out before taking a chance at getting hurt what would do?

[livewire73]

I’m divorced and recently met a younger guy. I didn’t want to talk to him but we ended up clicking and spending an amazing week on an island. He didn’t want to lose communication because we are long distance, and now it seems we keep going deeper. We talk and/or FaceTime every single day. I don’t usually give my heart this way but it’s become addicting. It could be an awesome love affair but I know it eventually has to end. I want to tell him but it would change things and I don’t want to hurt him or myself. He says he is trying to control his feelings but also says he doesn’t want to lose me. It’s getting confusing and complicated.

I’m not sure whether to destroy it now and cut it all off or ride the wave til it crashes knowing when it falls apart it’s gonna be harder on us both. My friends tell me to be careful because he’s 20 years younger than me.
Is there any way to avoid the pain? I wish we never started but it’s too late now

[trustnoone77]

Honestly we all need a friend or someone to talk too after a break up, don’t go with your heart otherwise you will end up hurting yourself!! Take it slow. Age is nothing but a number but the maturity level of someone. You mentioned it’s a LDR I would never do it again, I’ve been there before and my ex fiancé at the time I was fkng his neighbor while having me on the side. Please be careful just don’t rush to anything just see him as a friend someone to talk too. Now if you feel that you are building emotional romantic feelings for him, take time to yourself and back off. Other than that. Enjoy life!!! We only have one. Don’t give a single fuck what anyone else thinks because people will judge you and talk shit! I’ve been there before until I decided to do me!! Good luck 🍀

[ta-ra]

I feel like it will hurt either way at this point. If you end it now you'll always have the "what if" in the back of your mind. But if you ride it out you'll have the finality of it to help you move and recover.
The heart wants what it wants. I say if he makes you happy, then hold on to it. Life is fucking hard as it is mine as well enjoy the fleeting moments of happiness whilst you can! Good luck to you

[livewire73]

I have actually thought about this very thing. At least in the end I can say damn what a ride.

[ta-ra]

Exactly 💯 go be happy!

[ShadowYamihiro]

It is not an affair if you are divorced. Its normal relationship, now its up to you to decide if you want something casual or a proper relationship, with casual feeling can develop and eventually that is either gonna end or you enter into real relationship:either way the possibility of getting hurt is there always

[livewire73]

“Love affair” isn’t always defined as illicit. Just means passionate

[LiamSawyer]

Not sn easy one to answer physical needs and desires are strong but your future happiness depends on much more then that do consider any relationship very carefully.

[smilelots]

is he married or single and if you really like him why not keep it going till you can't. or he can't. just think it was fun while it lasted right.. enjoy your day be good be safe.

[livewire73]

We both like each other but inevitably it’s gonna crash. We are both trying to protect ourselves in our own way which ends up confusing or hurting the other already. But neither of us wants to let go.

[livewire73]

He’s single

[Twalli]

Love what you have as long as you have it. Don't worry about it ending. Even if you have a snowflakes chance in a volcano of it becoming more than just a fling, enjoy it to the fullest while it exists

[msc545]

Enjoy it while you have it. You're making good memories.

[Spongebobssocks]

I have human value. I would never cheat nor would I rape a child

[shades777]

get it while the getting is good, its up to you if you want to spoil your fun

[mobiusforniner]

If you truly love the other person, in your heart you already know the right thing to do.

[zillllll]

Deep question, would I sacrifice what someone has done and given me for someone who’s only giving me sexual arousal

[livewire73]

It’s all the same person.

[zillllll]

Go for it then

[magiusX26]

an affair, such as a fling or a short term thing? nah, i'll give that a mega-hard pass

[Anonymous]

Stop and get out. But to be fair I'm guy. I'm not going to chase some b. s. just because it feeds me ego.

[livewire73]

Nobody is chasing anyone. We just can’t help ourselves and being older I feel like one of us should pull the plug to keep us from REALLY getting hurt and hating each other.

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't say chasing anyone. I said chasing some b. s. (frivilous feelings).
I'm not judging you. Do what YOU want to to do. Yeah you told me your situation. But you said "What would YOU do". Well, I'm telling you what i'd do.
I'm not you.

[livewire73]

👍🏽 Got it

[Alex8736]

If it's a no strings attached friends with benefits I see nothing wrong with it

[love_conquers_lust]

Love isn’t involved. It’s a sexcapade.

[Iron_Man]

Nothing at all I dont do that i’m loyal