Would you prefer a guy to have had an ex before?

[Anonymous]

Yes I would

No I wouldn’t

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1 y

Personally, I think it’s weird why you would want your partner to have been really intimate and in love with someone else. Doesn’t make sense

[Xoxocutekitty]

In society the gap between getting a boyfriend and getting a proactive boyfriend is huge.

I thank my partners exes for 'training him'. Not even sexual ones, little things like getting accustomed to. Like any girl you date will probably need a pad any given month, so why not just always have a pack in the trunk of your car? Why not assume she might like backrubs (like your ex who asked you) or that its important you plan a date every Valentine's day before waiting the day of wondering why she's mad at you. Not all heros wear capes.

I would even add, men with sisters are literally the best because they're just 'used to' being around real women wifh expectations, with gross habits, with a sense of humor.

[mandyfire98]

I'm so glad you brought this up and agree 100 percent. It's not even completely about sex it's just having experience with women period. It always makes me scratch my head when guys who've never really had much experience with dating women just automatically think they know how to do everything and will be the perfect partner.

[Asker]

‘Training him.’ Girls want a trained guy but won’t do anything to train him

[Asker]

I don’t need a girl to train me and yes I have sisters myself

[Asker]

@mandyfire98 so it is about sex? I don’t know girls are weird. Women of today are too sexual y’all suck

[SemiParanoidi]

It would be one hell of a journey for two inexperienced twerps to start dating. It'd be exciting to figure out things together!
But It's fine to me if a guy had had his own history before dating me. They might not have been in love to begin with, if they had eventually broken up. Though there's always the possibility of cheating, abuse or their ex died, but I'd do a background check! :D

Butt- it would be a major turn off to me if a guy had had sex with many girls before. Firstly our views of sex and love would differ drastically. Secondly our libidos would definitely not match. '-' Thirdly I value more other forms of connection than physical touch. Fourthly? I'd get extremely self-conscious over my perfomance, and that would ruin a whole lot of things.

[swettannie]

mens don't really compare that much our perfomance

[SemiParanoidi]

@swettannie Really? :0 That's a huge relief then!

[swettannie]

there is one type that really compare, for a specific reason

[JohnK123]

@swettannie lmao newbie guys aren’t great with performance
@semiparanoidi so ur fine haha

[D_Bone_Steak]

The fact that you've banged hundreds of girls makes more girls want to bang with you, which sort of says something. Not all... but most, the exceptions don't make the rule. They chase status in men waiting for them at the finish line. Men seek status so they'll want us at the finish line.

[Kabluie]

Experience matters, and relationships before age of 18 won't always last.

[Justneedtokno]

Everybody has a past everybody has a history. I think it’s like guidelines to a relationship and what you expect and don’t from someone new. I’ve only had one eX and no real long-term relationships (besides family and friends) so I still need to date some more

[Anonymous]

Yes. I’m not here to teach someone how to be in a relationship. And I’m not some weirdo who wants a virgin boyfriend/girlfriend who’s inexperienced in everything. People who want that are usually manipulators/narcissists. I’ve had plenty of exes, so I expect my partner to have exes aswell.

[Blueeyes81]

Most first relationships fail because people don't automatically know how to be in one. It has a learning curve. Besides showing you know how to be in a relationship it also shows you are desirable. Women will wonder whats wrong with you that you haven't been able to get into a relationship. Its basically the same reason jobs want to see your prior work history. They want to know that you know how to work and that you know what you're doing.

[Anonymous]

In general terms, I would, but it depends on a lot of stuff.
I usuallu like older guys so would prefer him to have had 1 or 2 serious relationships before because men do tend to be very immature in that aspect if they never dated before. From my experience, guys who had girlfriends at least once tend to treat and understand women better, handle conflict better, act more romantically... But if he just had a bunch of flings before then I would be unsure about going out.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Absolutely.

At my age, I refuse to be someone's first partner from here on out. They've gotta have experience, lessons, learnings.

It's not an unreasonable ask at my age, in my opinion.

[Asker]

So you would say no to a guy who’s got his life together and doing well in life because he hadn’t dated other girls?

[Kittykay_45]

I’m sorry but I’m not here to teach someone how to be in a relationship. Been there. Done that. I want some seasoning on my man

[Asker]

Teach someone? What if he already understands values etc? Girls are good for nothing.

[Kittykay_45]

There is more to a relationship then that. There are proper etiquettes to be learned and guys in their first relationships are clumsy at it and I don’t have time for it. Some girls do but I do not. The man I am woth now is older and experienced on dating so I don’t go through those things with him and he doesn’t have to deal with those things from me.

