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Should husbands trust their wives when they go on a “Girl’s” trip?
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Of course not. Cuckoldry is the fate of males the animal kingdom over. In study after study of species after species, the idea that females are naturally devoted to their one and only mates has fallen to growing evidence that many of the world's supposedly monogamous females, including human females, are guilty of their share of indiscretions.
Yet in spite of these findings, many biologists, especially male biologists, held out hope that some males might be immune to this kind of treatment by their mates -- particularly the exemplary, hard-working fathers.
But research reported in the Proceedings of the Royal Society shatters that dream. Although the diminutive males do everything to care for the young of their raucous, beefy females, these males are cuckolded. Under some circumstances, the researchers found, males had a 74 percent chance of raising another male's offspring, a mistake in the evolutionary race to perpetuate one's own genes.
“It's about as bad as it can be for these guys,” said Dr. Peter Wrege, a behavioral ecologist at Cornell University who wrote the paper with Dr. Stephen Emlen at Cornell and Dr. Mike Webster of the State University of New York at Buffalo. “A male stuck with doing all the parental care should have a very high certainty of paternity, but in fact, that's not the case.”
Dr. Patricia Adair Gowaty, behavioral ecologist at the University of Georgia at Athens, who described herself as having made a cottage industry of writing about mating behavior from the female perspective, called it “absolutely fascinating,”
“The females are really in the catbird seat,” Dr. Gowaty said. “They seem to be getting whatever they want.”
In some species, males appear to keep track of such things as strange males lurking around the territory or the amount of time the female spends out of sight to assess the likelihood that the female is mating with another male. And when males sense trouble, they sometimes do not work quite so hard to feed the young, letting their cheating female pick up the slack. Females, meanwhile, appear to go to great lengths to keep any transgressions secret, sneaking copulations when their mate is not around and even soliciting copulations from other males in their mate's presence only to make a grand show of rejecting them.
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I don't know when "girls trip" became a meme but it's odd to me.
A girls trip was more or less a thing that was for single girls. Not girls in relationship. Having a girls night tho ( no clubs or bars involved) was hanging out at the house, maybe going to get some food, legit just using this time to catch up and spend time with the girls.
Guys were not involved. But there was always a girl or two in the group who fucked it up by inviting a guy to come see her and the other girls would get pissed because they "promised" it was JUST the girls.
So by and large girls night was always more of a guideline. The goal was to be just the girls. But it often breaks down. And girls night at a bar or club is never a girls night lol. Because men are inherently involved.
Same by and large for trips. If they are going out to bars and clubs. It's not a girls night. It's a night at the bar/club without you. And maybe you can trust your girl, but she's putting herself into a position to be tempted and have something happen.
Girls with character who are honest can acknowledge that's true.
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I dont even see why married people need to go on trips without their spouse unless its work related. If you need a days break from your spouse, surely take it, but i’d want him in bed next to me by that night. What are girls trips even really? They could easily spend a day at the spa. What is needed overnight? And after Brokeback Mountain, i wouldn't dare believe two guys just really went on a “camping” trip 🤣
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Yup! Women aren’t complete senseless DOGS and PIGS like they are.
So it’s unlikely that a woman would cheat.
Of course unless she sees BRAD PITT which is unlikely, because the majority of men are 💩.
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Well, it depends.
How well is the trust between the husband and wife? How long has their marriage lasted and what kind of obstacles or issues have they faced and resolved together? There’s several things that need to be asked to answer the question. Naturally, I believe it is normal to have a healthy amount of apprehension or suspicion when it comes to either the husband or the wife thinking about their spouse potentially getting involved in something intimate or sexual with another person whether intentional or unintentional especially in certain venues that may facilitate this such as clubs,
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This highly depends on the context of this "girl's trip". What are they going to do? Clubbing? Drinking? Or just sightseeing?
I know my girlfriend isn't the type to do stuff like go clubbing, dressing provocatively when going out, drinking or whatever. But if her girlfriends decide to do this and try to pressure her, I wouldn't allow it. Well, actually, I wouldn't need to not allow it as my girlfriend would never let herself go with such friends, to begin with.
If they are only going to do some sightseeing, swimming, restaurants, then I do not see why she shouldn't go. -
No, but just not “no” but rather “fuck no”. “Girls trips” and the many varieties of this are known to be situations that women take advantage of to cheat. Everyone wants to pretend this is not a thing because acknowledging that it’s true doesn’t really make women look good, which is precisely why the truth about this particular topic is suppressed. It’s also the reason why men (or even women) who say women should not be trusted in “girls trips” are accused of “misogyny”. Accusing someone of “misogyny” is nothing more than extension of the shaming tactics women use to manipulate men into accepting things they really aren’t ok with.
