How can I make my ex regret leaving me?

[Anonymous]

Hey I was dumped and feeling sad and hurt. But I want him to eventually realize he made such a poor decision, how can I do this? I plan to hit the gym hard and just go out and live life make new friends and eventually start to date other men. I was with this man for 9 years. Give me tips please.

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+1 y

No it is for me so I can be happy and feel better but I just want him to see me one day and be like feel regret

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Because of the way I look

[melnc]

Anything you do with the intention of making an ex regret breaking up with you is not something you do for yourself, it’s something you do for your ex. It will come off as unconfident, desperate, and maybe even sad. Your ex will only be more glad they left you. What you should do instead of focusing on your ex is consider how you may have picked the wrong person or contributed to the relationship turning sour. Learn from what you’ve done so you don’t repeat your mistakes. Learning from your mistakes is far more important than what some ex may or may not think of you, because they don’t matter. You do.

[Asker]

Yeah your right Thankyou.

[melnc]

Thanks for the MHO

[boggboss]

You can if u honestly think he left but u didn't look good enough it shows that 9 years meant nothing

[Asker]

I’m not ugly just over weight so you don’t think the gym would be good?

[boggboss]

U can but you shouldn't be going gym for him you should be going for yourself lol

[Asker]

It is for me but I just want him to see me one day and regret leaving me.

[boggboss]

OK let's break this down what Is the reason he ended the relationship?

[Asker]

Because of the way I look

[boggboss]

Your sure he really ended a 9 year relationship because of how u look he told u that and at no point made it clear how u looked was a issue

[Asker]

Yes he was told me many times and I was working on losing weight. He also told me that I make faces when I’m mad and it drives him crazy and I was trying to work on that also. He told me he dosnt see a future with me anymore. We still talk and up until recently we’re still intimate it’s only been 3 weeks and he started sleeping with another girl and she wants him to stop talking to me. So it’s over. I know

[boggboss]

So when your agrey u make a face he dont like and he said he no longer saw a future with you there is no way that was only based on your weight it sounds like u guys had deeper issues that u was arguing about

[Asker]

Well that’s what he told me. And I guess he is just done. He does have anger issues but he apparently said it’s only towards me.

[boggboss]

If he has anger issues only towards you and he is just done going to the gym won't make him regret ending the relationship because your being a bit bug is not the core issue

[Asker]

A bit bug? what does that mean lol sorry? And will anything make him regret losing me?

[boggboss]

A bit big* and in my opinion no even if u become stunning he might regret not being able to fuck u but bit regret not being with u

[Asker]

So u think he won’t regret losing me?

[boggboss]

He didn't lose u if he ended it

[Asker]

So he just dosnt care?

[boggboss]

He broke up with u manged to continue to get sex then started fucking someone new does that sound like he cared

[Asker]

He still talks to me? Does that mean he cares?

[boggboss]

Lol how can u still need to ask with how he has acted

[Asker]

Something in my brain just won’t let me let go I don't know he’s done a lot

[Asker]

So I guess I’m just used to this and think it’s nothing but it is

[Asker]

I guess it’s good to know from others perspective. Just confusing when he tells me he loves me. I know it’s not in the same way

[boggboss]

Meh until u learn to stand up for yourself u will just continue to get hurt and used by guys that know u will stay

[Asker]

Your right I stand up in all aspects of my life just not wit him. I could improve in that aspect moving forward.

[lillucy]

Just focus on yourself and don’t contact him.
guys usually come back around when they miss the girl who treated them good. For me it’s happened over a year to a fee months later

[IJhonnyI]

Listen leave him fully in the pass, if your really doing it for yourself, do it for yourself, go to the gym, mentally prepare yourself for a healthy relationship and stop thinking about him for yourself, he clearly wasn't worth worrying about him and don't try to make him regret it you won't have too cause the day you are happy with someone else and you forget about him is when in the back round he will regret so just concentrate on you and better your self for YOU and no one else

[Fireguy17]

You may not want to hear this, but you ex has moved on.
Personally I think you will be wasting your time and come off as a vindictive person which will only reinforce his decision to leave you.
The only person you will be hurting is yourself, with the wasted time and energy involved.
The best way to show him is to get on with your life and forget him all together.
Otherwise it will appear to him and others you still care, just the opposite of your intended results.

[Asker]

I don’t want to seem vindictive at all, that’s not me… I do still care I feel that I will always but your right he has moved on and it’s time to let go

[Fireguy17]

No one likes being dumped like that especially after 9 years.
But you are doing the right thing, just carry on with you life and the pain will fade.
You

[Asker]

Thankyou so much

[clemdenim]

find happiness within, go on with your life, do not worry about him, it will happen

[Asker]

Thankyou

[Pterodon]

You can’t

[Asker]

How come?

[Pterodon]

He’s happy to be rid of you

[In_Trance]

smh... move on