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I ran into my ex not long ago. We exchanged number and ended up having dinner together. Something that I with held from my husband. Now I find myself thinking about my ex more than my husband.
You shouldn’t have hid this from your husband and you need to tell him what happened even if he becomes angry you shouldn’t be keeping secrets like this especially if the encounter was innocent enough.
Now, you could be emotionally cheating especially if you consider it a date not just a casual outing with a old friend. You need to stop this before it turns into physical cheating yes it happens when emotions come up but for what ever reason it was that relationship ended and you’re married now.
You need to discuss your feels with your husband be respectful about it but you need to just tell him what’s on your mind he deserves to know especially because you made the choice to sneak around. If you did more then have dinner then you really fucked up and just need to tell him to do the right thing.
You need to break your feelings to your husband I don’t care how hard it is if you feel bad about it that means you still have good in you. You in my opinion should stay married and do what you can to work through this before it leads to adulatory. At the end of the day if you cannot control yourself file for divorce. If you feel you’ll be happier with someone else then your husband deserves to find someone new as well.
Yes it’s going to hurt him but it’s going to hurt both of you even worse later down the road. Just remember that the grass is greener on the other side if hypothetically you divorce your husband and 10 years later you ran into him it’s very possible feelings would come up again as well.
If this man is willing to cheat with you the chances of you being cheated on are very high because it shows where both of your honor and integrity are.
I’m afraid this is where I am heading.
And you should be like I said tell your husband everything. Even if the truth hurts if there is any chance of working through this you have to.
Don’t be a coward and own up to it.
If it ends in divorce at least you both can find someone you’re happier with.
Summer don't waste your time.
@Alwayreckles93 I mean you’re right if she chooses to reap the consequences later in life. This is on her….
Summer you are correct
@Alwayreckles93 I had another married woman who blocked me. Beverage she was pulling similar stuff. It’s a sad reality I hope her husband and kids heal when SHTF….
Sunneroflove you are a liar and a warlocked. You practice black magic you told me in a comment you mess around with black magic.
Summer I. So so sorry I meant that comment for this love user or whatever I am so sorry. Oh and she practice black magic she told. me.
And this individual love user practice black magic.
@Alwayreckles93 it’s all good I’ve done it before especially with private messages
@Alwayreckles93 those people are weirdn
Sadly, you cheated on your husband already , by you keeping secrets from him , by not telling your husband that you are going out with your ex to dinner , so the only reason you are thinking of your ex? is because you allowed yourself to cross that boundary , by investing your time into an ex , over investing your time into your husband. Whether you hooked up with your ex or not , you still cheated on your husband , by allowing yourself to go out to dinner with your ex , and you clearly know your husband would be devastated if he found out. Think about how you would feel if your husband did that to you behind your back? So understand , you are the one in the wrong for allowing this to occur. The only advice I can give to you , is to really think about what is more important to you? Your marriage or an ex , that left your ass the begin with? If your ex truly loved you , he wouldn’t be your ex period. Something you should really think about before doing something even more stupid that you might regret.
I didn’t think it was a big deal because my husband and my ex are friend. My husband knew his friend was my ex.
Sadly it is a big deal , whether your husband is friends’ with him or not , Actually that’s even worse to be honest with you , Why friends’ shouldn’t date their friends’ exes period. Your ex probably wouldn’t mind banging you again but understand that’s all it will be , most guys’ do not take an ex back into his life , he might have sex with her again but that’s it so understand whatever you once had with your ex , will not be the same. You both broke up for a reason , whatever that reason may be , is not going to go away , you both can try to bury it , but it will still be there. Why it’s stupid to take an ex back into your life period , Someone that truly loves you and cares about you doesn’t break up with you and go their separate ways , they go their separate ways because they want to test the waters pretty much by wanting to date or have sex with other people. so an ex will only come back , if they had no luck when they were single they realized nobody else wants them , so they try to come back to you , because you are convenient to them. So if you want to be a convenience to your ex , then have sex with him , but the right thing to do , is end it with your husband first , don’t blind side him and string him along because you want to be selfish. Selfishness is one of the number 1 relationship killers So really ask yourself what your husband did to you , for you to betray him that way? Sadly a lot of people have a hard time resisting temptation because people are selfish , and only think about what is best for themselves, they don’t factor in their partners’ feelings , they just do what they feel is best for themselves. So yes you can absolutely choose to be selfish , but understand you will never experience true love with anyone , until you learn to remove that selfishness for your partner. The same way you want them to remove it for you.
Wow. So basically you're emotionally cheating on your husband. You exchanged numbers with an ex AND went to dinner, all behind your husband's back. Shame on you. You clearly do not love your husband and he deserves better.