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This is one of those questions that is difficult to give a general answer to. If she is committed to the relationship and is not throwing red flags several times a day sure why not? A gal needs some time with her BFFs from time to time. If, however, she is setting off your "spidey" senses then I have to change that answer to maybe. To be fair this question and my answer also applies to men as well as women. The thing is though if your mate is throwing red flags most likely they checked out already. I know a guy that did this a while back. She wanted to take a short vacation with some friends. he said I can't stop you, but if you go I won't be here when you get back. She went, he moved out, and filed for divorce. To this day she regrets doing that!
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Your relationship is already just about over when you get to the point where you WANT to go on vacations without your spouse.
That being said a girls event ie knitting bible study is totally different than girls trip to vegas. My girlfriend has girl time where she knits with other women at a womans house. She also goes to bible study for women. I allow her girl time. I do not allow her to go to a club drunk with a bunch of ho bags. Duh. So like spring break with the girls is not even close to acceptable.
Womens nature is to get away with as much as you let them get away with. If you tell them you can't control them and they go on a girls trip they are likely to cheat since you act like a simp. I trust a woman to behave like a woman. -
A woman's desire to rid herself of the men in her life is rooted in two truths:
She craves life without him.
She finds his presence burdensome.
If she's at this point, divorce is inevitable. It's inevitable that she will reach this point. Marriage is cage. All cages rust. -
I used to have two small dogs, and when I left for work, I had to lock them in separate rooms. If I let them roam the apartment together, they tore the place apart. Peer pressure is a powerful thing. You can trust your wife all you want, but do you trust the girls she's going with? The road to hell is paved with good intentions.
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Fact is a woman can cheat anyplace if she is so inclined. It does not matter if she is on a trip with friends or at work near home. You either have trust or you do not. Want to prevent your woman from cheating? Its not rocket science really. Just treat her with respect and never take her for granted.
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It does not matter if you are a man or a woman if you start questioning if you can trust your partner on any level, you need to rethink that relationship and do a self inventory. Because you might be dealing with some trust issues that will destroy that relationship if you don't get help to fix them. Even if your partner is 100% trust worthy.
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So, personal experience says:
Please Gooooo. Here’s my money clip if I didn’t pay you enough per blow job for the last 6 months. GOOOOoooo ✈️ and the virus 😷 is finished in Thailand…. and you still can work remotely and lodging is free…. you 3 will have a ball…
JUST GOOOO 👋 bye 😘 -
Why be with someone you couldn't trust?
It goes the other way around, I would want to be with a guy who could go on guy's trips without me having to be worried about him getting it on with someone else. -
I think husbands should trust their wives all the time.
If you don't, don't make her your wife.
Trust is a very important part of a healthy relationship, and if you don't have that with your spouse, then why are you with them? -
No. When girls are together they talk about boys. Even if they're already involved with a guy. They'll be calling other guys cute behind his back while "shopping."
"Shopping" doesn't just mean for material items when it comes to women. They're seeking their next fling. - 549 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.
What difference does it make if you are talking about cheating?
You think she can't cheat on you with the dude next door or the guy at the gym? LOL
I will say this regarding "trust" if a man or woman in this case of your question doesn't trust his woman then just end the relationship or don't get married.
You're just wasting time for the inevitable. It's going to end bad anyways when there's no trust. -
Well if you don't trust her then you must know there's issues? Really there's no way to know what they would really be doing so in a way what's the point in even making it a should I trust or not. But if you still do then that really depends on your history with the wife and if you feel you have a healthy relationship with her
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If you don't trust you wife, why did you marry her?
Of course I would trust my wife to go on a "girl's" trip. In fact, I have. She's entitled to have like-minded friends. And I know my wife. She isn't about cheating. -
trust YOUR judgement.
"husbands trust your wives".. that's not what the bible says and we all know why... it says love your wives! Loving your wife might mean not trusting her:)
I did not say... don't trust your wife... -
Why marry someone if you obviously don't trust them?
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Trust but verify... but yes of course in general you should trust them unless you have reason not to. Some marriages are better then others, and some men are just as bad as some women.
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of course, why would anyone marry someone they can’t trust?
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