Would you ever regret leaving your ex and your children? This one is for the men!

[Anonymous]

me and my ex split up over 15 months ago he left me pregnant with my now 1 year old and and a 2 year old. I love him so much iv never really moved on from him always hoping one day he will change his mind, last weekend he came over to babysit bearing in mind he hadn't been in touch or seen girls for 6mths when I returned from night out he asked if he could 'make love to me' so like I fool I gave in day after he just said I'm a male who wouldn't. its really upset me. do you think he still cares but is in denial or has he just used me? and will he regret his decision one day to walk out on us :( I'm heartbroken right now try to put on a brave face for kids but inside I really don't know how much I can truly cope with he was my world :( please help

[Anonymous]

He sounds really rotten and a user. He only made love to you to serve his own needs. I do not know why a man who loved his partner would leave pregnant and walk away, only a cad would do that. I know it really hurts you, but sometimes we love those that hurt us the most.

Is he with someone else do you know? 6 months being away from his children is a long time and the early days and years are important for parental bonding. You need to look after yourself and do not bother with him. Don't give into having sex whenever he calls, as he will only use and hurt you further still.

Does he care about you? Umm well lets see, he left you when you were pregnant and also his other child, he comes back when he feels like it, has sex with you and says something that hurts you and then leaves ...I do not think they are the actions of someone who cares?

Is he older than you? Is he having one of those "I want to recapture my lost youth and single life' times?!

I feel sorry for you, I really don't like men who leave their partners in such a way and treat them in such a manner that only is self serving.

You need to look after yourself first. Talk with friends and family, get support. Is he paying child support? I hope he is. He is responsible for your children if they are his. You need to work out shared access to the children, dates, times etc. It is hard I know, as you seemingly have feelings for this man who walked out on you, I think if he loved you, he would not have done such a thing.. You don;t need to look for anyone at the moment. Just concentrate on you and your family for now and enjoy your children. They are a blessing.

I thought I would also include this link for you. If you can have someone babysit for you or perhaps bring your children along to some of the meet ups. You could meet with new people and make new friends. It will get you out of the house.

To join the group is free and most of the activities are free too. You just look for something you would like to do or you enjoy and watch for the next meet up and then go along and get to know other people. Its fun.

link

I do hope that you will be OK. Take care

[NerdyJock]

umm. well my dad left my mom, me and my sisters and what I've been told by my uncle who still talks to him, he said it was the worst mistake in his life. I honestly don't know why he said that because he doesn't make any effort what so ever to have any type of relationship with us and if we would call him we would have to talk to his new wife (the women who he left us for, FYI she's an UGLY b*tch) but what my mom says, she thinks he just got into to far and felt he didn't have a choice, then she says I don't care because my boyfriend got money coming out the butt (no she's not a gold digger, the dude is extremely cheap, he does help my mom but she would only take it if she had no other options)

[Asker]

Hmm I feel so lost maybe just how your mum felt all that time ago :( missing the family thing :( that step mom and dads thing doesn't appeal to me

[NerdyJock]

Yeah my mom was pretty lost I guess, it does help to talk, I know I would listen to my mom and try to make her feel better when things were going really bad, so yeah I would just find someone to talk to, especially on the hard days it will make you feel better,