Why would a girl try to make a guy jealous?

[Anonymous]

Why would a girl try and make a guy jealous by ignoring and flirting with another guy in front of him? Why do girls do this and what do they hope to achieve by doing this?

[SuperNurse42]

This has happened to me a couple times.

There's multiple things it could mean. It could be her way of saying she's not interested. It could be the game where they want you to be competitive and pursue them more. It could be that she has attention issues, and just wants people to desire her and be jealous over her.

I'm sure there's a lot more, and I'm curious to hear the ladies responses.

Personally I don't waste time with shit like that.

[Asker]

I don't either and it only tends to have an effect on insecure men who put the girl in question on a pedestal.

I await for a response by a girl.

[politicallywrong]

Because she's an evil bitch. Ignore her. We guys need to send women a message that we will not tolerate bad behavior. The reason so many women act like this is because so many guys put up with it.

[Asker]

You're so right bro.

[channel]

Guys do the same. They allso try to make girls jealous

[Drewsef93]

@channel Not nearly as often, men are very simple creatures. We are almost always straight forward in our actions. That's not to say that guys dont do it too though.

[feliciaaa]

I'm not one of these girls because drama and games aren't really my thing, but I do have plenty of friends that do this all the time. Sometimes it's an ex that they are trying to make jealous to prove a point, that they are doing just fine without him. If you're not an ex the girl is probably trying to get a reaction out of you, either because she wants you to step up or she is testing to see what kind of guy you are, if you like her and so on.

[Asker]

Okay, that's an eye-opener, I'm not an ex of her's, just someone she has known for a few years.

[feliciaaa]

Glad it helped :) and as for the text.. Have you ever heard of the push and pull technique? Like talking to you often for a amount of time and then she go completely mia? A lot of guys do it to girls but it's also the other way around, and the whole getting him jealous-thing is often a part of it.

[Asker]

Ok, so she's playing the game to a T is she? :D

[feliciaaa]

Sorry, I don't know what that means lol!

[Asker]

I meant she is playing the classic hard to get game.

[feliciaaa]

Oh haha, I'm from Sweden so my English isn't that good, sorry. :)
Honestly, who knows, girls that play games are damn tricky lol. Nothing I'd expect someone around 25 to still pursue, it's childish.

[misscocobutter]

There's a few possibilities. She likes the guy and wants to get his attention and show him she has competition. She doesn't like the guy and is oblivious and likes the guy she's flirting with. She knows the guy likes her and she gets an ego boost from making him jealous.

[Asker]

See we flirt and tease each other all the time, it's constant and she seems to enjoy touching me notably my shoulders. Now I have never taken much notice of this because she is quite a flirtatious person, so I am just one of many. That's cool with me, I flirt too.

What happened was I didn't acknowledge her when she walked past me, and as I was coming up a flight of stairs, we passed each other and didn't acknowledge each other, but she tapped the lad behind me on the shoulder and said "how's my favourite guy doing today?" and I found it amusing and so did he, but it did come across as her way of either trying to get my attention or make me jealous and that's not something I thought of initially until the guy pointed it out to me later on.

[misscocobutter]

I think in that scenario she wanted your attention and you ignoring her made her mad so she flirted with the other guy. It's doewnt necessarily mean she wants to do anymore than flirt with you though.

[Asker]

Yeah I know that as I say she has to prove to me she genuinely she likes me, I am not getting played. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt and I sure don't want another t-shirt.

[misscocobutter]

Me too oh boy did I get that fricking t-shirt!

[Asker]

Yeah it's not a nice t-shirt to be given. :D

[DasBlaueKonigin]

THe male will get annoyed that his female, "his" in the context that he likes her not possessive, is with another and that she no longer favours him. Thus he will attempt toearn her back.

I think it is fucking stupid.

[Asker]

It sounds very stupid I must say but it's all very adorable.

[Asker]

So do you think she likes me or just wants my attention?

[DasBlaueKonigin]

She is trying to make you jealous thus she wants both.

I need more signs to determine if she likes you.

[Asker]

She'll touch me, teases me, mocks me, she's spread rumours about me, she has said she misses me a few times, she said she didn't want to be with a guy that everyone has linked her with and that she'd have to settle for me. She gives me the biggest smile when we first see each other in the week and hold a long period of eye contact with me.

[DasBlaueKonigin]

What type of rumours?

[Asker]

Rumours about me seeing multiple girls.

[DasBlaueKonigin]

That is weird. Sounds like she does like you.

[Asker]

Very weird and she asked another dude when he'll take her out, so it makes me believe that she isn't interested in me just my attention - which is fine, no biggie, I'm not head over heels for her or anything.

[DasBlaueKonigin]

Oh then she is an attention seeker.

[Asker]

Yeah she is. So I'm right to not take her seriously and want not much to do with her.

[DasBlaueKonigin]

Yes.

[Asker]

Should I ignore her and give her no attention at all?

[DasBlaueKonigin]

Yes. you should.

[Asker]

Okie Dokie.

[Marge308]

Because I want him to make a move by provoking him. By that I mean I tried to make myself look appraochable before but he didn't make a move so I try to make another guy a threat to him.

[Asker]

So that's her game is it? Well can you explain to me that when I texted her, she didn't reply back? I saw that as a sign of disinterest and saw her flirting and teasing, touching and comments about her 'settling for me' as a sign of just harmless banter.

[Marge308]

I don't know, if i liked a guy I would have replied for sure. Did she see the text?

