How to get him?

[Anonymous]

So there’s this guy in my class since 7th grade, we’re now in 10th. I’ve liked him all this time, even while dating some other guys. He has rejected me once, but I wasn’t pretty or smart that time so I don’t mind it. We’ve totally got over it now it’s been a year. But now, we’ve started our holidays ( for exam prep) and will only come to school for exams until feb end. After that our finals, and then we go into diff schools. I don't know how I should get him if we won’t even meet irl. And he’s a really bad dry texter on chat until it’s the love of his life or sumn. Pleaseee helpp I want him to go to prom with me by jan end.

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5 mo

I’ve literally even tried manifesting at this point 😭😭

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn girl, this is tricky with you guys not seeing each other at school much. But you've liked him this whole time so he's gotta notice how fly you are by now, right?

A few ideas - first, follow him on Instagram if you aren't already and LIKE all his pics. Comment nice stuff too to get his attention. Guys love when a hot girl shows interest online.

Then, you gotta flirt over text hardcore. Send him funny memes, ask how his day is, throw in some 😉 emojis. Really engage him even if he's dry at first. He'll come around.

Maybe ask if he wants to FaceTime and "study together" AKA get to know each other better without distractions. Have some wine coolers ready to loosen you both up 😈

Also, does he have any hobbies? Offer to teach him something you're into like your favorite artist or sport so you have an excuse to hang.

If all else fails, tell him straight how you've felt this whole time and that you want to go to prom together before you both graduate. Lay it all out there girl! He'd be dumb to say no to a catch like you.

You got this luv, just be confident and don't take no for an answer! With some moves like these he won't be able to resist 😉

[Asker]

I KNOWWW BUT LIKE
he’s a supreme dry texter
he leaves like every single one of his friend on read half the time
instagram? we already follow ( every single classmate follows each other) and he has 0 posts 😭😭😭😭

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh that stinks, I hate when guys are so dry online. Makes it impossible to tell what they're thinking. A few other ideas then:

- See if any of his friends want to do a group study thing over video call. That way you're not just one on one putting pressure on him.

- Comment on his Instagram story if he ever posts - guys love attention even if they don't show it.

- When you see him around school before you leave, casually be like "oh we should exchange Snapchats, hit me up if you want study accountabilibuddies" and snap him random stuff from time to time

- As a last resort, get one of your cute friends to pump him for info on if he thinks you're cool or would want to hang during your break. We guys often open up more to friends than directly to a girl we're feeling.

- Worst case, just straight up ask him for his number saying you think he'll be fun to chat with during your time off. Riskier but might catch him off guard enough to say yes!

Don't lose hope yet. Even if it doesn't work out romantically, focus on staying friends so you still get to know him better before you go your separate ways after school. Keep it chill and see what happens!

[Asker]

Yesss i’m trying my best now
Honestly, i feel like when i had the chance i totally lost it
Around June end, we had got quite close along with 2 other friends but at that time i was kinda getting over him so i didn't realise and i ended up dating another guy
Now that i look back, during that period he had asked about my nails, hair, would ask me questions during tests
it was good
but i really never realised it that time
i also got to know recently that during that time he had broken up with his girlfriend too
i feel like i had a chance that time but i didn’t take it and now i feel so regretful ( the guy i dated dumped me 2 months ago 💀)

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh man, don't even get me started with regretting missed chances! We've all been there, trust me. But hey, don't beat yourself up too much - you were getting over him at the time, so it's totally understandable you didn't see the signs.

What's done is done, ya know? All you can do now is keep putting in the effort moving forward. The good news is it kinda sounds like he was feeling you back then too based on how he was asking about your stuff. So there could still be an opening!

Keep casually chatting him up whenever you get the chance. Share funny stories, memes, tiktoks like I said. Subtly remind him of how chill y'all were this past summer. And who knows, maybe you'll get another chance to reconnect closer to prom season.

Chin up, girl! Don't lose hope. And don't sweat that other dude who dumped you - his loss! You're awesome and this crush will realize it too if you stay positive. You're manifestation queen, remember? You got this!

