Guys who couldn't get a girlfriend to save their life and then finally got one, did she act jealous as if you had women all over you?

[Anonymous]

For many years I believed I would die a virgin. Then when I finally got my first girlfriend, she was constantly worried that I had women all over me. Women flirting with me left right and center.

And in fact, every woman I ever dated, even my ex wife, all believed that I was like this super player. Like I was just this irresistible cassanova with women.

It was just absurd to me. I would say "you realize that before you I couldn't get a date to save my life right?" And she would just ignore that and continue believing that I'm irresistable to women.

This is such a bizarre phenomenon that I had to ask the other guys about this.

And ladies, what is up with that? How can you date a guy who is as dry as the desert in the dating world and become fearful that he is suddenly going to become a player with women all over him?

Does that ever happen? Is all a guy needs is for one woman to be into him and suddenly he has plenty of women to choose from?

[LazerBean]

in my opinion it seems like its because those women think the man will just take whatever they can get because they are so desperate. So then if something slightly better comes along they will try to latch onto that because they aren't used to having options and making choices for any reason other than desperation.

[Asker]

It's funny as desperate as i was I would reject any girl that wasn't cute or was fat.

At the same time, I DID "settle" for less than what I wanted. But I wanted Mrs. Sexy and beautiful and could never have her.

So I rejected a lot of girls who were like 1-4 out of 10. But as soon as a 5 liked me I was like "welp this is the best I can get."

And I was never happy with what I got. I always wanted at least a 6 or 7. I could be happy wirh that. But not a 5 or below. I would feel depressed.

Not that the numbers themselves matter that much. It's just that there's a level that if I go below that, and imagine marrying a ugly or fat girl, it makes me depressed.

As I got older I realized I'd rather just stay alone than to date someone not cute.

And so alone I will stay because it's not worth looking at someone who isn't nice to look at for the rest of my life.

[LazerBean]

So yeah it's a pretty accurate assessment them

[Jamie05rhs]

@Asker What happened to the one you had?

[Asker]

I was always the shy dude. But I learned confidence later in life. I pretty much dumped every girl I dated. The 5's that I saw as the best I could possibly get.

Nowadays I could conceivably get a 8 or 9.

But now I just want love and kids and marriage.

But I'm not going to fall in love with, marry, and have kids with an ugly fat girl that's for sure.

If she wants me to be strong and confident than she has to be the equal and opposite that men want which is beautiful and sexy.

I'm not gonna be the strong confident me I am now and settle for a woman who thinks looks shouldn't matter.

It does matter. Strong confidence is = to looks. It's just women define THEIR sexuality as the moral and "deeper than surface level"

They do it so that ugly girls can get the strong confident man too. Nah bitch.

[Jamie05rhs]

@LazerBean Funny how he avoided my question.

[LazerBean]

@Jamie05rhs lol just an average blue anon

[Anonymous]

You know the wedding ring phenomenon that men experience? Adam Sandler had a movie that addressed that particular phenomenon? That is what is happening to you.

[jamesgoldman]

The first girlfriend knew me for a couple of years so that didn't happen

The second knew me for a few months and yeah that did happen but she explained as women know what other women are like and that was that really

[Anonymous]

you are older now, older women can be more insecure due to competition

[Billlewis]

I think that's definitely true.

[Akam93]

Are you to handsome for them?

[Anonymous]

Not Unusual for guys to be late bloomers sadly

[Jamie05rhs]

Yeah; ikr?