Is it appropriate for wives to ask their husbands where they're going?

[Vegasrunner]

[modeunae]

Just a simple, kind, lightly and tenderly pitched: notices he's getting ready and all that

"Oh. Where're you going? 😊😊"

In a kind and respectful manner. She shouldn't ask him like he has a bedtime and should be home when she says so. She should always be respectful and show him that she respects him and the man of the house and of her life. I know this might sound odd, typical, or "chauvinistic" as some might say, but if you want a happy marriage, then this is what you do.

Don't talk down to your man. Never do that.

[sage2021]

@Vegasrunner
Ok, you don't have to tell anyone where you are going. But if you happen to end up in the hospital badly wounded or sick, please don't call her for help, cause then you'd have to tell you what hospital you are at.
Just be your own man and take care of yourself in the hospital.

[sage2021]

**correction**
have to tell you
Should be you'd have to tell her
Sorry, ma phone is messed up

[modeunae]

@sage2021 If I ended up badly wounded or sick-- I'd call my mates. I wouldn't call one of my girlfriends, so you don't got to worry about that.

[Vegasrunner]

@sage2021 Lol, ill keep that in mind but If I'm already in hospital why would I need to call for help?

[CalmUntilAbused]

I mean... The possible options should be known before the marriage occurs. If this kind of question has to be asked, something went very wrong at the initial phase of the relationship. Unless... After a few years, He starts coming back home drunk and not in high spirits. That might invoke the question whether there is anything eating Him out... Oh well... It's not exactly a question of where He's going, I guess. Marriage is for responsible people.

[DubiousIntentions]

A husband and wife should be as one, and there should be no secrets between them for the most part. So therefore, it should not be an invasion of privacy to ask her husband where he is going. Now if he is carrying a box of condoms, that is especially true.

Where do you think you are going with THOSE?

[Paris13]

lol It's Legal Like your Marriage with a Partner. xxoo

[Vegasrunner]

@Paris13 My apologies the question asked if it was appropriate.

[Paris13]

Appropriate when Married, @Vegasrunner xxoo

[Vegasrunner]

@Paris13 TY so you're saying this is another reason men shouldn't get married?

[Paris13]

Tanks, Gag. xxoo

[Vegasrunner]

@Paris13 TY for supporting male independence

[ohsheeT]

Only if her husband doesn't enough respect to tell her where he's going

[OlderAndWiser]

I think it is appropriate for spouses to ask each other where they are going, when they will be home, etc.

[sage2021]

It's not like she's asking her for her approval or permission. It's just a simple question when he's getting ready to go somewhere.
Now, if the shoe was in the other foot and she was going out somewhere and he asked where she was going, he would expect to know.
See, with men though, they are subject to lie about where they are going - which is usually the case.

[sage2021]

With crime so high, both of you should you be telling each other where you'll be without them asking you.
If a husband or live in boyfriend won't say where he's going and won't say where he's been, then you can be sure he was somewhere he shouldn't have been!

[Vegasrunner]

@sage2021 I can understand if a man ask q woman because if something happens he's going to be responsible for her safety. Women can't protect men so not sure why she would be allowed to ask.

[sage2021]

@Vegasrunner
WOW! Your wife has to have your permission to be "allowed" to ask where you're going? Well, I can tell you are abusive and if she's not too afraid to leave you she won't stay married to someone like you. If you're trying to prove your masculinity, that's not the way to do it!
You must be doing something you don't want her to know about - either you have another woman or drugs - dealing or selling. Otherwise she should be more than welcome to call her own husband, or ask where he's going. You probably lie to her anyway if she asks you that.
All of this is really familiar to me! Same kind of abnormal situation! He was cheating and doing things with drugs. If you happen to go somewhere and she doesn't know where you are and you are unlucky and get poisoned by Fentanyl she won't know where her dead husband is right?

[Vegasrunner]

@sage2021 Lol, I certainly am not foolish enough to want a wife, as there's no real benefit of marriage to men. The question was hypothetical, and no, I wouldn't allow anyone to ask me where I'm going, as an adult man I go where I want when I want. I can't speak to your issue, but my advice to you would he to try to select men that aren't doing drugs. Hope this helps.

[sage2021]

@Vegasrunner
I don't see why you keep saying that her asking where you are going is asking for permission or approval to leave the house.
Now, if she says "You need to tell me first where you're going and if it's ok with me if you go" that would be asking for approval. Or if you said "May I go down to the strip club and hang out with the guys for a while? That's asking for permission.
Why are you so hung up on this "I'm a grown man" thing? Did something happen in your childhood where you wanted to go places and someone told you no! "You can go when you're a grown man, but not while you're living in my house"!!! 🤬

[Vegasrunner]

@sage2021 If she's one of my women, then she wouldn't ask at all because she knows the result. I didn't spend my life building value to have to explain myself to anyone let alone a women who has been given her value by life. TY for proving my point, in my house I come and go as I please, not sure what's so complicated about that.

