Would you prefer a guy to have had an ex before?

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SemiParanoidi · Accepted Answer

It would be one hell of a journey for two inexperienced twerps to start dating. It'd be exciting to figure out things together!
But It's fine to me if a guy had had his own history before dating me. They might not have been in love to begin with, if they had eventually broken up. Though there's always the possibility of cheating, abuse or their ex died, but I'd do a background check! :D

Butt- it would be a major turn off to me if a guy had had sex with many girls before. Firstly our views of sex and love would differ drastically. Secondly our libidos would definitely not match. '-' Thirdly I value more other forms of connection than physical touch. Fourthly? I'd get extremely self-conscious over my perfomance, and that would ruin a whole lot of things.

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

In society the gap between getting a boyfriend and getting a proactive boyfriend is huge.

I thank my partners exes for 'training him'. Not even sexual ones, little things like getting accustomed to. Like any girl you date will probably need a pad any given month, so why not just always have a pack in the trunk of your car? Why not assume she might like backrubs (like your ex who asked you) or that its important you plan a date every Valentine's day before waiting the day of wondering why she's mad at you. Not all heros wear capes.

I would even add, men with sisters are literally the best because they're just 'used to' being around real women wifh expectations, with gross habits, with a sense of humor.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

The fact that you've banged hundreds of girls makes more girls want to bang with you, which sort of says something. Not all... but most, the exceptions don't make the rule. They chase status in men waiting for them at the finish line. Men seek status so they'll want us at the finish line.

Kabluie · Accepted Answer

Experience matters, and relationships before age of 18 won't always last.

Justneedtokno · Answer

Everybody has a past everybody has a history. I think it’s like guidelines to a relationship and what you expect and don’t from someone new. I’ve only had one eX and no real long-term relationships (besides family and friends) so I still need to date some more

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I’m not here to teach someone how to be in a relationship. And I’m not some weirdo who wants a virgin boyfriend/girlfriend who’s inexperienced in everything. People who want that are usually manipulators/narcissists. I’ve had plenty of exes, so I expect my partner to have exes aswell.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Most first relationships fail because people don't automatically know how to be in one. It has a learning curve. Besides showing you know how to be in a relationship it also shows you are desirable. Women will wonder whats wrong with you that you haven't been able to get into a relationship. Its basically the same reason jobs want to see your prior work history. They want to know that you know how to work and that you know what you're doing.

Anonymous · Answer

In general terms, I would, but it depends on a lot of stuff.
I usuallu like older guys so would prefer him to have had 1 or 2 serious relationships before because men do tend to be very immature in that aspect if they never dated before. From my experience, guys who had girlfriends at least once tend to treat and understand women better, handle conflict better, act more romantically... But if he just had a bunch of flings before then I would be unsure about going out.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Absolutely. At my age, I refuse to be someone's first partner from here on out. They've gotta have experience, lessons, learnings. It's not an unreasonable ask at my age, in my opinion.

Kittykay_45 · Answer

I’m sorry but I’m not here to teach someone how to be in a relationship. Been there. Done that. I want some seasoning on my man

Anonymous · Answer

No I wouldn’t like it, it fucks with me that he has been intimate with someone else. I’d be too curious to know what happened between them and why things didn’t work. Per

DizzyDesii · Answer

Its not necessary but i think i’d prefer he been kissed at least once before. Its nervewrecking being someones first kiss. I can be his first sexual partner but his first kiss is different

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

I would not. I mean, I doubt I'll find a handsome 30 year old virgin but I wouldn't mind being with a virgin guy who hasn't been in love yet.

Anonymous · Answer

Those girls who voted yes lack self respect and are pick me up girls. These bitches won't hesitate to steal another women's partners. Those girls encourage polygamy and are sluts themselves.

wheresmrcunnunglis · Answer

wouldn't matter to me either way since I would not want to hear about their damn ex. Im with them here and now in the present.

Blackcosmo · Answer

I don't care much about their dating history as long as they love me and will be loyal.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes 3 or 4. But if he was messing around I don’t want him. If he has a history of cheating wouldn’t touch him with a 10-foot pole.

idkIoI · Answer

It depends on the age I think. Right now I wouldn't care. In 10 years if I'm not married it might. Seems kind of arbitrary.

Katoro2020 · Answer

I wouldn’t care either way honestly as long as he loved me and only me.

RandomGuy1030 · Answer

Yes cause girls are emotional. You know? They need some conformation or some "social proof" you are desireable.

Quigly · Answer

Guys with many exes usually have kids and child support too. They bring a lot of baggage.

Babywhocaresss · Answer

The reality is many people have had relationship experiences before marriage. So no need to dwell on this. It's time to focus on important things.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Kinda. I want to be end game not training wheels.

SaartjieJane · Answer

Would I prefer that? No.

Apple1996 · Answer

Nah that would bother me

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t care as long as he wasn’t the toxic one.

marie1586 · Answer

it does not matter to be honest

Agape93 · Answer

I don't give a damn

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