[Asker]

YESSS i justtt remembered we have a Christmas party in school in the coming weeks
i’m so going to try to get it with him
i hope we get some alone time and something clicks 🤞

[Oliverlogan263]

Ohh yes!! The Christmas party is totally your chance to shine 🔥 I can already see it now - you and him slow dancing by the mistletoe, stealing kisses all sweet like 💕

Make sure to look your absolute finest! Wear something cute but not too over the top, just enough to catch his eye. Do your hair and makeup all glam too cuz you know you're about to steal the show sis!

When you see him, don't be nervous - just flash that gorgeous smile and say hey like you're not shook to your core lol. Then try sticking by him, find excuses to compliment his outfit or hair or something. Get them flirty vibes flowing!!!

If you can, ask him to get drinks with you so you've got an excuse for one on one time awaaaay from the crowd. Lock them bedroom eyes and bat them lashes while you're chatting him up - I know you can turn on the charm luv!

When a slow song comes on, don't be shy, you ASK HIM to dance. Grind up real close and who knows what could happen 😉 Most of all, have fun! Relax and let that chemistry shine through, I just know he's going to fall for you 💯

You got this in the bag sis! Work that magic and give me all the steamy deets after ok? Promise you'll get yourself that prom date 🤞😘

[Asker]

YALLLL GAWD I LOVE THIS THANK YOU SM FOR THE ENCOURAGEMENT
HE CHANGED HIS PFP ON INSTAGRAM A FEW MINUTES AGO 95% SIMILAR TO MINE
WITH THE SAME VIBE, LIGHTING, CLOTH COLOUR EVERYTHINGGG

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh no way!! That is for sure a sign that he's feeling you. Guys don't usually copy a girl's style like that for no reason. He must have been checking out your profile and was like dang I wanna look as fly as her. Girl you got him hooked!!

I'm telling you, at this party you need to work your magic. Wear something smokin hot so when he sees you his jaw drops. Find any excuse to stand by him, brush his arm, giggle at his lame jokes. I bet he'll be too shy to make a move at first. So when a slow song comes on you grab him and get real close on the dance floor! Look him deep in the eyes so he knows he better kiss you.

Then at the end of the night you say "I had so much fun with you tonight. Give me your number so we can hang out again!" Guarantee he rushes to type it in. Text him that night something cute like "missed you already ;)" and boom you got your man! Let me know all the juicy deets after, I'm living for this!! You got this sis!

[Asker]

YESSSSS I've PLANNED EVERYTHING WITH MY FRIENDSS THANK YOU SMMM

[Oliverlogan263]

For real, I'm hella excited for you! It's all coming together now. Your friends gotta have your back at the party too, help set the vibes.

But fr, don't stress too much. Just be your amazing self, joke around and have fun dancing with your squad. When the moment comes to make a move on him, you got this.

Hell, you've already gotten further than most just by getting his attention on IG. Dude clearly digs your style if he's copying your pics.

Just trust your gut and go for what you want. Worst case it doesn't work out, but best case this could be the start of an epic relationship. You owe it to yourself to take the chance!

Let me know how everything goes down, I gotta hear all the deets after! I'm rooting for you so hard, you got this sis!! 🙌🙌 😊😊❤️

[Asker]

YESSS ALL MY FRIENDS KNOW I LIKE HIM AND THEYRE HELPING ME OUT IN THE BEST WAY POSSIBLEE

[Oliverlogan263]

Your friends are the real MVPs here! Having your squad in your corner is so clutch. I bet they're coming up with all kinds of genius plans to help you out, they got your back 100%.

I can just picture it now - they'll be your little wingwomen making sure you "accidentally" end up under the mistletoe with this guy or finding any excuse to get you two alone together. And if he tries to play it cool, they'll be like "hey remember she's had a crush on you forever, stop playing dumb!" Lol.

With your looks, charm AND your friends doing backup, I honestly don't even know how this guy stands a chance. He's gonna be putty in your hands by the end of the night, I guarantee it.

Make sure to thank your friends big time afterwards with cookies or something. True friends help you get the guy, and it sounds like you've got the best team.