[modeunae]

Every man who doesn't think a woman has the authority to "keep tabs" on him isn't your abusive ex-boyfriend or husband.

Relax and get a life.

[modeunae]

I agree with you. Men protect their women so a man is within all his rights to ask where she's going and with who. In fact-- his woman (not implying that his monogamous) SHOULD already be going to her man, telling him where she's going and with and why and IF-- I'll emphasise: 'IF' his okay with her venture. This is the way it should be. She shouldn't walk up to him and tell him: "Ey-- I'm going here, there, and it's with my girlfriends. See you at 10."

You're joking yourself. Learn to have respect for your man.

Women, on the other hand, don't have the same kind of authority and reasoning to ask and want to know where their man is going. She can ask if she's genuinely asking, and genuinely wondering where his going, but she can't demand. She is HIS woman and he is her MAN. Whatever kind of asking she does, it better come in a soft, sweet and kind; honouring way to her husband/man/boyfriend. You don't come 'ere shouting.

[Vegasrunner]

@modeunae You got it

[Drewtate]

Yes of course. If you Mr wife didn't care you got a problem.

[WindAtMyBack]

She shouldn't need to ask. It's just polite to tell people when and where you are going. It doesn't matter if they are a spouse or just room mates. If they are going to work every day, there is no reason to say anything. But for other things it's just polite.

People don't seem to do that as much any more. It used to be the norm.

[Flatmanlewis]

It’s both appropriate but also, I think in a healthy relationship, probably unnecessary. They should be pretty open about what they are doing most of the time.


Also, going out on a noon Monday is a different thing than a 10pm Saturday. Context matters too.

[7Phoenix7]

Of course it's appropriate. They are husband and wife, not complete strangers.

[Akothee005]

I think the husbands should be the ones to make it a habit to tell their partners where they are going and not wait for them to be asked.

[Vegasrunner]

@Akothee005 Lol, yea cause me. Love to go from one mother to the next.

[Kayla45]

Appropriate to ask? Yeah. But does he have any obligations to tell you? No. Just like he doesn't have to know where I go either. It's a two way street. Either you know where each other goes, or you don't. Simple as that.

[Vegasrunner]

@kayla45 I wouldn't allow one of my women to not let me know either she was going it's to dangerous for me.

[Kayla45]

Well ultimately it's up to her though, is it not? Just like how you can choose not to disclose your location to them either.

[Vegasrunner]

@kayla45 She would either comply or I would get rid of her. If I women is fortunate enough to get my time she needs to play be my rules or leave. That's literally why guys need to learn to build their value. LV guys have to deal with that stuff, when your at my level u just replace the girl.

[Kayla45]

Sounds like a bad trade deal then if I'm being honest, probably wouldn't be a healthy relationship

[Vegasrunner]

@kayla45 I'm sure for some it may feel like that, however that's why as a man it's important to have options.

[ArrowheadSW]

It is normal and appropriate. If a spouse is heading out the door, it is reasonable for a spouse to know where the other is going. Doesn't indicate a lack of trust necessarily.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

In normal relationship you dont need to ask

My boyfriend tells me right away where and with whom

The same as me

Why you ask this as if its an issue?

Its a problem for you when wife/girlfriend asks that?

[Vegasrunner]

@ItsMykolaJenkins I asked if it was appropriate. I personally wouldn't answer to a female about my whereabouts.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

Why not? are you 'charlie big balls women are meant to stay in the kitchen with the kids' type of men?
If so please stay single forever😂🤣😂🤣

[Vegasrunner]

@ItsMykolaJenkins Lol, I'll never be single. Woman always gravitate to HV men like me. But no I don't answer questions about where I'm going. It's probably that attitude that attracts so many women to me.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

Weird insecurity you have but ok
Cheers

[Vegasrunner]

@ItsMykolaJenkins That's simply a shaming tactic women use when they hear information that makes them feel bad.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

I dont feel bad, i couldnt give 0 fucks about you... i feel sorry for your current or future girlfriend.
You are braindead, you lack importance in my eyes therefore your words mean nothing to me.
Dont try to see something that isn't there, ok.
I get that your ego is hurt but thats not My issue.

[Vegasrunner]

@ItsMykolaJenkins If that was the case you wouldn't be weighing in on this topic. It's unfortunate that you're emotionally tied to my standards but this only prove that most women make decisions based on emotion vs logic.

[modeunae]

Look at all your name-calling. All he said was he'd never answer to a woman about his whereabouts, but here you are-- talking about how much of a fuck you don't give about him, calling him braindead and all that shit.

