What do you do if you really like someone but they are not reaching out to you?

[Anonymous]

[Tapeworm]

I suggest either one of these 5 options:

1. The Chorizo of Cheer Surprise Party:

• Organize an epic surprise party that will blow their mind. Hire a marching band equipped with spicy sticks and chorizos and have them serenade your crush with an outlandishly catchy love song. As they enter the venue, release a cloud of glitter confetti shaped like hot dogs of happiness, sausage satisfaction, and beef bayonets. It'll be a celebration they won't forget!

2. The Purple-Headed Yogurt Slinger Telegram:

• Channel your inner telegram messenger from the past and send them a message in the most unconventional way. Dress up as a delivery person, complete with a purple-headed yogurt slinger costume. Knock on their door, hand them a telegram, and recite a poetic declaration of your admiration while maintaining a straight face. They'll be left speechless and thoroughly entertained.

3. The Love Muscle Flash Mob:

• Assemble a group of talented individuals who are willing to participate in a spontaneous flash mob performance. Choreograph a routine that incorporates dance moves mirroring the motions of the iconic love muscle. In the middle of a bustling street or park, unleash the spectacle upon your unsuspecting crush. Their jaw will drop as they witness this unexpected display of passion pike prowess.

4. The Pocket Rocket Sky Banner:

• Take to the skies to declare your affection in the most extravagant way possible. Hire an airplane equipped with a massive banner that reads, "Hey [Crush's Name], You're the Meat Missile of Merriment to My Heart!" Have it fly over their neighborhood, ensuring it catches their attention. Prepare for their astonishment and a potential phone call filled with coom and confusion.

4. The Frankfurter of Fun Treasure Hunt:

• Craft a whimsical treasure hunt that will lead your crush on a thrilling adventure. Leave a series of clues at various locations, each hinting towards the next step in their quest for love. Attach fun riddles related to sausages, hot dogs, and meat missiles along the way. The final destination could be a romantic picnic spot, where you await with a bratwurst-filled basket and a heart full of pink baby socks.

[Anonymous]

If I f you can do but move on. Just cause you like them doesn’t mean they like you. If that’s the case it’s time to move on.

[Monalisa77]

But what if they showed they did irl?

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 showed it how?

[Monalisa77]

Flirting, staring etc

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 flirting how? Staring doesn’t always means he likes you. Sometimes I catch myself staring at girls who look hideous because she’s got a million facial piercings, blue hair, whatever the case may be. Doesn’t mean I like her.

[Monalisa77]

Well it was pretty intense, he was walking by me and turned round to look at me and i know it was at me because i was sitting next to his cousin and we were at the wall, he had no other reason to turn round. The other time he stared he was inches away and he was looking down at me and then the flirting he was using his hands and had his mouth open. Plus he laughed at something stupid i said, this was all after a month of when he stroked my hand. It was v strange he didn't reply to my message, i only sent a basic hi and this is someone I've known to see for a few months now cos i might not see him again for a while.

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 well maybe he liked you at the time but now he met someone else.

[Monalisa77]

He knows im vulnerable so if he was staring cos i look odd then thats pretty rude and I've been told my multiple people he's a genuinely nice guy so...

[Monalisa77]

I asked someone who saw him a week earlier at the end od noc and he was atill single then. but yes the thought od maybe seeing him again is stopping me from moving on, even using dating apps to see if anyone else could be interested as it did giv eme confidence

[Monalisa77]

*nov

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 couldn’t say w out seeing what you look like. Maybe what you said that was stupid he just felt was funny, not so much that he was flirting w you. When’s the last time you seen him?

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 when’s the last time you were in a relationship?

[Monalisa77]

I just commented on what happened at the time he stroked my hand, we play cards so it was in aug/September this happened, he was away for October and mustve been working for nov, i was away for the Christmas one so its jist bad timing. I've never had. Abf be4 or even been on a date and not many people like me so i was baffled, but yes he couldve just said thanks for the message and i wouldn't think anything odf y he didn't reply, even wondering if he even uses whatsapp as he's not on sm at all

[Monalisa77]

Nah i didn't think the laugh was flirting but the hand/mouth open is what came after that, I've never seen that before and even my cousin who known him since birth was confused lol im concerned maybe he found out more about me and was put off

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 may I ask why you’ve never had a bfb4 or gone on a date?

