my ex made a lot of effort in the relationship and only till the end he kind of gave up. I know we’ve been together for only two months but I’ve never felt a stronger connection with someone, have someone treat me as well and share a similar sense of humour. He would get all the food and drive me home or to work or Uber me. Never let me get it myself. We tried to give it another shot but I always feel used and he would get mad when I leave. He needed time before we could reconcile he says because I broke up. I broke up with him because all the text, calls, hang outs went down. And on two weekends he didn’t answer my question so I broke up. I could tell we both had trust issues with eachother. What can I do? I love him so much but he said to move on. The last time we saw I got him so mad, the next day he said he’s going to date another person
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The relationship sounds like it was far from ideal. The fact that you say you "love hm so much" after two months suggests that you are needy, desperately want to be in a relationship, and he fulfilled the role of boyfriend. That is not love. That is more like an addiction.
You usually don't get a second chance at a relationship and, when you do, it usually fails for the same reason it failed on the first attempt. So the two lessons to be learned are:
1. Get okay with the idea that you don't "have to" have a boyfriend. Maybe you should avoid dating for six months and try to become happier with yourself. . . but I doubt you will follow that advice.
2. You give your BEST effort to a relationship the first time around because, once it ends, there probably won' be a second chance.
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I'd suggest you reach out, acknowledge you both have a lot of room to grow and should work together to do that. The focus should be on resolving your trust issues, so study this subject on video, book, therapist, etc.. Also learn about communication, selfishness, empathy, etc..
Your relationship apparently struck some deep chords within each and it's an opportunity to resolve those issues.
Trust is formed around 0-2 years old, so these are old issues.
After 6 months of that, no hanky panky... then decide if you like each other to go forward.
Beyond that, had a hard time understanding what your issues are.
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Maybe time will heal is pain and attitude towards you.
"my ex made a lot of effort in the relationship"
"I’ve never felt a stronger connection with someone, have someone treat me as well and share a similar sense of humour. He would get all the food and drive me home or to work or Uber me. Never let me get it myself."
"but I always feel used"
Um, can you reconcile these statements? Honest question, I guess I'm just confused.
They have Uber in Europe?
By moving on 🙃
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