Had a horrible argument with my now boyfriend, feeling really shaken up from his words, what should I do to get past it?

[Anonymous]

I had a horrible argument with my now ex boyfriend yesterday. It was really horrible and it came out if the blue. He got angry because I wouldn’t see him when I was working. He said that I only want to meet him when it’s convenient for me (this is untrue, I said I am free anytime outside of work). He said I was no longer his type anymore and said it’s all childish games. He also called me stupid too. I know he is nasty but I just feel very shaken up from what he said. What should I do to cope?

[Miristheiss]

Well, I don't know.

IF... IF you two were still dating I'd suggest a real heart to heart about the rules of arguing and having disagreements. You still have to respect each other while you are having a disagreement. You can't start name calling and accusing each other. That is something you two would have had to work out. About your situation you should have remained respectful towards each other, tried to see each others perspective and side of the issue. Tell each other what you honestly want in the relationship and how certain things make you feel. Keep brain storming about the issue and see if you can find a compromise. If you don't reach an agreement on one day, agree to table the issue for a few days and then re-visit it later.

Since you two are over... there is nothing to cope with. He is just someone you used to know. Move on.

[Staximus]

Relax, nobody died. Nevermind that shit bird. Any guy who demands your attention when you're trying to work is a childish idiot. You don't need to do anything to cope besides move on with your life and forget about his stupid shit.

[DaBiggestBird]

I thought he just roasted you but this is actually big d-bag moves on his part. Just face the reality he was another dude who serves little significance in your life besides teaching a wee lesson that probably needed teaching. Just know you’ll get through these difficult times, keeping a positive mental really makes all the difference. Seeing everything in a positive light actually does help and you barely have to cope with things because you’ll already be healing. It’s like when Deoxys regenerates.

[Asker]

Thank you so much. It really is. He strangely hasn’t removed me from Snapchat etc yet but I don’t want to talk to him after that. I will focus on healing, thank you!

[DaBiggestBird]

You are welcome but Jamm I have to say, what a plot twist. Whenever I try offering advice and admit I’m not even 2 decades old, people automatically put me down as a dementia patient and dismiss what I have to say like Sleepy Joe dropping the ball with his presidency. I truly luxuriate in the fact someone has found my business accommodations helpful. Speaking of boyfriends though, if you are patient enough and just focus on yourself to become a Giga Chad (good follower of Christ who treats everyone kindly), it is almost a promise God will bless you a man who can actually appreciate and love you as God wants us all to. A man of God won’t drop you as soon as a difficult occurrence paves its way into the path of salvation. He will forgive you and never leave you like a real Giga Chad husband, and for sure provide more support than a random teammate in Rocket League or Apex Legends. The flashbacks……. Anyways, I hope you do good and thank you for listening.

[DubiousIntentions]

You said "now" boyfriend in the question, but "now ex-BF" in the details. Which is it? If he is not your boyfriend anymore just let it roll off your back and never give him the time of day again. Don't be one of the stupid ones and get back together with him, or you will be complaining again in no time. So just kick him to the curb while saying V

[BoopBoopBeep]

"He got angry because I wouldn’t see him when I was working... he also called me stupid... What should I do?"

Seems pretty much a non-event. I'm sure of the 8 billion people in the world a great many of them would think you're stupid. Do you have to DO anything there? No, you just go on about your day because it doesn't matter what they think.

[HippoDino]

He dumped you because of multiple reasons that built up, i really doubt he said all that simply because you wouldn't see him at work one time that was justnthe final straw. As for coping with it just try and improve some part of your life or try and start a new hobby. You will forget about him in no time.

[slatyb]

"He got angry because I wouldn’t see him when I was working... he also called me stupid... What should I do?"

He's a spoiled child. Dump him so you can meet an adult.

[lightbulb27]

take some space to re-center, and try to figure out what the heck is going on...

[boggboss]

Move on accept he wad a shitty person and clearly not mature enough to be in a relationship

[Paul09]

If this person is real, and those were the actual words being said. Dump his ass. No need for a adult toddler in your life

[Anonymous]

So does the deadbeat bum have a job himself or does he freeload and mooch off you? Just dump the manchild you're better off then dealing with that childish asinine pms drama from him. Buy him a box of tampons and midol and tell him to chill

[balyai]

That's not true. Don't act like a victim. No one will want you to meet them when you are working. Tell the entire story in your post you idiot!

[Anonymous]

Dump him and dodge a bullet. He has some serious issues.

[Solo3k]

You live in tx?

You can cry on my shoulder bby 😌

[Still-alive]

He sounds way too immature. stay away.

[msc545]

stop talking to him.

[Danny_dan92]

Life’s hard