Does every situation have a silver lining?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Having my leg broken seems to remind me something very important,

I think that was a reminder from my life a bit like

“Hey, silly! Why did the comfort made you forget what dreams and goals you had?”

I realized I’ve been living in the present and not investing well enough into my goals.

My ambitions have been less of a priority for me, I’ve been wasting my potential on stupid thoughts.

I need to keep on studying to get my Master’s in Law and a License as well.

I wonder where I should keep on studying.

Right now, I am in Shanghai and I can work as well as study here after my leg heals, my visa is in process to get lengthened with one more year.

My cousin tells me to go to her for studies. I think I should stop wasting my time and get back on the track.

Actually breaking my leg is a wonderful metaphor the life showed me in order to make me realize that I’ve been following the wrong track and I can’t keep forgetting my goals forever.

And I am grateful for this reminder.

[love_conquers_lust]

I suppose you’re also referring to the optimist verse the pessimist. Glass half full versus half empty.

There can be a silver lining, it’s a matter of mindset. There’s a difference between being an optimist and refusing to acknowledge a situation. I believe that’s why many use sense impairing drugs and alcohol to numb them from that feeling of worry. The “don’t worry, be happy” types.

There’s also a saying about having a black cloud. Where bad things seem to keep happening to someone. The constant bearer of bad news. Some might call this being histrionic or a hypochondriac.

It makes me think of the difference between humility and ambition. I don’t think humility is lack of ambition and feeling one “deserves” their circumstances. That feels more like appeasement or conciliation. I think humility is more accepting the truth as to the source of the problem in one’s situation, and ambition is having the imagination to drive us to excel. Ambition sets our goals, humility helps us reach them.

I think when you believe you’re on the path to improvement and you know a reward awaits you in the future, the initial worry metamorphoses into passion, drive. Your logical left brain assesses your situation truthfully, your right imaginative brain forecasts what it wants in the future, devises a plan, and executes. You could also think of OODA

It is healthy to look for ways to improve your situation. Acknowledging that something isn’t quite right in your life is also healthy. It’s wisdom and true willpower when you can move to do this without a traumatic event such as breaking your leg to prompt change.

I wouldn’t necessarily call your thoughts stupid in a blanket statement. We have bad ideas along with the good to sift out what’s worth pursuing. But we shouldn’t let “stupid” thoughts cloud our judgment and rain on our parade.

[love_conquers_lust]

Idealism versus realism. Remember this as well:

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

1. “ I wouldn’t necessarily call your thoughts stupid in a blanket statement.” - What allows you to judge what’s stupid and not coming from me?

2. “But we shouldn’t let “stupid” thoughts cloud our judgment and rain on our parade.” - Could you get directly to the point instead of sharing your wisdom and calling me stupid because I can see the light where others wouldn’t?

3. Do you want me to feel miserable and sad? Because I won’t, till my head works, I will never be. So why write all this “wisdom” to try and discredit my feelings and an inspiration?

Have to disappoint you and it only motivates me more.

The reason I broke my leg is I was racing, I was winning. I have always been racing in my life. Sometimes physically, sometimes mentally. I’ll now even have a scar. That must be enough to show the things I’ll do for winning. If only I put my energy and willpower into a right cause, there will be no stopping for me and I have proved it many times in the past. Now call it stupid or whatever you want,

I don’t care. But I have a right to disagree and cut your attempts to discourage me, because that only works raises my motivation.

[love_conquers_lust]

1. The same that judges my own and anyone else’s.

2. I don’t see how “seeing the light” as if clouds were parting is all that different from not letting black clouds rain on our parade.

3. No. I don’t want you miserable and sad. Neither is it discrediting, I’ve no intent to merely tear you down. I’d rather you learn so you can raise yourself up out of any misery and sadness. You were sad, that’s what you wrote about for months. That’s no “never will be”.

That’s why I put “stupid” in quotes. It means someone who lacks intelligence. That person wouldn’t even be having the argument as to what they should change. They would be relatively unaware of the situation altogether.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Then what’s the purpose of your answer on my question?

Explain briefly and precisely, please.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

You talk too much and unclearly.

[love_conquers_lust]

Yes, every situation can have a silver lining if you can see it, one way or another. It takes competence to see that lining.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Got it. Thanks

[Sonorous]

I believe there is always the possibility for one. Even in the most seemingly hopeless of situations. This is because the mind can be very good at coping. So, if when someone experiences suffering in any way, they simply think about what is still in their control, their situation may even have less of an objectively bad outcome. And since they're focusing more on what it in their control, their focus is more towards things that will inevitably have a more practical benefit which could enhance quality of life.

For instance at 15:40 he mentions something like this:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/GYua-3JmnT4

[Sonorous]

www.youtube.com/watch

[IslaTheWitch]

In my opinion every situation we learn something from. Sometimes it's a matter of time, to see the silver lining...