For me, I am single, not married. My most recent ex I do think of a lot and I honestly do miss. Once you've had time to think about everything, sometimes you see that you were actually better together and kind of regret things that led up to the separation. I admit I wasn't perfect and played a role in the split, but my ex did too. I definitely feel bad for my part in it and I recognize where I could have done better. But I also see where my ex was definitely in the wrong and could have done better too. It is a 2-way street. At least neither of us cheated.
Best answer thanks
@Alwayreckles93 Thank you. You deserve better too for the record. If you are truly NOT happy in your current relationship, you need to end it. It is unfair to both of you to stay when you know deep down you should go.
It may hurt your husband, but honesty is a whole lot better than lying. Lies will come to the surface eventually as well. You can only live a "double life" for so long before your cover gets blown.
It is best to just be honest. Just make sure you are making the right decision. Make sure this ex is worth all of this.
You have to remember - you married your husband for a reason AND you and your ex are no longer together for a reason. Can exes reconnect, reconcile and be happy? Totally! It happens a lot. But you have to make sure it is truly the best decision.
Don't make a spur of the moment decision you may end up regretting. Divorce is a big deal. Make sure you truly want to do that before you jump the gun.
Good luck to you!
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Anonymous What? Why would you think that? I don't understand I am happyly married with my husband. My ex try to kill me And he abused me now what makes you assume I want to go back to my worst enemy. Girl I had to place a restraining order on my ex. My ex is NOT! a nice person. Why would I expose my self to get murder again?
Anonymous I lovey husband and I will not abandon my husband over my abuser. What makes you think I want to go back to my abuser?
@Alwayreckles93 Then why did you say you exchanged numbers and went to dinner with the ex behind your husband's back?
I never said that you idiot! THAT WAS USER THE LOVELYWOMAN You idiot! LEARN TO FUCKING READ! FUCKING DUMB ASS!
Anonymous get your fucking idiotic ass I even made a comment on this hoes post. You retard!
TheLovelyWoman tell this dumb ass show her your ass is the one who made this post not me.
Anonymous are you serious that STUPID? I never said that.
@Alwayreckles93 Seriously shut up and calm down. It was a literal mistake of usernames. Get help for your insane anger issues.
Anonymous No Karen the one that needs therapy is you!
@Alwayreckles93 Um no. When you said "best answer thanks" to my comment, I mistook you as the asked. Literally not a big deal, so you need to chill.
Anonymous I am one of the Jehovah's witness. So it was your mistake.
@Alwayreckles93 this person claimed to be a child of God, but full of rage and anger. Wolves in sheep clothing.
@Alwayreckles93 Don't care about your religion whatsoever. I apologized and said it was a mistaken user name. Let it go.
A person of God cheating on her husband is a wolf in sheeps clothing. You even said in PM’s you’re scared of other church women judging you. But look at you judging
Stop projecting and REPENT
Or burn in hellfire
You choose. Because you claim
To be holier then thou while cheating at bare minimum emotionally on your husband. Stop being a wolf in sheeps clothing and a HYPOCRITE
You’re the kind of person Jesus warned us about
@Summeroflove Liar I don't even know who the hell are you.
TheLovelyWoman Your the wolf in sheep's clothing you whore! . at least I was a virgin.
TheLovelyWoman when I married my husband. You I bet you have disease.
You all are narcissistic.
Oh and by the way guest are free to bring along their kids at weddings child-free weddings should not exist. My ex friend decided to have a child free wedding guess what my husband and I we can care less we showed us at the wedding with our kids anyway.
Summer I am so so s sorry. I meant that for love user.
TheLovelyWoman you hope you better not threw a child free wedding if so then your a narcissistic human.
We are not young, grow up. And you broke up with him for a reason. If you both good enough for each other, you won’t married to someone else. The grass is always greener on the other side.
We broke up on good term. I was ready to settle and he was not. I feel like he was the only one I truly love.
There is no broke up for good , either you are the wrong person or he is the one. If u wasn’t ready, that was the past and that was your fault. And now u married to someone else. Respect him, respect your marriage. Life is a choice, if you have chosen, live your life and appreciate it.
Itsannalee This woman I bet $1000 she wasn't even a Virgin when she married her husband. Yes an ex is an ex for a reason yet this Karen is calling me judgmental.
@Alwayreckles93 I have exes so of course I am not a virgin. I know many Christian girls who are not a virgin by the time they are married.
@Alwayreckles93 I never claimed that I was a virgin. My husband and my ex are friend. My husband knew what my ex and I did before I married my husband.
TheLove what domination or what kind of church did you attended? It must be a demonic Satan 👿 church. If you were a real Christian you would know the law of chastity or in other words wait until marriage. Those girls you are talking about they are not real Christians. Fake Christian you all are the example wolfs under sheep clothing that's what you are. But seriously what so called church did you attended?
