What to do if you see your partner as a friend?

[guitar]

We do not see each other that much, and I realized that I see my girlfriend as a regular friend. What should I do?

[fabio]

Firstly, it's essential to reflect on your feelings and understand whether this shift in perception is temporary or a deeper, long-term change. Feelings in relationships can evolve, and sometimes, couples transition into a more companionable phase.

Empathetically, open communication is key. Have an honest and compassionate conversation with your partner about your feelings. Express your desire to maintain the friendship and connection you have while acknowledging the changes in your romantic feelings. Approach the conversation with kindness and understanding, as it can be challenging for both parties.

Together, you can decide whether to redefine the relationship as a close friendship or explore ways to reignite the romantic spark. Whatever you choose, remember that empathy, honesty, and respect should guide your decisions and actions.

[ohsheeT]

First thing is stop and realize what you just said

First of all true friends are hard to find
Second of all she better be your friend she better be your best friend

Because when you're in a relationship that's what you want some friendships are tighter and better than a relationship
That is because you're more open more honest you can say what you need to say without worrying about hurting each other's feelings and they're being an argument of some sort

In any relationship you have to be friends before anything else most people just fall into love are they think it's love and they skip the friendship part and somewhere down the road they start to clash because they're not who they thought the other person really was

When you have a true friendship first
That means that is true respect true loyalty true love.
And then that's when you add everything else to it
A true friend you can say anything you want to and you say it in way that they understand it without an argument of fight and then you say it with respect and clarity

Look back at all the relationships you've had and they didn't work out

Is it because you didn't have true friendship. In the beginning you just jumped right into love our pseudo love is that what you're looking for I don't know I would look at it different if I was you

But at the same time your question could mean two different things but I would reevaluate and I would also reevaluate her and the relationship that you do have with her you might have something that you don't know you have.

[ShadowYamihiro]

simply tell her that, staying with her means it will only hurt more as time passes by. You need to be honest here and admit how you feel. You might even stay friends if you do it properly, just be honest, say that you don't feel that spark between you 2 and you would like to be friends

[Anonymous]

Figure out if you wanna stay with her or leave.

If you wanna stay with her, communicate this thing you’re going through and make a mutual effort to reignite the spark (sexual and romantic attraction for each other)

If you wanna break it off, tell her and tell her why.

Don’t forget to factor in her time, feelings, and plans at life. Make sure you don’t waste her time and stay considerate of her feelings. I’m not saying to avoid the issue to “not hurt her feelings” but more that if you don’t see your relationship headed where she wants it, to choose your words and manner carefully when you do break it off. She may hurt in the moment, but you won’t waste her time and her life on a dead-end relationship.

[Ozanne]

If you've lost the attraction and the romantic love seems like it's too much of a struggle to obtain, then in fairness to you both, you should talk to her and fix it, or talk to her and end it. For all you know, she's walking around thinking you're it for her, and you're denying her a chance to find better love. You also! You both shouldn't settle on a lukewarm relationship for the sake of just having one, or afraid of hurting each others' feelings. Can you live like this for the rest of your life? If your answer is an honest no, then you know what to do.

[Sonorous]

You break up & date someone you're actually attracted to more than a friend¿

[Singing_Hollow]

Either you need to stay with her or move on. Dont keep her on a leash. If you are going to stay then make the effort in having a romantic relationship with her that way you won't see her as a friend only but also as a romantic lover.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well, figure out why. If that's not going to change, figure out if that's all you need from a relationship. If the answer is no, you two need to break up.

[Bubbles45]

If you feel as though the relationship isn't going as far as you intended, then breaking up when it be such a bad idea. You can still have a platonic relationship with her if she's okay with that. 🙂

[Bubbles45]

*breaking up wouldn't be such a bad idea.

Apologies for the autocorrect.

[provokeesmokee]

Break up with her. It's okay. Not all relationships last forever.

[Jkgordon]

That means you are not into her romantically there’s no chemistry just stay friends

[JosyJosy]

Try to see each other more. Or call it. Find out where that's coming from, what's lacking.

[Drumlin2001]

Talk to her, explain your concerns and see where the conversation goes

[HelpfulWoman]

well then end it.

[Sugarberry37]

I will continue