[Monalisa77]

A lot is already on my profile already lol health/shyness mainly just never had confidence with guys or people in general really tbh

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 I see. Ever thought about getting professional help to try to alleviate those things. So you’re still a virgin? You don’t have to answer. So in my honest opinion, as a man if I found out you had never had a boyfriend before or been in a relationship. It would raise some red flags. I would wonder why. What’s wrong w her?

[Monalisa77]

Nope cos other people wouldn't change and things would just carry on as they are. I just wish people would give me more of a chance and see beyond my health issues. I dont get invited out to things despite being nice and friendly to everyonen

[Monalisa77]

Well he knows im vulnerabie so it shouldn't come to a surprise to him, he's also a dr too. He can see what im like, I've got poor teeth and dont wear make up, if he liked me post those issues what would it matter if i didn't have previous everyone has to start somewhere

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 may I ask what kind of health issues?

[Monalisa77]

Im more convenient if he asked anyone about me hed find out a lot more than id like him to ehich could be the reason for not replying

[Monalisa77]

*concerned. Too many to mention, as i say a lot is on my profile if u go to my opinions or my qs

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 yes everyone has to start somewhere but in reality most people start in relationships when they’re in their teens, maybe twenties. So for most people, especially men it would make them wonder.

[Monalisa77]

Not if they were bullied in school whicb 99% of people are

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 do you feel as though you’re good enough for someone? Like you deserve to be w someone?

[Monalisa77]

It would make a complete atranger wonder but as i say he knows of my main issues (which i dont put online) and being a dr he sbould know there's probably several reasons for that. I think as i said it could be more he was put off about things he's heard about me from others not just about previous. my health affects my anxiety. Tbh i dont even know if he knows what age i am, he didn't know my last name either but he could have found out

[Monalisa77]

Yeh i do, I've had natches on the app and people have been like do u want to meet but im never gonna meet some stranger straight away like that, i think with the right encouragment i could be a supportive/caring partner. Plus my body is getting v frustrated its not getting what it needs, there's a reason i freaked out when he stroked my hand😂

[Monalisa77]

I've ben close to going on a date but my anxiety has ruined it, pfob shouldve gone on one during college just noones ever had the guts to ask me😂or vice versa

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 ok so you said no to getting help cause people will never change. Which is true a lot of people won’t change but if you got help for the anxiety maybe you would be ok w going on dates.

[Monalisa77]

Hence y im trying to find ways for encouragement. Like i keep telling my mum is there any pt when she comes out with"maybe ur annoying "and laughs when i tell her it hurt its just going to backtrack what anyone tells me to think

[Monalisa77]

Id be fine if i got onre, in nov before the cards i was getting my hair done and wa skinda getting dressed up to flirt with him n was gonna hint at going on a date the next night as parents were out it was a good excuse lol i knew it was short notice but more annoying he wasn't there. Will find out tomorrow night what happened on Sunday

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 you’re too concerned w what people think. I get that after all these years of being bullied. But there has to be a way around that in not really taking it to heart what people think. There’s a lot of idiots on this planet, can’t appease them all. But I don’t think you’re even giving yourself a chance. You’re basically just a killing it by giving up w out even seeking help to see if it would make a difference.

[Monalisa77]

Its mainly my main fam I've issues with, they know im sensitive.. people who dont know me treat me better than they do.. When it comes to bullies these days i just ignore them. I do have a sicatrists but i dont even know when i last saw them. Plus getting an mri scan to see if anythings up with my head. Im doing stuff every day to help despite what some people say

[Monalisa77]

My issue is when it comes to romance is i think people dont want me to find any, its like they want to ruin my chances for me. They keep saying im over reacting and theyre not really flirting or anything, like noone in the world would fancy me. Thats the impression i get from people

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 that may be true. Maybe they’re just unhappy w their lives so they want you to be miserable like them. I don’t know how you feel about it but I myself have cut off numerous family members because they’re nothing but negative. It’s made things a lot smoother in life not having to listen to them all the time. It’s your life girl, you need to do what is going to make you happy. All the unhappiness we have in our lives comes from unfulfilled things, whether that’s not finishing school, quitting a job or something. You’ve lost a lot of your life as far as happiness, things you would have done as a result of all the bullying, the shaming, don’t lose the rest of your life the same way.

