How do you deal with an aggressive partner?

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After 2 months of relationship whenever my boyfriend start to loose any argument he gets hyper and starts saying i am the one who always fight He doesn't like to fight and blame everything on me he says what he has to say then turn the table by saying i am the one who fight whereas i am just protesting if i find any joke disrespectful... This has happened 3 times i told him i get triggered if he shout at me but he still does it... I feel stuck in the relationship after the argument we had today

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Uh uh that doesn't sound good at all. No one deserves to be with someone who gets aggressive or shouts at them, especially over little arguments. That's super disrespectful behavior on his part. A few thoughts:

- You told him clearly it triggers you when he yells, and he keeps doing it anyway. That's not okay.

- Flipping things around to make you seem like the problem is also not a good sign - seems manipulative on his end.

- Two months in is still early. You don't want to get more stuck down the line if this disrespectful behavior keeps up.

- Think long and hard if this is really how you want to be treated in a relationship. You deserve way better.

If I were you, I'd seriously consider bouncing. You can try having one last talk with him that his behavior is unacceptable, but if he gets defensive or doesn't change, then it's time to cut your losses. Don't waste more time on dudes who don't respect your boundaries and feelings. You'll find someone way better who treats you with kindness always. Stay safe and look out for yourself, okay luv? You don't got time for toxic shit.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Will you stop and you take an evaluation of yourself and what you want in life and then you make that partner an ex partner because nobody deserves any of that crap. You going been in a relationship for a short short period of time you shouldn't even have an argument for three to four years come on.
The reason why you're asking this question is because you already know it's not going to last so why put yourself through it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The moment a man shouts at me. IM OUT. ✌️!

I will not tolerate a man shouting at me at any point in time of a relationship. THAT WOULD BE OVER IMMEDIATELY.

If a man shouts at me. I’m gonna get PTSD, and serious Anxiety where I pull my hair out. Trichotillomania. I refuse. The relationship would be over that same day.

Faith18letsgo · Accepted Answer

Leave. Like just think if you before y’all started dating had seen today you wouldn’t have dated him right? So leave

sawno · Answer

Personally I wouldn't, one of the best things about my past relationship was the constant mutual intent to resolve things calmly. We assumed the other meant well and went from there. Thats a must in a relationship for me since I considered it a corner stone of why we worked so well.

So imagine the guy is someone in that mindset, would you have this issue to begin with? If not its a telling sign it probably won't last.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Stoicism.

it drives my girlfriend nuts that I am so nonchalant about everything.

but for a relationship it is healthy to reflect on how you could be upsetting your S/O

even if you’re right it’s not as important as putting yourself in their shoes

NathanDavis · Answer

just don't deal... this is not a partner...

this is a person who you just got it with two months... and he's already doing you this bad

so stop it, you are not stuck... you don't owe them anything, help yourself now

Anonymous · Answer

If your woman is being unreasonable, abusive and physically aggressive you must restrain her, put her across your knee and spank her bare bottom until she cries and submits to your will. Then have sex with her.

Akothee005 · Answer

I think you shouldn't compromise your own happiness and peace of mind for someone who's unappreciative so it's better you start doing what's best for yourself and let the guy go you'll find a better one.

spartan55 · Answer

Two months and you already feel trapped? I suggest you dump him ASAP. Like today.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I'm sorry baby but your only two months in and your already feeling like that. You might need to dump him and move on. Message me so we can analyze this

Yesdarlingmoon · Answer

He's a man child and probably a narcissist. Leave him it may get worse girly.

Justmisscurious · Answer

Yikes. Sounds like physical ab*se waiting to happen. You should leave. You’re lucky he’s showing the signs now rather than too far down the road….

jahaims · Answer

He is immature and shuts down like that because he has undealt with trauma

SongBird3 · Answer

How do you deal with it? Simple. Dont deal with it.

Anonymous · Answer

honestly at this point either break up or just let the arguments go or avoid anything that will cause arguments. but breaking up is usually what people do in this situation.

bowenw · Answer

If your relationship is like this after 2 months it probably will only get worse over time. I suggest considering moving on.

sheikalana · Answer

I refuse to deal with aggressive people. I turn my back on them.

CubaPirate · Answer

Time to dump him and move on you must know that you deserve better

Jennz6 · Answer

Don’t get yourself hurt honey 💕

Anonymous · Answer

Be with the man who care about your happiness... You deserve better.

Lisia · Answer

Couples therapy

bededazzle · Answer

find the nearest exit

Anonymous · Answer

You don't. You leave them

LazerBean · Answer

By dumping them.

ThrillSeeker01 · Answer

Move on.

electromagnetic · Answer

Pack up and go.

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