Why would a guy try to make a girl he rejected jealous?

[Anonymous]

Before anyone says that I'm being delusional, I'm not. He really is trying to.

[BrittBratt2416]

Just wants the ego boost of knowing someone he doesn't want wants him and wants a reaction from you. He could have also realized that he made a dumb decision and actually likes you and wants your attention back. But it really seems like he's just wants the attention, don't give him any and move on.

[Asker]

What kind of reaction does he want?

[BrittBratt2416]

um.. jealousy?

[Asker]

Yeah but he rejected me so why does he want to make me jealous? That's what my question is all about Lol

I shouldn't even exist for him for him now.

[BrittBratt2416]

My reasons is up above.

[Aelin]

Unfortunately, Many people like to have a "just in case".

They are that person that likes them that they'd never really date, but they want to keep them around as a fall back to make them feel more secure.

[Turtleluv]

The same reason anyone picks on someone else, because they can and you care.

[Asker]

Well it seems like a pretty asshole move.

[Kapakani]

1st) what leads you to believe he's trying to make you jealous?

2nd) Feelings change quite often, one minute a guy or girl who's rejected, can easily see you in different light from time or seeing you in a certain situation that made them get to know you better. Happens.

[Manicsin]

Because he's emotionally stunted and either wants you secretly not now but in the future when his options dry up or he has little self-esteem and your his emotional punching bag either way keep your distance.

[Asker]

That's the weird part, he doesn't have any other girls. He seems shy. He is also very immature and I think he does have low self-esteem.

[Manicsin]

He doesn't have any you know of or at least he has his eye on someone there is options c and d in other cases c being he likes you but wants someone else and is trying to convince himself otherwise or option d he's gay still run your either to young or to old for it everyone is he sounds young immature any other guy would at least be friendly as to keep their options open for the future hell what guy doesn't think oh I should be nice to her I may need her for a three way which leads me to think gay just no interest in women.

[psychosam]

I really don't know. Thats an extremely bizarre way to behave

[Asker]

Exactly. It is bizarre.

[Griffyth]

He wants a proof that you truly like him. Or you're just imagining things.

[aestheticsofty]

He's trying to boost his ego and make him feel good about himself, that a girl likes him.

[robert2242]

He wants you to wait for him to want you. He's stupid, and I wouldn't wait on him.

[TheNoOne]

Girls do it I don’t see why guys wouldn’t either. Just try to ignore and focus your attention on someone more deserving he will get tired after awhile.

[Asker]

No. It would make sense for a guy/girl to make the person who rejected them jealous. I'm the one who's been rejected in this case. So I really don't see the point.

[TheNoOne]

He probably just wants to keep you keen for his own validation. Afternoon he could use it to boost his confidence with the girls he is interested in. Woman string guys a long for same reason.

[Asker]

He doesn't have any other girls. That's the weird thing. I have no idea why he rejected me after showing that he likes me for months.

[TheNoOne]

How and in what way did he reject you?

[Asker]

Well I told him I like him but he didn't give me an answer.

[TheNoOne]

Is he the shy type maybe he doesn’t know yet? I think for now put it behind you. He could be shy and couldn’t say it back but it’s not your problem you had more balls than him. I would just use it as learning experience to help you with the next guy.

[Asker]

Yeah he seems very shy and inexperienced because he just keeps staring at me all the time and is always nervous and awkward around me. I told him through text that I like him and he didn't respond to that.

[TheNoOne]

... You don’t sound to experience yourself through text well that changes things disregard what I said before. He probably misunderstood and thinks he is friend zoned. You should try showing your into him in person. Text is impersonal and easily misread so next time you see him be courageous and forward make it fairly clear your like him sexually and see how he reacts. If he is shy he might freak out a bit but it should clear the air when thinks it over. Shy people take awhile to get anywhere with and unfortunately more difficult than your average crush. Good luck you can still win him over I think you just need to be more persistent and direct rather through text.

Also next time you ask a question like this you might want to consider adding more details so we can help you better.

[Asker]

I'm pretty shy myself so there was no way I could tell him I like him face to face. So a text was the only option. So you're saying he hasn't rejected me?

And you're right, I should've added details in the question.