[Monalisa77]

same, unfortunately can't cut off my parents. Ye thata y id been trying to get out more ever since lockdown ended i make sure i go out once a week.

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 you could cut them off. It may be a hard thing to do but you could. What’s w your parents? Do you live alone?

[Monalisa77]

No i live wifh them lol theyre horrendous human beings tbh, the only time id have been able to do it was when i left college, i made stupid decisions back then. Hence me trying to make friends and or find a partner id have the encouragement to move out

[Monalisa77]

My sister did that with my dad but she's nearly just as bad as my parents.

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 ok. So why do you need to meet someone to be motivated enough to move out? I’d think them being the way they are is enough motivation to move out. Maybe you’re scared of moving out on your own as you’ve been there w them forever? When you live u set someone else is roof you’re never free to be yourself, you’ll never be completely happy.

[Monalisa77]

Otherwise id be on my own. And probably wouldn't even attempt to get out of bed. Basically id be more depressed and lonely lol

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 Am I wrong in assuming you’re just looking for a lot of excuses to not get out on your own? Like you’re scared to be on your own because it sounds as though you never were. Sure you were in college but had a lot of other people around. Right now you’re basically on your own, which as men that’s what a lot of us go through. This loneliness. I feel as though you need to take more responsibility now that you’re a lot older as far as owning this. Sure what everyone did to you was bs, but now it’s just basically become this crutch you use especially when you’re in a situation to where it gets uncomfortable.

[Monalisa77]

Nah i have genuine reasons i just cba posting them at this time of night. Anytime I've reached out to anyone about what life is like with my parents they basically tell me to shut up and i should be grateful cos i go on trips and they do a lot for me. Its me whos the horrible one not them. I wouldn't have rhe support to move out, pretty sure even my mother wouldn't visit unless she had to

[Monalisa77]

I've only recently had the encouragement to try hsrder to find a boyfriend. And besides that most people see me as an inconvenience, out of sight/mind theyd be glad to be rid of me. N i know this cos they never message or call me, never asks how i am dont invite me out to things dont make an effort

[Monalisa77]

I did a one week course in a college i August and i thought we all genuinely got on and there was a good bond. It sounded like they wanted to keep in touch i only message a couple of them now. The one who was most bothered about meeting clearly didn't wanna meet me alone n was making excuses anytime i suggested anything.

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 honestly you’d never make it as a man. Not saying you want to be a male but that’s what men go through all the time. It’s lonely being a man. But I had to realize growing up that no one is coming to save me. I have to save myself. I’m not saying you’re the issue as far as being ungrateful to your parents. I’m saying in a way what I tell my daughters, either they make a change in where they work cause a couple of places they’ve worked in medical were really shitty, or they go to us to endure it but can’t really complain. You’re putting yourself in the situation when you k ow they’re the issue. Even if you don’t have help to move, you move on your own. If you really want to change your situation you’ll find a way. Right now it just sounds like a lot of reasons not to. Moving out simply because you let someone isn’t a good reason. That may make things worse. I’d feel as a man you were just using me because you had no where else to go.

[Asker]

@Monalisa77 good lord

[Opinion Owner]

Good lord what?

