My fiances co worker invited him round to fix her fridge, am I being insecure?

[Anonymous]

My fiance fixes stuff like appliances etc, one of the women there asked my fiance if he'll pop round to fix her fridge instead of her calling someone out which makes sense, she's a receptionist and he sees her everyday but isn't overly close to her I assume.. she's older than us too by another 10/15 years, she's assuming he'll do it for free as she said she has alcohol if he'd like to take some home.

Is this normal/just friendly? Why couldn't she have asked any of the other workers there? Am I just being insecure?

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He told her how she could fix and she still said 'can't you just come round' might not be good with fixing stuff herself?

[Hulk_kitty]

I can understand your concern with the situation, but if your boyfriend is a good a fixing stuff like this, then what's the problem him fixing someone's stuff who need helps.

It doesn't sound like you are insecure, but more like you don't trust your boyfriend/fiance to go around and fix a close friend or collegue goods.

my philophy on subject like this, if you don't trust someone, then you shouldn't be in a relationship with them, or getting married to them.

Just cause a guy is close to another a female, don't automatically assume we want to shag or that we are attracted to them. I am close to a lot of females, but I don't want to shag them.

[Asker]

That's true.. I just think its because he's never really mentioned this co worker then he tells me he's going round hers to fix something for her, and in my mind he's a very attractive guy who's very good at his job so I worry that women have ulterior moves when they ask something like this, plus she's asking him to basically do it for free which I find odd as I wouldn't ask someone to do it for free unless I was close with them. But then his job says he's not allowed to offer paid services outside of work so do you reckon it's because of that/that's why she hasn't offered to pay him?

Either way I'm sure she knows he's engaged, and he's told me everything I need to know and how he doesn't really want to go but didn't want to say no as he sees her everyday.

I know I need to be more trusting, I find it hard though. I think it comes down to my own insecurities and I am trying, it's nothing my fiance has done to make me not trust him, he's a great partner, just struggle to trust certain situations due to things I have been through.

[Hulk_kitty]

You can't worry about him possibly cheating on you, and what you can do, is trust yourself that you can handle it.
If you uncomfortable about it, just talk to him about the situation without actually accusing him of doing anything. Just communicate to him how you feel, but without accussations.

if my girlfriend felt uncomfortable about me doing something, I would want her to communicate that with me, but without accussing me of possibly cheating. You need to communicate about the situation, so you both feel comfortable about it. Maybe say something to him like, I don't mind you go round this to fix her appliances, but going fowards, she needs to find unknown trades men to do the job.