What to do if you can't stop loving a man who rejected you three years later?

[catarecute]

i can't stop loving a man who rejected me and called the police on me stalked me and is now married. we haven't spoken for three years and i still love him. i want to stop loving him.

[Anonymous]

Called the police, rejected and stalked you? He’s married and you still love him? You’re hanging on to something that despite everything else he’s done, there was a positive which you aren’t finding elsewhere. I don't know what your life is like in the dating world, or even in other places, but you have to move on. You do that by accepting what it is rather than hanging on to hope for an alternative outcome one day. There will be another man you connect with on an even higher level, it’s just not your time to wet him yet. Maybe that means working on other areas of your life, bettering yourself, so you’re in the right place when you meet him.

[catarecute]

thank you so much i know that you are right. i know that i am hanging on to this hope that me and him will live together eat together watch Netflix and hug and have loads of children and one day die together. deep inside i know it will never happen like that.

[sheikalana]

Do you really love the man or do you love the memories you share with him? Seems like you're stuck in the past. Three years is a long time to waste thinking of someone who rejected you dear. Have you tried dating other people?

[catarecute]

its a weird storry because the guy was in a cult and he was sosiopathic. i think he was and even might still be playing games with me. i think he is talking me to this day. he made me feel in love with him like psychopath do to their victim with love bombing. i look back now and feel like i dodged a bullet. i know i would have been miserable if i dated him. the fact he ghosted me means he had a shit personality and i wouldn't been miserable. i know that now and am actually glad we never dated but it was still a shocking experience that is hard to get over.

[sheikalana]

You're stuck in a fantasy. You're stuck in the idea of what it could have been even though deep down you know he wouldn't be good for you. You really need to move on and start believing there's someone out there for you that's going o treat you how you deserve to be treated. Go out with other people not all dates need to end with kissing and physical affection but go on dates and meet other people.

[shades777]

keep loving i guess, probably isn't love at that point but an unhealthy obsession

[catarecute]

no its love. there isn't such thing as an unhealthy obsession unless its a serial killer who fixate on their victim. love is love. it stays forever. its not obssession and its not sick. no more than watching a hot chinese girl pictures and masturbating over it. i would say thats more unhealthy but people do it all the time and think its normal.

[shades777]

dont have to go to extremes of violence for it to be an obsession, yours is just a non violent obsession

[catarecute]

well maybe it is an obsession but its healthy and natural. our brain purposly falls in love for our survival. its a sign of good health. what on the other hand is not natural or an aspect of naturak survival is to masturnate over celebrities that you will never meet or cut your but cheeks to stick it on your face (plasitic surgery) yet people tell me i am unhealthy then go round doing things like that. if you love at science of love and monogammous spicies you will see that humain being and other monogamous species such as magpies have feeling for one person and stick to that person so form a lifelong team that can reproduce safely. families who fall in love and stay with the same person for the rest of their life are happier and have happier children that is a fact proven by statistic.

[shades777]

well do you

[Vampire_Killing_Time]

You cut him out of your life. I don't want to hear any buts or excuses. If you want to cut someone out permanently, you will find a way and put in the work to get it done.

[catarecute]

how can i cut him out when he is stalking me. i have no control over what he is doing. he is a skilled hacker i think and even with no IT skills its easy to track someone down.

[Vampire_Killing_Time]

Police.

[catarecute]

i know you are him. i dont get what game u are playing. if you want me out of your life why are you stalking me.

[Vampire_Killing_Time]

And excuses again as soon as I try to help and throw out logical solutions.

[Vampire_Killing_Time]

If this is what this community is all about, I better strap in. Why ask questions if the asker doesn't want to be helped?

[catarecute]

you are trying to help someone who is being stalked with an anonymous account of107age and you are wondering why the person thinks you are him.

[Vampire_Killing_Time]

And you are the one asking for help. A person who rejected you, you should have his info to give to the police, just saying.

[catarecute]

i have his info, i know his name last name religion he told me he where he lives. but i dont want him to go to prison. why would i. why would god want him to go to prison. i dont think its god. i think its the devil. the devil is tricking me into sending this poor guy to prison. as for him he is being an idiot for not comunicating with me properly. i feel like maybe he believes i am stalking him even though he is the one stalking me. i heard its a pretty common phenomenon that some stalker think that they are the victim of stalking by there victim. although i had a crush on him and was sending him to many messages as well as turned up at his church which he called his place of work even though its a public place from a religion i was a member off and i was completely in my right to be there i was also trying to help him as i though it was a cult and wanted to open his eyes so he reported me to the police and made me appear as a stalker. the whole thing is confusing. if he had the slight bit of maturity he would send me an email and communicate like an adult.

[Vampire_Killing_Time]

Again... no buts or excuses. You cut him out of your life. "But I don't want him to go to-" No. Stop.

[HateyouxD]

Do you have any mental illnesses?

[catarecute]

i dont know who u are but you are always putting unkind comments. i feel like u could be either the guy or his wife.

[HateyouxD]

I'm sorry for the unkind comments it's just I went through the same thing you did

[catarecute]

i know that he is on this site under a false account. if you are his wife i can love your husband if i want too this is a free world. if you are him. you have put me in great pain. do you trust god that he can cure you from your sosiopathy. i know its hard to understand what a broken heart feels like but its verry painful. i know you was upset when i told you ur cult was a lie and u felt heart broken. i saw how bad you felt. it feels just like that but worst. stop torturing me and ask god to heal your soul.

[HateyouxD]

Unfortunately I'm not him or her. I'm just someone who went through the same thing as you. You probably just gotta move on

[Slootiae]

Who do u love him

[catarecute]

i feel he is my soul mate.

[Slootiae]

Why? What makes him so

[catarecute]

i felt we were similar, he was smart, maybe i know now i was wrong but i can face the truth, its to hard when i felt he was special and now i know he is not.

[Anonymous]

Seek professional help.

[catarecute]

i did but he came back into my life and gave me false hope.

[Opinion Owner]

Then block him.

[catarecute]

i have but he hack my computer