[Asker]

I've got no idea, I never asked because I wasn't too bothered, I just deleted her number after a couple of days.

[Marge308]

Maybe she actually didn't see it, i think you shouldn't give up just because of this.

[Asker]

We'll see, she has to prove to me she's serious and not clowning about because I am not wasting my time pursuing someone who isn't interested.

[Marge308]

Well good luck :)

[Asker]

Thx. :)

[abzence]

Because some people think that jealousy is a sign of caring.

Like somehow people who don't get jealous can't care. Weird, I know.

[Asker]

A small amount of jealousy in way shows that you care, but even if I was jealous by this incident (which I wasn't) I'm hardly going to show a weakness by showing that I was jealous. I believe in not allowing another person to dictate my feelings or my actions.

[abzence]

You can care and be jealous at the same time, sure. But in no way is jealousy a requirement for caring. It's convenient to use jealously as a sign of caring because that gives a person an excuse to not work on the things that causes the feelings of jealousy.

Jealousy is fundamentally either a fear of losing someone or a strong need to control and own another individual. Neither of those things are required for a person to care or love another.

[Asker]

That's what I think too, but I wasn't jealous. I just don't see why a girl would try to make someone jealous. I mean what will she achieve by doing so?

[abzence]

I'm not saying you were.
I'm simply saying that many people think that jealousy is a sign of caring. So this girl thought that if she could make you jealous it would reveal to her whether you cared for her or not. It's silly games many play.

[Asker]

It is silly games, but I honestly think she just wants my attention will dangle the proverbial carrot in front of me to keep me around, now as I suspect that's her game, I shall fight fire with fire and withdraw my attention completely.

[abzence]

Sounds like a strategy. Not giving her attention will drive her crazy.

[Asker]

I'll still say hi to her and ask her how she is, but I won't flirt with her or tease her, I'll keep things cordial and brief. I think that's for the best, plus I like a girl and want to pursue that avenue, so I am not really that interested in this girl other than for a bit of unwitty banter.

[Hannah591]

It's a way to get the guy to want her more and work for her usually. But that game is for juveniles, not decent women.

[Drewsef93]

Amen, I recently spent a day with a girl I like and we ended up making out. She was actually the one that wanted to set up a date with me even though she's been playing the hot and cold game for awhile. Anyway the same day she said her friends asked her out on a double date with some random dude and she felt the need to tell me. It's frustrating as hell.

[Triple]

To make you want her or to get your attention. Like if she flirted she did it so you can act all protective over her and be hers like a boyfriend I guess

[Asker]

Okay, hmmm.

[xxDanDangg]

Maybe coz she wants more of your attention? She wants to see you care

[Asker]

But she seems to want a lot of people's attention, she asked another guy when he was taking her out. I mean come on, I know she's single and entitled to act as she pleases, but she can't then get angry with me when I don't take her seriously can she?

[Anonymous]

To get his attention, and to show him, that he isn't the only one who want's her. Hoping to achieve, that he want's her, and see her as worth more when he finally gets her. Like, she is a price.

[Asker]

But what happens when the guy thinks he's the prize? :D

[Opinion Owner]

He is not the price, SHE is the price, and he have to earn her :) Even if she is crazy for him, she doesn't want herself, to seem easy to get.

[Asker]

So she's playing hard to get?

[Opinion Owner]

If she likes you, then maybe. You have to make a move, in order to know if she does :)

[Asker]

I won't a make unless I get some serious signs that she likes me which I do, but then how do I know she's not like this with everyone else? Hmmm, we'll see where it goes.

[Opinion Owner]

You have be in the race, in order to win the race. You can't just expect the goal line, to come to you :)

[Asker]

Very true, we'll see what happens, I am not outcome dependent, so if I get with her it happens, if I don't it doesn't, there's plenty more girls around.

[Opinion Owner]

Thats a good way to look at it :)

[ambitious_chic94]

Because she really likes you and wants to see where your head is.

[Asker]

She did pass a comment under her breath about not knowing what is going on inside my head a few weeks ago. Hmmm, maybe she really does like me then.

[ambitious_chic94]

Yes she does, I've done that before myself to someone I truly liked. He got kind of jealous but that let me know that he actually cared :)

[Asker]

I'm still in two minds if she likes me or not and if she's serious or not, I mean she did ask another guy when he was taking her out, so that makes me think "she's not interested in you, she just wants your attention, she just wants male attention". Now I am not knocking her for pursuing men, flirting around and doing whatever she wants, she's not my girlfriend, so she can do what she likes, but you can kinda see why I haven't taken her seriously, right?

[ambitious_chic94]

Yes I see... but two questions...1) how often do you spend time together? And 2) have she ever been jealous about your actions?

[Asker]

We don't spend much time together if at all, I see her once or twice a week for a small period of time. Has she ever been jealous of my actions? I don't know - she has teased me a lot about one girl I asked out earlier this year which she started doing recently and she recently teased me about complimenting one of her friends and then proceeded to spread rumours that I was trying to get with those two girls and she joked around saying how she'd be the third girl behind the other two. She has also passed comment that I don't compliment her. Not sure if any of that is relevant though.

[Asker]

She has also said she misses me on a few occasions too which makes me think she either really likes me as a friend or really does genuinely like me.

[ambitious_chic94]

It sound like she's playing games. But she has def been jealous b4.

[Asker]

If she has been jealous it's obviously because she wasn't getting my attention.

[GoldCobra]

So she gets more attention from him

[Asker]

That's so cute.

[Anonymous]

Girls do this because they are insane !