[Anonymous]

No I wouldn’t like it, it fucks with me that he has been intimate with someone else. I’d be too curious to know what happened between them and why things didn’t work. Per

[DizzyDesii]

Its not necessary but i think i’d prefer he been kissed at least once before. Its nervewrecking being someones first kiss. I can be his first sexual partner but his first kiss is different

[Jamie05rhs]

@DizzyDesii What are you afraid of? You're worried he's not going to like it? Lol

[DizzyDesii]

@Jamie05rhs im not necessarily worried. Its just weird if he's never at least been kissed. You didn't have to date the person to at least get kissed

[Jamie05rhs]

@DizzyDesii So what's the issue?

[DizzyDesii]

@Jamie05rhs i would prefer not to be the first everything. Its too much pressure

[Jamie05rhs]

@DizzyDesii You're overthinking. Trust me. You're going to blow his mind, and he's going to run to his boys and tell them how amazing it was. He'll be out of breath and jumping up and down screaming like a little girl lol.

[DizzyDesii]

@Jamie05rhs im not nervous. Im just saying i’d just prefer he have at least done something before. Not sex bt just something

[Jamie05rhs]

@DizzyDesii Why?

[DizzyDesii]

@Jamie05rhs as i said, its too much pressure being the first everything

[DizzyDesii]

Plus a lot of people want something to compare too. I would love to be the first but i’d be okay being the second... the better

[Jamie05rhs]

Hmm. I think you must have some insecurities about something. (I don't say that in a mean way. Just a casual analysis.)

[DizzyDesii]

@Jamie05rhs i dont. Its just cringey if he hasn't done at least something. By something im saying he couldve had only one kiss in life from a girl or he couldve dated a girl for one week and that would count as something. Just something

[Jamie05rhs]

@DizzyDesii So you're saying it turns you off sexually.

[DizzyDesii]

@Jamie05rhs its not a turnoff. Its just cringey to me personally.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay. I still don't understand the part about the "pressure." But whatever.

[Jamie05rhs]

Also, I don't see how NOT doing something can be cringey. There's nothing there to cringe about. Because literally nothing happened.

[DizzyDesii]

@Jamie05rhs nervewrecking pressure in being someones first everything. Plus i just dont want to be their first everything. Like i said, first sexual partner, sure. First wife, sure. But first girlfriend or first kiss, ehh... i can only teach so much

[Jamie05rhs]

So you're lazy, then. Lol

[DizzyDesii]

@Jamie05rhs not at all. I just think its weird or possibly something wrong with the guy if he hasn't done at least something by a certain age. Either his standards are high af or he could be unattractive or he maybe his priorities aren't straight or something is off. Not saying it applies to all but most. So its just cringey to me

[Jemini_Crocket]

I would not. I mean, I doubt I'll find a handsome 30 year old virgin but I wouldn't mind being with a virgin guy who hasn't been in love yet.

[Anonymous]

Those girls who voted yes lack self respect and are pick me up girls. These bitches won't hesitate to steal another women's partners.
Those girls encourage polygamy and are sluts themselves.

[wheresmrcunnunglis]

wouldn't matter to me either way since I would not want to hear about their damn ex. Im with them here and now in the present.

[RuthlessAggression]

As long as the answerer, has a guy who will ea her out, she's fine

[EmyyWolf]

Yes 3 or 4. But if he was messing around I don’t want him. If he has a history of cheating wouldn’t touch him with a 10-foot pole.

[Blackcosmo]

I don't care much about their dating history as long as they love me and will be loyal.

[idkIoI]

It depends on the age I think. Right now I wouldn't care. In 10 years if I'm not married it might. Seems kind of arbitrary.

[Katoro2020]

I wouldn’t care either way honestly as long as he loved me and only me.

[RandomGuy1030]

Yes cause girls are emotional. You know? They need some conformation or some "social proof" you are desireable.

[Quigly]

Guys with many exes usually have kids and child support too. They bring a lot of baggage.

[Babywhocaresss]

The reality is many people have had relationship experiences before marriage. So no need to dwell on this. It's time to focus on important things.

[TacosRAwesome]

Kinda. I want to be end game not training wheels.

[Asker]

Girls are so weird.

[Asker]

You want a guy to have fucked other girls. Why would you want that. I wouldn’t want a girl that’s been touched

[SaartjieJane]

Would I prefer that? No.