How perfectionism effects relationships?

[Anonymous]

I am perfectionist. I know its bad but i can not control it. I had never a girlfriend in my whole life.

[Oliverlogan263]

Being a perfectionist can definitely make relationships tough, man. I struggle with it too sometimes. Here are a few ways it can impact things:

- You might have unrealistic expectations of your girl and of yourself in the relationship. No one's perfect though.

- It can be hard to just go with the flow and enjoy natural imperfect moments. Little problems seem huge.

- You could end up being way too critical or hard on your girl when she messes up somehow. That'll drive her away fast.

- Always seeking perfection might make it difficult to be truly vulnerable or intimate. Can't let your guard down.

- Could cause you to miss out on potentially great girls because you're focused on hypothetical "perfect" ones.

My advice would be to work on accepting that relationships take effort and will have ups and downs. Cut yourself and your girl some slack. Also communicate - let her know about your perfectionist side so she doesn't take it personally. And try enjoying the journey more instead of obsessin' over the destination, ya know?

You'll find your girl man, don't stress. Just focus on being the best version of yourself and appreciating what's real in front of you. You got this!

[Asker]

Thank you for this long and helpful comment. It really helped 👍🏽

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome man

[Anonymous]

Those kinds of people tend to be total bores and have the personality of a bag of rocks.