Do you always ask for your husband or your wife's advice before making certain decisions?

[sheikalana]

[Anonymous]

In our household, no. At least w most decisions. I work alone, she takes care of us at home. She looks to me to lead our family in almost all situations. So far I’ve done well. I think we’ve been together long enough, 15 years that I know what her answer is going to be just like she knows what my answers will be as well. I may ask her for advice once in a while, but that’s not all that often. I think it’s worked for us w out me putting that pressure on her, especially in dire situations. As her husband, father to my kids, to keep them protected, to keep that stress off of her.

[caring__1]

Partners work as a team. Without that teamwork, there is no partnership. No unilateral decisions are made that might impact the other person. The last thing I'd want would be to cause my partner discomfort due to not considering her thoughts and feelings about any important issue.

[Ozanne]

Yes to some thing, no to other things. If some of my decisions are going to affect him or take a substantial hit to our bankroll I discuss it with him, just as he does with me. Otherwise, for small decisions like whether or not I'm going to go out for dinner with a friend, or go to the shops, I don't need his permission, and don't consider that a decision he needs to weigh in on. I do inform him though. It's not like I walk out the door or do certain things and disappear for hours, leaving him to wondering what happened to me. College roommates do that. Not couples.

[ta-ra]

Yes, we are partners. What affects one affects the other. Relationships to me is about open communication, friendship, love and trust. Just like I'd ask a family member or friend for their input why wouldn't I ask my significant other? He would share my life, my home, my ups and downs. I feel your significant other would have your best interests at heart because when you succeed you succeed together or if you fail you fail together.

[AviatorTom]

On some topics, I ask my SO for her advice, topics where she is more knowledgeable than I am. I don't always ask her advice though. I'm confident in my own decision-making.

[Apple1996]

Not really. I just do whatever I wanna do cause my husband doesn't care

[Avicenna]

Only important decisions that require her to be on board

[RoseySarah]

Not really I consider their feelings and thoughts on the matter but I don't always ask them about it!

Most choices can be changed so if it is a promotion or new job I take it and talk with them latter... my choice can be changed if needed!

Better to act and get it then miss an opportunity 😉

[Lliam]

When it comes to big decisions and things that effect both of us, of course. My wife and I are a team.

I run lots of smaller decisions past her, too. She's smart, asks good questions, and gives valuable feedback. Two heads are better than one.
It's not like asking for permission. It's more like "What do you think about this?" We just value each other's knowledge and judgement.

It works the same way the other way around. She does the same thing.

[BoopBoopBeep]

In my last relationship I did. If I'm changing something about the house she's in it seems rude to not ask for her opinion on the matter. Ultimately, my money, my house, but I'd like your opinion on it. Same with some of the rental properties we bought and a couple of my art pieces.

[Finchie40]

Respectfully , a married couple or a committed relationship should prioritize each other when it comes to making decisions before just assuming you are right and your partner is wrong This is one of the problems with most relationships , just because you assume something is alright it might not be alright for your partner , so for a healthier relationship you should always prioritize each other before making decisions

[molonski2]

I don't have a wife , but if I did , on certain major decisions it would probably be good to consult , buying a car , moving house..

But , I run an investment business , and I'm general manager , I certainly would not consult there , because this is my job , although this is the stuff that can have the most consequence.

[Singing_Hollow]

Not married but I do ask my partner for advice in the most important things because I tend to make decisions based on emotions sometimes and he is more logical. He does the same and he sees how much I respect him by coming to him first.

[gayesblog]

As I care his opinion, I usually ask him but I prefer to make the final decision myself :)

[LazerBean]

If it is something big, then of course always. If it is something small, then if I'm not already sure how he will feel about it I will still ask.

[Anemone978]

Usually.. because I like to hear his views.. not that I always listen to him but I feel he is clever and has helpful information for decision making...

[DubiousIntentions]

Depends on what those "certain" decisions are. Taking out the trash or having a baby. It's the important ones that affect the both of you that need to be discussed.

[Simslover92]

Sometimes I do because he's been my best friend for years before we got together and I have always gone to him for advice. He's not my husband by the way just boyfriend.

[Anpu23]

I usually ask my wife before making decisions, and certainly consult with her before making major ones. Even business decisions are usually discussed.

[Rei13]

It depends on what it is. If it is important of course I do just like he would with me. We are a team.

[electromagnetic]

I do. Sometimes, I like to hear my partner’s input. Especially if it’s for big things or new changes

[Bubbles45]

Not all the time, but on occasion I'll ask my boyfriend for his input on a topic I don't feel comfortable making on my own without his say as well.

[whirled_up_girl]

I'm not married but if I were I probably would ask their advice on things.

[inhua]

guys are mostly saying yes and girls are mostly saying no. interesting

[Ironic_Method]

Of course. Having someone to gut check big decisions is a good idea.

[Pudsmucker]

I have for the last 45 years. We discussed the facts and press forward. Even new employment or better employment opportunities. We even discuss the situation at hand about our business.

[Bricealan]

That is the only way to have a lasting relationship! Of course I do.

[RedInnocent68]

Absolutely! Major financial, anything with kids, or that may have a significant impact on her time or our time together, always.

[JosyJosy]

If it's a big decision, of course. Because most likely he's going to be a part of it.

[ohmyguy]

I'd think it's wiser to ask.. even knowing or assuming one gets an unfavorable reply..

[LoverOfBooty23]

I’m not married. But if I was I would definitely involve my partner in decision that affects both of us.

[boobliker]

Not At all I make my own mind up about most things.

[Sparkie460]

We always discuss everything before we pull the trigger on anything,

[whistlingwh0res]

If he or she wants to go orgy then they have to ask their partner if he or she wants to go together.

[Cheerfull009]

If for both, I consult my wife, if my personal, then no

[Ava1993]

Yes especially when it’s do with you both. Plus it’s communication it works.

[lightbulb27]

Yes… impacts her too and has good ideas.

[JackCarter]

Always , except for those in my profession

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Yes, and he also does with me.

[strateguy632]

not always, only if it affects big money

[Agape93]

Only if it affects them

[Subwayco]

Yes of course.

[exitseven]

It is more like permission not advice.

[Guido]

The important ones are always discussed.

[Anonymous]

yes and i do the opposite of what he suggests

[Anonymous]

I do, they can help but desicion is still on you

[007kingifrit]

i would probably yeah

[In_Trance]

It would depend on how much it affects them

[azgınteke]

Of course, joint decisions should be made.

[jimmy2]

I always do

[KrakenAttackin]

@jimmy2. Note the difference of your answer to the women above. The women don't give a fuck.

[jimmy2]

Not sure about that

[Anonymous]

Advice yes.

[Anonymous]

no. what for?

[MissBoogus]

Usually

[swettannie]

yes i do

[dudeinohio]

Sure

[Iron_Man]

Sure

[krin_m]

Not really.

[eagle1951]

use to

[Anonymous]

No I don't