You're a wicked woman, and you deserve hell.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

@modeunae im not wicked im fair

[normalice]

Seems like a normal civil polite question to ask.

[Fireguy17]

sure, I let mine know all the time, and she does the same.
Not sure why, maybe it is just a courtesy thing or it's just what you do.

[EmmaMary]

Seems like a normal civil polite question to ask.

[Vegasrunner]

@EmmaMary Maybe in Prison but asking a grown man where's he's going is a normal question?

[EmmaMary]

@Vegasrunner

Totally... If my husband hasn't already mentioned that he's off out and where, then I more than often ask him.

Naturally this works both ways... It's simply called Communication.

[bros26]

Grown man also behaved like mature man it's a simple communication..

Ugh this days people take everything to their ego..

[Vegasrunner]

@EmmaMary I can understand him asking you especially if he's the provider, but seems odd for you to ask him. Are you in one of those 50/50 type marriages or is he an Alpha Male that handles all the financial responsibilities?

[Vegasrunner]

@bros26 If you need permission to leave your home that would probably fall more on the immature side no?

[IslaTheWitch]

It's inappropriate for wives not to ask their husbands where they're going.

[Vegasrunner]

@islathewitch This explains why less men are choosing marriage, who wants to be an adult that needs to answer to someone every time they leave the house.

[jshm2]

Yeah, how the fuck else are they supposed to know when to expect them back, and what they can pick up on the way?

[blueonblack22]

If he’s acting suspicious maybe.

But if she is continually paranoid for no good reason that’s a different story. That can actually drive some guys in the wrong direction.

[Unit1]

Seems like a normal civil polite question to ask.

[sheikalana]

Yes! And it's also appropriate for husbands to keep us updated.

[Vegasrunner]

@sheikalana Sounds miserable, this explains why men seem to be rejecting marriage more.

[sage2021]

@Vegasrunner
After reading your answers here I can see you are not marriage material at all.
In the United States it's a perfectly normal thing to ask your husband where he is going if he's going out for a while.
It's not like you are asking her permission to leave the house. Well, I won't go on explaining it to you because you just don't get it - duh!! 😔

[Vegasrunner]

@sage2021 The divorce rate in the US is 50% w/ women initiating them 70% of the time. Perhaps this is the cause for such a high rate of failure.

[sheikalana]

@Vegasrunner the world is bigger than the US. There are other countries where marriage rate is pretty successful.

[Vegasrunner]

@sheikalana Typical those are 3rd world countries where women have less options.

[sheikalana]

Don't be so close minded. Is really not how you're assuming things to be.

[Vegasrunner]

@sheikalana Lol, if I was "closed minded" I wouldn't be asking the question. You believing your personal experience is reflective of the world is closed minded.

[JacobJordan]

I always tell my wife where I am going in case she wants to come with me. It is common courtesy

[TacosRAwesome]

Yeah of course. Why shouldn't she know where he's going.

[Date_a_Snob]

I agree

[Vegasrunner]

@TacosRAwesome Not really relevant to her responsibilities

[TacosRAwesome]

What are her responsibilities? Especially if you're living together what's so hard about telling your partner hey I'm going to get some shit from the shops or hey I'm going with Bob for a beer?

[Vegasrunner]

@TacosRAwesome Yet another reason not to live w/ a women. Her only responsibilities are to look pretty, cook, clean and don't be annoying.

[TacosRAwesome]

Sounds quite sad... Being annoying brings me way too much joy to stop.

[Vegasrunner]

@TacosRAwesome At least you're willing to admit it most women refuse to.

[haana]

yes and it’s also appropriate if husband letting know their wives where they’re going

[slatyb]

She shouldn't have to ask. If he's afraid to tell her, the relationship is in serious trouble.

[DaBiggestBird]

Of course it is, but taking out a flame thrower because he has a Ding-Dong addiction is just ridiculous

[Phoenix98]

So long as they're respectful about it I don't really see an issue.

[SolitarySolace]

Only if husbands can ask their wives there they’re going too

[The-Stud]

Yes it is and I hope the husband tells that without asking

[Anonymous]

sure. but they don't have to answer, because they are free to do so

[AnusNdaPainus]

Yes.

I just leave and tell her to call if she needs anything

[Anonymous]

Of course it is. You can bet he will be asking her.

[Anonymous]

Yes. It's respectful and fair to let your partner know

[Pterodon]

She shouldn’t have to ask

[grega239]

Sure just not constantly

[Anonymous]

Lol this even a question? 😂

[lightbulb27]

um... yea...

[Berweic]

Nooooooo

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yes.

[Minahh]

Obviously

[RebeccaSJ]

Yes.