How to make a man regret leaving you when he still loves you? PLEASE HELP

[Anonymous]

We have had many ups and downs, moved into a relationship very fast got pregnant right away..our love was wonderful but we fought a lot. now the baby is just born and we tried again and things were great, then he just made up arguments to then leave again... We just had a baby, I thought he would see things differently. Is he just freaking out about the baby and new responsibility or is he just over me.

How do I make a man that loved me to death go back to feeling that for me..I know he loves me but has no faith in us anymore...how do I make my man miss me and want to be back with me, what works when a man has emotionally shut down? Ignore him, play hard to get, no contact rule? HELP PLEASE

[lavender]

The thing is, you can never get anyone to love you (or fall back in love with you). You will have this man in your life for the next 18 years, since he's the father of your new baby. So for now, just concentrate on your mutual responsibilities as parents. Find a way to get along with him on that level. Let go of the hope that you will win him back.

You are at a very hectic and stressful point in your life (a single mom of a newborn). So focus on you, on your baby, on your friends and support group. When you're ready, date some new guys. Your ex may decide he wants back in your life (or he may not), and at that point, you can decide if he's really worth it.

[butterflies]

Work on yourself - get in great shape, buy some new clothes, color your hair, get your nails done. Work on your career. Become more independent. The more independant and confident you are, the more he will be concerned he is missing out on a good thing. He will start to pursue you instead of feeling like he wants to run away. If he tries to pick fights, go some where nice in your head to ride it out. He will start to wonder why you are not reacting the same way and since your new inner strength. This will be very attractive to him.

[Anonymous]

You cant, you can try and make him jealous see someone else, but if he's made up his mind you can't make him want to be with you, or regret it if he doesn't feel that way...