[TheNoOne]

It seems he didn’t know he rejected you by not responding. I assume he believes you only see him as friend and since he could read your body language or see any signals he framed it as “I like you your such a great friend”. His self esteem wouldn’t allow him to consider it to be confession he sees you as wanting and deserving better. He is trying to make you jealous because he feels powerless to do anything about his feelings and is falsely believes if you get frustrated enough to act and chase him and escalate things. He doesn’t know your feeling as powerless as him so right idea poor dynamics. As a former Shy guy we easily miss read signals no matter how obvious it seems to you it’s not in his nature to believe his crush actually likes him back so he doubts everything. He probably isn’t going to suddenly become assertive and forward himself over night which means you need to grab the ball and give him some encouragement. If you don’t then you might as well forget about him

[TheNoOne]

You have to be the braver one again and get things moving forward Because he can’t. The only way to get anywhere is in person you got to pluck up your courage and start moving things slowly towards less platonic situations and vibe. Try to make him feel like a man complement him, ask for his help on something, if one on one is too much try to arrange group activities where you can relax and open up. Hang out in social setting where you don’t have to worry about time or protocols. If you got good friends have them help as well when you falter since support will make things easier. But you need to eventually move to one on one hang outs where you turn up the charm and create opportunities for him to realize your into him too then hopefully he will hopefully grow a pair and escalate.

[Asker]

But we're not friends.

[Ankit_Singh_Aley]

Maybe he is a bitchy-ass person or he is not mature enough.

[Asker]

He's very immature, I know that.

[queenlion]

I think it's to hurt her even more. To make her feel that he's not really into her. That she needs to wake up now and stop dreaming about getting him cos she's been rejected already. Just my opinion. :)

[Máiiréad]

To boost his stupid ego.

[Asker]

That's really low.

[Asker]

And petty

[Máiiréad]

Yeah but it happens.

[Asker]

You've experienced it?

[Máiiréad]

Oh I’ve seen it happen to so many people, guys and girls. I can spot it from a mile away.

[Asker]

Can you give some examples?

[Máiiréad]

Some people will flirt with you and lead you on even though they aren’t even remotely interested. Then when they know they have your interest, they’ll go and flirt/get with someone else right in front of you. They’re viscous.

[Asker]

Does this appy for shy guys too?

[Asker]

*Apply

I meant shy and inexperienced guys

[Máiiréad]

Shy guys are less likely to do it but it is still possible.

[Asker]

Oh ok. Thanks.

[SnapTsch]

He wants to get a reaction out of you
And he is successful, since it is bothering you so much

[Asker]

Trying to get a reaction out of me? For what?

[SnapTsch]

To make you want him more

[Asker]

I already wanted him but he has rejected me. So what does he want now?

[SnapTsch]

Because he is a shitty person who finds enjoyment in making you suffer

[Asker]

So guys do this kind of stuff? He's such a nice person to everyone else.

[SnapTsch]

Not all guys

But shitty people are shitty people irrespective of gender, race or sexual orientation.

[serious]

He is trying to see if you still like him or not.

[Asker]

Aren't there better ways to do that? This seems really pathetic.

[serious]

Yes it's pathetic, childish and immature. Just ignore him, don't give him any kind of attention.

[Asker]

I am ignoring him but I'm just hurt by what he's doing.

[zombiebabe]

he might be doing it to boost his ego

[Asker]

That sounds really pathetic and low.

[Asker]

It's like rubbing salt in the wound.

[zombiebabe]

i kno i kno

[justsayDrPhil]

Cause he wants to keep you waiting on deck so when things go bad with his main he can have a pillow or sofa or futon to fall on

[winterfox10]

He just likes seeing her get upset about it. He’s being a jerk!

[kamalravi25]

He is just showing that he can be happy without you... And making you feel guilty about leaving you.

[ItsYaBoySkinnyPen-is]

Maybe he changed his mind. Maybe he is not trying to.

[jumpingbeans]

another form of a rejection bully.

[Anonymous]

He sounds very insecure.

[thegr8lion]

May be he wants you running after him

[Asker]

Why?

[thegr8lion]

Even girls love that , guys running after them don't they?

[Asker]

So he's just having some fun?

[thegr8lion]

Yup...

[Asker]

Oh Ok

[eagle1951]

he's being a jerk, and showing off