How do I behave like an adult in a relationship?

[Stanley]

My girlfriend thinks that I behave like a child and should behave like an adult in our relationship. But I don't believe that I act like a child. What do you think she means? We are both in our 40s, so not child any more...

[experience]

It's great that you're looking to navigate your relationships with maturity. Here's a friendly tip: communication is key. Make sure you express your thoughts and feelings openly, and be a good listener too. Understanding and respecting each other's perspectives will help your relationship grow. Remember, it's okay to compromise, and being supportive goes a long way. Wishing you all the best in your journey! If you ever need more advice or just want to chat, I'm here for you. Take care! 😊

[Random_g]

Stick to your role as a man and bring the feminine side of her by taking care of all the thing that lead women to be "strong independent woman" ...

Especially women in their 40s are already tired of financial/work life and secretly just want to be led and spoiled.

Ps. It may be just her being toxic if it was for no valid reason.. so i advise you to sit and talk about it with an open mind , try to know what does she mean without getting offended and you may know more about her ideal type and what she wants in a man , or you may figure out that she may be just toxic and a judgy person.

[yikesyikesyikes]

Well most guys are childish which is okay I guess but it does get irritating for girls because you constantly have to take care of them. So it really depends on how you behave. Do you wash regularly? Do you spend all your free time gaming? Do you also pitch in to wash the dishes? Do you also help make dinner? Do you clean up after yourself and put your washing in the laundry basket? Do you brush your teeth? These are generally the things woman get irritated with and makes us feel like we living with a child.

[SotiCoto]

It is a trick. A paradox even.
For you see, children obsess over being older than they are, while adults obsess over being younger. So anyone who tells you to behave like an adult is themselves behaving like a child. And the surest route to maturity is to not try to be mature at all.

[slatyb]

I think it means you need a new relationship. She's not your parent. It seems you have rather different ideas of appropriate behavior. What do you do that bothers her?

[IslaTheWitch]

What does it mean to behave like an adult?

If you earn, help, take responsibility and bear consequences it's quite an adult behavior.

Maybe in 40s people lose this feeling of being an adult? Do I miss something?

[Nikki1989]

Most of my friends are male and almost all the people are work with are male are most of the men I know under the age of 30 and nothing but big children. I see and hear it all the damn time. But you are 49, so you should be over it by now.

[wiltingrosepetal]

Don't let your emotions get the best of you and when there's a dispute, agree to disagree. Nothing says immaturity like a person who argues over everything and won't stop until the other gives in

[HelpfulWoman]

ask her because frankly how the fuck should we know? not being able to communicate like this could be considered childish though!

[EmmaMary]

Just start acting your fucking age... Simples.

[RavVid]

i have had similar remarks a little while ago. It really meant I should take her shit

[Stefan181]

Welllllll she needs to clarify why she thinks that 🤷🏼‍♂️
Communicating like adults in a calm manner should fix it

[Juxtapose]

You are a grown ass man, don't let some woman tell you how to act or what to do. If she doesn't like it she can hit the road.

[DextroShade]

She is just trying to shame you into doing what she wants. It's disrespectful and you shouldn't tolerate it.

[YAsQuen]

she wants you to act like a women. DO NOT DO THAT. She will like it for a few days and then shell lose ALL RESPECT for you and u guys will break up.

[Anonymous]

Next time she says that just say, " I'm rubber you're glue whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you".😆

[BoopBoopBeep]

Seems like a great question for her.

[exitseven]

It is one thing that has always eluded me.