Can men and women have a platonic relationship?

[Akam93]

I do have guy friends. I've been doing good at keeping it friendly.

[Wise4myage]

I definitely think so, but it’s not all that easy.

[Gent207-2]

Yes I believe it to be possible

[Paris13]

I Believe Some EXES can. xxoo

[blueonblack22]

Is it anyway coincidence that women are always asking these kinds of questions? Give an example of a man somewhere saying he “wished to have more platonic female friends”. Really give me just one.

I am not against being friends with women. But it only works if 1) I am not attracted to her 2) she isn’t asking for a bunch of unreciprocated benefits. There is only one woman I have been very long time friends with who falls into this category

Ladies the cold hard truth is men do NOT need platonic female friends in this world to survive. That doesn’t mind we don’t value respectful women as friends. But really in most cases you are more of a liability then an asset when it comes to this.

But 9 out of 10 times the woman gets more out of the platonic “friendship” then man does. And for the 1 out 10s that’s most likely due to the woman being secretly attracted to the man but she’s friendzoned.

Women need to seriously ask themselves exactly what they can offer a man in a “platonic” friendship. Beyond female perspectives on dating, life, etc. it’s often very little.

But the man can offer:

• Strong male logic for resolving problems
• Protection while out in public
• Help lifting heavy objects
• Help with auto/home repair
• He’s usually put on the spot when the waiter comes along with the bill at a restaurant.
• Someone to pick them up in the middle of the night (how often do women do this for male friends)
• Protection against dangerous men

So ladies what can you really do for your platonic male friends that they can’t do for themselves? Serious question.

[Billybob46]

I wish I had more female platonic friends.

[blueonblack22]

@Billybob46 well that should be very easy for you. There are hordes of women out there who would love to have you as a (truly) platonic friend they can take advantage of.

[Siri137]

Protection while out in public? Male logic? LOL! What century are you living in? :D

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

This " I've been doing good at keeping it friendly."

If they were just friends you wouldn't have to try. Make no mistake, these guys want more and if you gave them one chance they would be on you like a lion on a gazelle. We are predators pure and simple. We know when to hide in the grass and wait until we can pounce.

[Anonymous]

I will most likely not be friends with women anymore, although I am not exactly against it. I have always seen female friends ask for too many favors and return none. They take advantage of male friends too much. Now I am not asking for sexual favor in return.

But they don't help you when you are sick or care to listen to you. They don't help you in academics or anything. But they use you as an emotional dump bag and treat you like your free personal tutor. But they only want to be around cool guys when they are having fun and don't want to see you in public. I am too tired of this shit anymore. I have seen that in high school, college, and university, and still see that at university.

[JacobJordan]

Short answer almost always absolutely not. More complex answer yes in theory though it requires the guy to find you very unattractive and/or similar to a family member. Reality is the vast majority of the time no. You can test this by telling them you been thinking about a relationship with them and want to be intimate etc etc whatever you need to show "interest" in near all cases the guy will leap at that chance because he has been waiting for you to say something like that.

[IronPhoenix]

No.

Only women think this is possible but that is not what he is thinking.

The only reason he is doing that is because he is hoping that one day she will see him as boyfriend material. Or He's waiting for the right moment to strike.

Men who have self respect don't accept the friendzone and know it's better to walk away.

Many women also do not understand the difference between a friend and a man who is just an acquaintance.

[MecheD]

Truth be told I believe it’s plausible but the thing is I think you’d both have to address the typical primal nature as we are all humans not necessarily in the sexual nature but just in general to see if you two click.

[robhazelnut]

If it's for something like board-game nights and both of them have enough consciousness (that is, the ability to make decicions no matter what their instincts sre doing), then no problem.

[tiff_tiff]

I have guy friends, but I have been told its less common when you get older. Kinda of sad if true.

[HawkPerception]

Yes they can. But usually only works when neither finds each other attractive or know that their personalities don't mesh for a relationship.

[DancingQueen16]

Sure because I have a boyfriend and a guy best friend and all three of us are best friends

[douride2]

I have a guy friend. We have know each other since back in grade school. Just friends nothing more. If he has ever thought different he has kept it to himself.

[Siri137]

Yes, I've had LOTS of Platonic relationships! :)

[journmarie]

I think no. It’s rare for those friendships to remain as friends.

[SolitarySolace]

It can start out that way but it always develops into more even by accident. Which is why I don’t have any female friends only female coworkers

[RedInnocent68]

Yes. That doesn’t necessarily mean there isn’t sexual tension, particularly if she’s attractive. You can control biology, but you can’t overcome it.

[Sasha0426]

I guess I’m in the clear because my guy friends don’t see me attractive. So there are exceptions.

[SotiCoto]

Men plural and woman singular?

... That might be pushing it, unless she is stringing them all along.

[Wood3nWhal3]

It's always best to just start every acquaintance as friends. I find it to be less pressure for both sides and if things do escalate then it's better then too

[Kingofkings1992]

Men and women can be friends through their partner, or as a group, but a long term one on one friendship? That can’t be done between two adults. One person will always end up catching feelings.

[Fireguy17]

yes, I have several women that I am friends with, I see them more as another sister.

[Sasha0426]

There are exceptions. If they see you attractive, they want to bang you. If not, they won’t touch you and see you only friend material.

[linka_pat307]

Yeah... its even one of the best relationship

[Anonymous]

People who think not probably don’t see women as people

[Nikki1989]

Yeah, it really says a lot about them.

[Anonymous]

Most of your "platonic" male friends would fuck you if given the chance. Just sayin.

[Sasha0426]

That’s only if they see you attractive. If they don’t, they don’t want to touch you.

[admles]

Yeah, one of my best friends is female and it's 100% platonic

[LiamJHayden]

Yes for many of us, but a lot seem to be incapable of doing so.

[mandyfire98]

I have close friends that are men and women.

[TallAnon]

As long as you understand that basically all those men do want to fuck you

[elaphe]

Absolutely. Some of my best friends are female. But occasionally it has evolved into something more.

[Anonymous]

Yes! Any guy that thinks you can't have a platonic relationship with a woman, hasn't had much experience with woman.

[NathanDavis]

I just call it friendship

[Nikki1989]

Yes, most of my friends are guys.

[Nikki1989]

It is hilarious that men are saying NO on here when it is simply not the case. Just because some men think it can't happen doesn't make it right.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

My answer will always be yes.

[whereismyjohnny]

Yes, they can.

[genericname85]

yes. it's called "friendship" xD

[Anonymous]

I know from experience that they can.

[Anonymous]

Of course I have tons

[Crankor]

Depends if they find you attractive or not

[dolemite58]

only if the guy isn’t attracted to the girl

[wiltingrosepetal]

Yeah of course

[vicphilips]

Unfortunately yes 🤷‍♂️

[Slim57]

If they're not attracted to each other

[FunkyMonkee]

I can.

[cherriibly]

Yes they can

[Nifrayu]

Of course.

[grega239]

Why though?

[captain_voidwalker]

Nope.

[whoslulu]

HELL YES

[riverrat3]

They can

[Anonymous]

I believe so.