@Alwayreckles93 I will tell you in PM
I know it's a satanic church that's for sure
The love I suspect you must be a witch. You practice sorcery. Yeah you are going to hell. I bet your ex is a warlocked
@Alwayreckles93 no one is perfect. “On hearing this, Jesus said to them, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” Mark 2:17
The love but you practice sorcery right?
@LadyKitty false fake Christians exist. Good bye. Stop being a Karen
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You're living dangerously. Think seriously about your life. Would you be better off with your husband or your ex, remembering why he became your ex.
Absolutely not. I left my ex like 10 years ago and not once did I ever wanted to go back to him.
It sounds like you are unhappy in your own marriage and trying to find an excuse to leave. Though it sounds like you are already emotionally cheating and with holding info like that you know you DID wrong.
I can tell you are Catholic. Yeah your a typical slut. No wonder why Christians are advice to stay away and not interact with whores like you. You are the good prime example you can't turn a whore into a house wife. If you were my older sister I would disown you.
I’m not a catholic. I am a Christian.
Thanks for judging me without knowing me.
Oh you mean fake Christian or should I say Jezebel! Yeah Jezebel matches you perfectly.
Wow so judgmental.
No honey I am not being judgmental all I am saying is the truth.
Thanks for your inputs anyway. 😊
Welcome karen
TheLovelyWoman Oh I am not judgmental go say that to my ex friend Karen. Who decided to be a bridezilla not allowed children at her wedding I didn't give a shit I decided to show up to the wedding with my kid's. I pay so much money for an airline ticket just to see a Karen bridezilla yelled at my son. My son didn't do anything wrong. She was over reacting over a stupid $2,000 gowny son didn't not jump on her stupid dress on purpose it was an accident.
m I think this potentially happens to couples, would the grass have been greener, that chance of something extra, the what if question, and the temptation. It really comes down to how much you value your marriage I guess.
u I have, and I know that it would’ve been miserable. They’re my ex for a reason, life was not good with them. My life is complete with my partner now.
I am still good friends with my ex, but it became very obvious early on that we could only be nothing more than close friends so that we have remained.
I am also trying to remain friend with my ex. However, every time I see him or with him, I want us to be more than friend. Even for just a moment makes me happy.
Huh? Ofc no..
U r 40.. ex is ex not husband its totally different.. what u guys did ain't a good thing.. please dont dissapoint your marriage
Apparently she's acting like a 21 year old college little girl.
@alwayreckles93 ikr! sist thought its boyfriend exbf issue while the fact its husband issue which is more complex cuz its marriage.. not just dating relationship 💀
Don't do it, don't ruin what you had with him by trying something now. You are both different people then you used to be and the grass is rarely greener on the other side.
Plus if you cheat on your husband with him, he will see you as a cheater and a slut. So he will not pick you as his person, he will just use you for sex. Don't Do it! I'm telling you, you will regret it when he ditches you and your husband divorces you...
Well, I would hope at 40 I understand why I chose my husband over my ex. 😭
Wtf…😭
I would choose my ex over my husband any day. At that time, my ex was not ready to settle and my husband was the second option.
Well, then…
Yeah it’s life.
Your husband was a second option Oh this is going to be a fun conversation can I say therapy time?
@Cuminginside we tried
You're happy with your husband You get excited or a flame for your ex Do you think there is a good possibility you could lose both maybe your ex is playing with you trying to get back at you and listen don't think it's not possible It work for Ted Bundy it can work for your ex he could be playing with you so you could ditch your husband And then your ex when the time is right he'll drop the boom on you aka ditch you for ditching him all those years ago. You better know what you're doing little girl because I sure as heck don't. Did you pray on it if that's your thing?
@TheLovelyWoman "not ready to settle" means you weren't good enough for him. That's why you're hung up on him still. You didn't settle for your husband, you just found your equal.
@BetaBucks maybe. Not to mention my husabnd and him are friend
Sweet DO NOT LISTEN TO THIS INDIVIDUAL SHE IS A HORRIBLE EXAMPLE. YOU should follow in my foot steps I do volunteer president of womans ministry at my church. I hope I can be a role model for you.
@Alwayreckles93 Yes, ma’am! 🫡
@TheLovelyWoman I know it's none of my business, and with all due respect. This will lead to nothing good.
Not exactly. I close my eyes and imagine my ex when I'm having sex with my wife. Otherwise the stimulation just isn't there anymore for me.
Your husband's fault for not being good enough for you. Your fault for taking advantage him and expecting to have it both ways by not being honest.
There's a reason they r ex n not the current partner honey...
Slippery slope... Keep it in your memories.
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Don't feel too bad. I jerk off to sex videos of my ex all the time.
THIS, THIS right here, is why men don't want to get married anymore.
Do your husband a favor and divorce him.
You are a terrible wife
Yes , i wonder it oftentimes
Lots of kids and mental instability, I expect. 😂
All men are gigolos. Ex=husband
Depends on which ex
do think about your ex sexually now?
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