Do you feel a little sadness when someone who has lived with you - leaves?

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I no longer needed any help with cooking, or a surveillance that I won’t fall, I am doing great on crutches, so I decided to let my housekeeper go and only hire her 2-3 times a week, to come and clean the apartment as well as help me with cooking.

She has lived with me for a month though and today, I was sitting on the balcony looking out at the sun, as she left, she came and hugged me, kissed my hand for a sign of gratitude and respect I think, even though I felt very shy she did it, I hugged her back and told her, I’ll miss her.

As she was leaving, I looked at her closing the door and the moment, door closed, I felt a tiny bit sadness.

Why do I get so easily attached?

Goodbyes are sad, at least, the first 10 minutes they are.

CalmUntilAbused · Accepted Answer

I kind of find it alarming, or maybe disturbing, that You describe the symptoms of being a proper human being as something abnormal. We human beings live in packs. I guess that You knew Your housekeeper long enough for Her become a part of Your "pack", and once She left, Your "pack" became somewhat lacking. Furthermore, She's been a great help to You, so it's natural for You to be grateful for that and to want to spend more time with a kind person (even if that kindness is somewhat a part of the housekeeping job - if She is naturally kind, You have probably caught on to that little detail and valued Her even more). So... Yeah... You're a proper human being, or even more than that (I guess I know a thing or two about Your kindness myself). If that's abnormal, then this world is going to the dogs and there's no saving it. Sadness might be a bit painful, but as long as it's not utter despair, it's simply a proof that we are living, feeling human beings and not some robots.

love_conquers_lust · Accepted Answer

I’ve never cohabitated. It’s usually been me moving to one place or another. I did feel similar when I’d finished looking after my sister and nephew earlier this year.

I care more about the development of my nephew after having spent three months clothing, changing, bathing, babysitting, feeding, transporting, and entertaining him. He’s talking now and his vocabulary is growing.

You’ll still get to see her. She was taking care of you. I assume she’d earned your trust, which is why you feel the void.

You’ll be okay. Once you’re mobile, you’ll be out there in no time leaving voids in other people’s hearts pining for your return.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Welcome to 2023. Human interaction is rare. The world is inside your phone. Whenever you do have someone physically around for more than a few hours, the planets have aligned. As an introvert, I don’t mind it. Sometimes I wouldn’t mind going back to the 90s or 2000s though.

ComsicMairah95 · Accepted Answer

Emotional detachness syndrome, you've become attached to someone and when thry leave they leave a viod

Sevenpointfive · Answer

that's not a goodbye. you're still going to see her 2-3 times a week.  but you do seem to get attached quickly to people. i get it. it's hard to find good people.

LiamJHayden · Answer

The only ones who lived with me who left were my parents, and as those departures were via death, it was more than a little sadness.

RingOfFire · Answer

You are a fascinating person. So many dimensions.

Anonymous · Answer

Someone who was with you for just 2-3 weeks? NO LOL

WhitneySnow · Answer

I get easily attached too

Danny_dan92 · Answer

That’s how my mom still feels to this day

CubaPirate · Answer

No it was a huge relief when the kids left

Anonymous · Answer

yes i feel it too

Do you feel a little sadness when someone who has lived with you - leaves?

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