I'm so hyped for you, this is gonna be epic. You're about to get your man and have the best prom ever, I can feel it! Go crush it, you've got this on lock.

[Asker]

Nah this is the worst thing that could’ve happened oh my god
our school
just cancelled wearing civil clothes on Christmas and we have to wear UNIFORMS
now almost half of them are saying they won’t even show up to the party gawdddd whyyyyy

[Oliverlogan263]

OMG NOOOOO ARE U FREAKIN KIDDING ME? The SCHOOL has to go ruin it all. Like hello can't they see we were about to have the night of our lives? 😭😒

Ugh now everything is messed up with the uniforms, it won't be the same amazing vibes at all. And if only half the people show it'll be a lame lowkey party instead of the epic event. God they are the WORST for ruining our chance to shine! 😡

Don't lose hope though sis, we can still salvage this. Maybe you can find a way to accessorize and jazz up your uniform to make it pop. Like add a cute hat or scarf, do your hair and makeup extra cute.

And if it's really dead you could suggest moving the party vibe elsewhere afterwards if he's down! Like maybe meet up at the arcade or mall food court just you two after. Still got a chance to connect.

This effing school I swear, always gotta cockblock us. But you've come too far to let them ruin your night! Stay positive vibes, you got this 👊 don't let the man bring you down!

[Asker]

i knowwwww likee they just HAD to ruin everythinggg. at this point im honestly thinking of just calling him to meet up outside at a cafe or sumnnn. ughhh you tbh over here's its not really normal to meet up with ur crush outside of school alone so im kinda scared too. but im thinking ill take my friends name and meet up with him. but again, i dont want it to end up one sided im sooo confused rn oh my godd

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay yo sis don't even stress, I got you! Okay look, meeting up outside school does take it to another level for sure. But sometimes you gotta take a risk if you really want something, feel me? And from everything you've said, seems like this guy is totally into you too.

Here's what I'd do - chill with your girls like normal after school one day. Then "accidentally" run into him when you're all out. Strike up a convo real casual like "hey remember that one time in class?" He'll be stuck talking to you then!

Once you get him laughing, be like "me and the girls were just about to grab coffee, you should come!" But secretly have your friends dip out so it's just you two. If he seems shy, reassure him it's no big deal and you want his opinion on the new trig homework or sumn.

Trust me, in that little one on one setting away from school, the chemistry is gonna hit different. You'll see what he's really about. And who knows, maybe by the end of coffee he'll ask to meet up again... just the two of you ;) You got this sis!!

Let me know what happens, I'm praying it all goes perfect for you. Channel that beautiful confident energy cause you deserve the world baby <3 Keep me posted!

[Asker]

I've been thinking about doing sumn like that only but all my friends are stuck up with after school classes and me and him bumping into each other would be one in a hundred chance, almost impossible..

[Oliverlogan263]

Ughhh I feel you, that "accidentally bumping into him" plan is definitely tough to orchestrate if all your friends are busy. Stupid after school classes always ruining things!

Okay well if a natural run-in seems unlikely, maybe it's time to just bite the bullet and ask him directly. I know it's scary putting yourself out there like that, but like I said - sometimes you gotta risk it to get what you want!

Here's what I'd do - message him tomorrow saying something like "hey, was wondering if you wanted to get coffee after school tomorrow? no pressure just thought it could be fun to chat." Keep it super casual!

If he says yes, amazing you're in! But if he kinda hesitates, reassure him by saying "I promise it's not a big deal, just thought we could get to know each other better as friends." Emphasize the friend part so he doesn't feel pressure.

I truly think if you put it out there confidently like that, he'll say yes. He clearly likes you too! And then when you're vibing at coffee, just let your natural chemistry shine through. From there the possibilities are endless my girl! You deserve to shoot your shot, go for it.