[Siri137]

The lining isn't always silver. Sometimes it's platinum or gold. :)

[AviatorTom]

Most do, but some have gold linings and some have linings of dirty plastic.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

And some have titanium 😅

[molonski2]

I've heard these kind of things , that breaking the leg becomes a serendipity , there by changing the thought process..

The only similar that worked for me , was when I was sacked from a big corporate job , they took ( my/ their ) car , and gave me a cab charge , and in those days not much of a payout , but this " compulsory exit " , made me get into land , and gave me a lot more options for making money than I otherwise would have had.

I hope I can have a moment again , but hopefully not by breaking my leg , just a moment of reflection.

[lightbulb27]

yea I think that's how it works... sometimes we have to slow down... or be stopped... reach bottom, so we can stop and listen and think... for a fresh start, new direction. Thus a value in meditation. I don't wish disaster and suffering on anyone, but in it is great learnings.

how about Yale?

[RavVid]

If you needed stitches it must have been a bad break (compound).

As it is law you are studying don't you need to study the local law. if you aren't going to make your life in Shanghai is it sensible to study there?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I didn’t have a compound break, I had a spiral break. Bone twisted and it broke due to the power it twisted, so it was auto injury in a way.

I had a surgery and I have a little wound by the ankle and another 3 more tiny cuts on my calf. I can say they tried to do the surgery in the least invasive way. Scar must be very small.

But thankfully, I’ll have a better leg than I’d have with a cast, as spiral breaks can’t heal well with just a cast on.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

“One such type of injury is a spiral fracture after a slip and fall. This is a unique type of fractured bone or broken bone that can be extremely painful and take a longer time to heal than other broken bones.”

[RavVid]

I hadn't heard of a spiral break before - nasty. How did it happen - the slip or fall that caused it?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I was wearing very heavy boots totally unsuitable for racing, I was challenged to race, I love racing and I am fast at running, so I accepted.

We were racing in zigzag, I was pretty fast and was winning, during one of the turns I tripped on a chair, and I was falling but I put my foot strongly grounded as I didn’t want to fall, but I was already falling, and putting my foot grounded in a heavy boot, made it unable for me to fully fall while my body was falling so my bone twisted and broke in that part.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Seems like I don’t have stitches. I have very tiny wounds. They sealed my wound with some kind of plastic thing. That causes almost invisible scar. I thought they were called stitches but turns out they are not.

[NathanDavis]

if we look for it enough... that might be the case, yes...

glad you've found yours

[Likes2drive]

Hope you’re keeping positive and staying strong. Don’t know how you broke your leg though

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Racing.

[Likes2drive]

Bike accident or motorbike?

[TonyMetal___86]

I don't think that such accident made you forget your goals, because why you're even there living in a far away country if it isen't for a goal that you had in mind and willing to achieve it...

In my opinion, you must step out a little bit from your imaginations and lives a little bit of reality, it's good to have imaginations but always remember the reality, in the end you will heal and proceed with your life...

As they say: everyday is a new day!

[exitseven]

That is a great attitude. Try to make something positive come from this.

[YesterdaysChild]

Did it also remind you to stay off those blasted roller blades? I broke my wrist with those. Wasn't as easy as they looked. 😆

[love_conquers_lust]

My sister did that as a kid. According to her doctor, I’d apparently popped it back into alignment when I held it with my hand. She’d screamed my name and started crying so I tried something. I’d no idea what I was doing. I didn’t explicitly do forceful. I just cupped her wrist in my hand. Got lucky.

[Anonymous]

How you react to the situation makes it a silver lining or not. I’m definitely dealing with this in my personal life right now after finally kicking a very bad habit that cost me dearly in recent years.

[ProbablyClueless]

They do more often than not. I've definitely seen situations that just suck, but they're rare.

[Tomisworthless]

I think the world revolves around you even with a broken leg hot famous guys want to bangkock you just imagine your potential with both legs functioning

[Andres77]

10% circumstance, 90% attitude.

there's always a silver lining if you look for it

[Charliefretz329]

Every experience in life has the potential to teach you things and make you stronger! I completely agree

[Anonymous]

Are you a mod or admin? ~
How did the broken leg pic come up?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That’s not my broken leg. The photo wasn’t chosen by me.

[fuddly]

As long as you're still alive and healthy then it was just a learning opportunity

[Kingofkings1992]

No. A woman whose 10 year old son is murdered. What’s the silver lining in that?

[LazerBean]

Any do, but certainly not all.

[DJB72]

If you have the strength to see it, yes

[RainBat]

I think broken legs are hot

[RainBat]

I'm not being flirty.

[rigmarole]

I thought I recognized you...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LIL8-f4o0ss

[RainBat]

Ahahah sounds about right-

[jimmy2]

Not every one but done do

[LavLavLuv]

For me, yes

[boobliker]

no not at all

[driven159]

most of the time

[HouseMoat]

Yeah

[eagle1951]

nope