[Monalisa77]

Nah i wouldn't be doing that, i meant id be encouraged to move somewhere out on my own cos i know id have support and people to come visit me and things to do so id have a decent enough reason to get up every day. I've tried to do a lot of things to change socislly but nothing seems to click

[Monalisa77]

Plus i wouldn't get with just anyone just cos they liked me. One of the reasons i didn't respond to his flirting was cos i wasn't sure if i liked him, he wasn't my usual type so i didn’t wanna lead him on so to speak. If i end up with anyone i wanna make sure they make me happy and not miserable

[Monalisa77]

Id been ina. Situation before where i liked someone instantly cos they were exactly my rype and i felt they were responding to me in a positive way, so i know how i feel when i really like someone. I didn't get that with this one at the time (apart from the initial hand thing, but i wasn't sure if it was just the shock of it or not) i wanted to be sure i liked him before i decided what to do about the situation

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 ok and if you never met anyone than what? You’re just going to stay there? Although it may not seem encouraging to you I’m trying to suggest ways to make things better, for things to happen but you seem as though you don’t want to no matter what. Like you’re just wanting sympathy from people. No I'm not saying that to be mean either. This is how men talk to each other. For a long time I was alone, didn’t have friends either. Actually I’d say I still really don’t. Yes I have my girl but there was a long time in between me getting out of the military and meeting her. Having friends in the civilian life isn’t the same as having friends in the military. It’s not the same. Maybe that’s why I can’t make friends because they’re nothing like me. Which is fine. But I had to do things for myself to make things happen. All the bs I went through as a kid, being overweight, picked on, got in numerous fights because of that. To me you sound as though you just don’t want to change at all. It’s like me telling a girl I’ll be masculine when the right girl comes around. No I have to be masculine all the time to attract women, to get what I want in life I have to do all the things necessary to make them happen.

[Monalisa77]

Plus its not a safe world out there for a vulnerable person to live alone.. So many creeps about, i dont think id feel safe with my situation is as it is atm

[Monalisa77]

Nah if i didn't wanna change things i wouldn't even get out of bes everyday, i was in that state before and during xovid. I promised myself during xovid id try to change my life as i could. I tried really hard to get a job and i acomplished that but i got sacked after two months. I've aiiplied for loads of other things include a training course but got declined that wouldve got me out everyday and mixing aith people, i know my limits

[Opinion Owner]

@Monalisa77 so you don’t even work?

[Altheavas]

Liking someone and keeping them in mind without reaching out can be a sign of respect and consideration. Sometimes, refraining from contacting someone can be a way to set healthy boundaries, especially if there's a concern about potential disrespect or discomfort. It could indicate a desire to maintain a level of respect and avoid potential complications in the relationship. There might be various reasons why reaching out isn't happening, and it often involves consideration for the other person's feelings and maintaining personal boundaries.
Other reasons for not reaching out could be a conscious decision to give the other person space or time to sort out their own thoughts or emotions. Sometimes, refraining from contact can be a way to respect someone's need for personal space or allow them to handle their own issues without interference. It could also occur when there's uncertainty about the right timing or appropriateness of reaching out, particularly in delicate or complex situations.

[IslaTheWitch]

You can do the move. Small talk, coffee offer, something that you have in common.

It can work or not, but you won't know if you don't try

[DaveJord]

I move on or reach out to them.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Congrats on Influencer of the month!

[DaveJord]

@BoopBoopBeep Thanks!

[Fireguy17]

you have to reach out to them.
I'm pretty clueless to know if someone is interested in me or not.
So based on how I am there are probably others just like me out there, so talk to him, ask him out, lunch, coffee, something.

[HawkPerception]

Why are girls dead set on a man has to approach/make the move on them? If you're into a guy, how would he know unless you let him know?

[SotiCoto]

What do you do when someone asks a question with a really obvious answer? Like so obvious they almost certainly know it themselves and are just waiting for someone to tell them?

[exitseven]

You reach out first but you also have to accept the fact that they don't feel that same way about you

[Anonymous]

Nothing. If she can't be bothered to show me any interest it's not going to get better from there. So I move on.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Find a new person to like and talk to

[BoopBoopBeep]

Reach out to them or forget about them.

[boggboss]

Reach out to them or move on

[Wood3nWhal3]

You hit me up instead and get the love you deserve

[WhitneySnow]

Reach out to them

[ProbablyClueless]

That phone works two ways, honeybun

[TonyMetal___86]

Than i'll simply stop reaching for them

[KrakenAttackin]

You suck it up and move on.

[bededazzle]

move on.

[Danny_dan92]

Move on

[Guido]

Reach out to them.