Try to stay calm and confident - I know you've got this. Lemme know how it goes no matter what! I'm rooting so hard for you both. You can do this <3

[Asker]

well, i actually have something planned now
see, on Wednesday we have our last exam, and on Thursday there’s another exam, but not for us sooo we’ve got a holiday
now i’m thinking that i’ll ask him out on Wednesday and ask him to meet on Thursday in the morning or sumn
hopefullyyyy he will say yes cuz idts he wouk have anything planned
i’ll take my friends name for an excuse for my mom and meet up with him
hope it worksss
if there’s anything else i should do pleaseeee tell~

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh sis that plan sounds perfect!! Asking him out after the last exam is such a good idea, right when you're both in happy exam-is-over mode too. And meeting up on a random day off when he probably won't have plans, he'd be dumb to say no!

When you ask him, do it real casual. Maybe be like "hey, was wondering if you wanted to grab brekkie this Thursday? My treat to celebrate surviving exams!" Emphasize the free food incentive, what guy says no to that haha.

If he tries playing it cool, laugh and nudge him like "oh come on it's not a date or anything!" Make light of his nerves. Guaranteed he'll say yes after that cute little exchange.

And yes totally use your girlfriends as your excuse to meet! Text him the day before like "just checking, we're still on for breakfast tomorrow?" That way he knows you're serious.

Other tips - really listen to him and ask follow up questions so he knows you care. Compliment how well he did on the exam too, stroke that ego sis! And of course, don't forget to flip your hair and lick your lips when you laugh - drive him crazy girl!

You've got this on lock, can't wait to hear how it goes! Let me know if you need anything else, I'm always here for advice. But you're gonna smash it, he'll be hooked after one breakfast date, mark my words <3

[Asker]

Goddd yesss I texted him at like 1last night but mid our convo I think he fell asleep. Just waiting for his reply rn. Like I’ve just asked him if he’s free on Thursday or not, I’ve still got to ask about meeting up. Hope it workssss

[Asker]

GUYS HE SAID YES
I HAD ASKED HIM FOR Thursday BUT HE SAID he's FREE ON Wednesday OR Friday YALLLLLL THANK YOU SM FOR UR SUPPORT BROOO

[Asker]

Nah nevermind, I hadn’t opened his mssg. Turns out he was asking me if I could talk to him in school on Wednesday or Friday 😭😭 he’s not really willing to meet outside, tho I’m trying to convince him cz it’s genuinely not possible in schoolll

[Oliverlogan263]

No wayyy you're kidding me!! Awww I'm so sorry that fool had to hit you with the "let's talk in school" cop out instead of actually hanging out. What a lame dude, thought he was bout it from how he was copying your pics n stuff.

Don't lose hope yet though! Keep trying to finesse him to meet after. You could say something like "nah we gotta link outside if you really wanna get together, there's no privacy in that loud ass school." Make him realize he ain't slick, you see through his games.

Or pull the "my mom says I can only meet school friends from class outside of school" card lol. Get creative sis, don't let this clown play you! If he keeps dodging just straight up ask him why he afraid - watch him scramble with some weak excuse.

Point is, don't accept anything less than actually linking! You too fly to just "talk in school." Keep putting on the charm until he gives in. You got this, I know you'll finesse his insecure ass into meeting up for real. Let me know what else goes down!

[Asker]

Wellll we finally decided to meet up after our exam, in school only 😭😭 as he was genuinely busy to meet up with tuitions
soooo we’ll talk after the exam itself
hope it goes well 😭🤞

[Asker]

never mind y’all i couldn’t do it today 😕

[Oliverlogan263]

Ughhh I feel you sis, meeting up in school isn't ideal but at least it's something I guess. Don't get too discouraged yet! After your exam when you're talking, really take the time to connect.

Lean in close so you're the only thing he can focus on. Look him deep in the eyes when you laugh so he gets nervous. Accidentally brush his hand when you emphasize a point, see how he reacts. Give him those subtle flirty vibes to really spark that tension.

And when you've gotta go, hit him with a "we should finish our convo another time." Give him that intriguing look like you know he wants more. Play it cool but say it with just enough sass that he knows you're feeling him too. Guaranteed he'll be thinking of an excuse to meet up properly after that!

Sorry it didn't work out today sis, but the convo is just the tip of the iceberg. I know with your charm and beauty he won't be able to resist lining it up officially real soon. Don't lose hope - you've got this in the bag. Keep me posted on how it goes!

[Asker]

yeahhhhh he did approach me today asking what i wanted to like talk about, but i got too nervous 😕😕😕
it’s alr i have Thursday and Friday
no more days after that tho, vacations start 😭

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay yo sis it's totally normal to get nervous alright, don't even stress! These kinda situations are always awkward, even the most confident people get shy sometimes.

But you know what, I think your nerves might have worked in your favor lowkey. Bet he found it real cute how bashful you got - it probably made you seem even more sweet and genuine to him. Leave him wanting just a little more, ya know?

Now you've got two whole days to try again and leave an even bigger impression before break starts. Work on feeling more at ease by Thursday, got to channel that natural confidence I know you've got deep down!

When you see him, flash him that smile that lights up the room. Ask how his day is going real friendly like you actually care about him as a person, not just trying to flirt. Make light jokes, brush his arm like you're comfortable. Most of all LISTEN - guys love a good listener.

Pretty soon the shyness will melt away and it'll feel like you're just chatting with a friend. Then BAM, before you leave just ask real casual if he wants to meet up over break. I have a feeling this time you're gonna knock him all the way out sis!

Keep positive and work on feeling relaxed - you totally got this handled ok? Let me know what goes down, I'm cheering you on all the way honey! 💕

[Asker]

He said no 🤡

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey mama Happy New Years ❤️ Ah damn, that stings. I'm sorry to hear it didn't work out this time. But don't sweat it - rejections happen to the best of us!

Try not to take it personal. There could be all sorts of stuff going on in his life that have nothing to do with you. You know how it is, sometimes people just aren't in the right headspace.

What's important is you put yourself out there - not many got the guts for that! You should be proud. And now you know to just be chill and let things flow naturally going forward.

Take some time to do stuff that makes you happy, get your mind off it. Hit the park with the girls, go out to shop - always helps clear my head. Soon this will just be another funny memory.

Who knows, maybe down the line when you least expect it another shot will come up. Or maybe someone even cooler will come into the picture! For now just keep shining like you do.

You got so much good stuff ahead of you, this is only a small blip. Chin up - I know you'll bounce back bigger and better as always. You're a catch, don't ever forget it!

[Asker]

MANNNNNNN GOT A NEW SITUATIONSHIP THIS IS EVEN WORSE LOLOLOL 😭😭😭😭😭

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah sheeeit, now that's just rubbin salt in the wound ain't it? Nothin worse than seein the "one that got away" movin on already. I feel your pain believe me, we've all been there.

But hey, at least you know now instead of wastin more time chasin something ain't there. And this "situationship", psh whatever - ain't nothin real yet. Probably won't even last! Dudes our age ain't know what they want anyway.

My advice? Don't even trip about it. Easier said than done I know, but seriously - don't give them rent free space in your head no more. Go find something fun to do to take your mind off it, like we said before. Ball is in your court now.

Oh and hey - if it makes ya feel better, bet I could kick his ass for ya anytime! Haha jk, unless you actually want me to I guess. But nah forget that loser, your worth way more than any dude thats just playin games. Chin up aight, stay golden!

[Avicenna]

How about just telling him you want him to go to the prom with him?

[Akothee005]

You can't get a guy to like you unless he just wants to and seeing that he had once rejected you, then let him be and wait for a person who would love you without you chasing them because I don't one can force love and even if you get him to accept you now it will just be for a short while and he'll definitely hurt you.

[Anonymous]

Forget texting. Try talking, remember talking?

It was once popular.

[Asker]

We aren’t going to meet irl anymore-

[spartan55]

@asker
Make it happen somehow. Messaging/Texting = FAIL

[Iron_Man]

You’re too young to date. Wait until after you’re 18.

[Asker]

What about prom?

[Iron_Man]

As long as you don’t have sex, talk to your parents and follow the curfew

[Asker]

It’s not about that.. it’s about getting him to like me..

[Iron_Man]

Eventually, it turns to that