Guys, what does an average woman look like to you? Is she more or less desirable for relationships?

[bobalife]

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explain the reasons why she would be more/less desirable.

[RebelinSteel]

The average woman is pretty much every woman you see in your day to day life. The only way to work out the average woman is to ignore social media, social expectations, the media etc. Then you need to decide what goes into that Average bucket.
her looks, her intelligence, her finances, her sense of humour, her ability to communicate, her height, her compassion, her emotional compatibility, and more I have missed.

from each of those you are working out Go / No Go based on your own specific requirements and where you put the value / weighting. For some that is only on looks and the rest do not matter as much, others it’s looks and finances, must look good and have cash with that person not overly concerned about the rest.

For me the most important bits are things like sense of humour, I want above average, her emotional compatibility that is critical, her intelligence, ability to communicate all must be above average, the rest including looks I am happy with average, for finances if the rest tick the boxes, she can be jobless (she could be doing her master, doctorate etc).
It is about having realistic expectations on what you decide is important and where each fits in the average bucket, what is important to you and ignoring what soceity and social media expects.

[bobalife]

Very well said sir. It's articulate and beautifully written for me to have a better understanding of the framework and how it is applied into consideration for a relationship/attraction. What does an everyday avg woman looks like to you?

[RebelinSteel]

The average woman looks like the next person you pass in the street, she may have long hair short hair, it maybe blonde, black, brown, pink, green, blue or a mix of those colours, she may have tattoos or she might have none, she would range between 5’2 and 6’2, the looks side of things is not as important as the other side of things, the humour, the emotional compatibility, etc. short version she could look like Helen of Troy but if she had zero sense of humour or emotional compatibility then she could look like she chased buses for a living.

[bobalife]

Lmao omgersh, chasing buses for a living… 😂😂😂

[RebelinSteel]

Well you know what I mean, that image paints a thousand words lol

[bobalife]

I do, it’s just such a burn & you’re hilarious as always 😂

[bobalife]

I guess I’ll just be chasing boba tea 🧋🙃

[RebelinSteel]

As are you

[bobalife]

Lol aw you think I'm funny?

[RebelinSteel]

Yep, and a good taste in cosy blankets

[bobalife]

hehe thank you, I definitely like 'em all warm, snuggling, and keeping me in good company til 3am..

[RebelinSteel]

Someone should be sleeping post movies

[bobalife]

Lol maybe, someone is abit distracting with dat apron… do you want me to go to dreamland?

[sawno]

Depends on your definition of average, if she is my definition of average she is less desirable and possibly not even desirable for a relationship. Because my average is a 5/10 and I include the ugliest people to balance that out. So if I rate her as average then there's something off-putting about her but not enough for me to consider her ugly, but she won't be attractive to me.

A lot of people though consider averagely pretty an average girl, then we are talking about the 7 out of 10 range or slightly below or above. Those girls are desirable for relationships because it means I find her attractive and if she has the personality I seek then that's 10/10 compatibility material. But its not like its suddenly more desirable than usual, she'd have to be above average for that combined with the nice personality.

[bobalife]

This is for your opinion lol. Thanks for your well information. You’re going by ratings, but what I’m asking is what does an average woman looks like for you.

[sawno]

That would be the first one of the question, so she's right in between ugly and pretty. So for example reasonable features but something ruins my attraction and that can be anything. From weight to something ruining the way her face looks. I am attracted to faces and a skinnier build so its usually one of those two. Other noteworthy ones are girls who ruined their body such as girls with butt implants, botox that kind of stuff. Basically anything that takes away from the shape I enjoy without crossing over in that plain ugly territory.

[bobalife]

lol the "u" word kind of stings, but thanks for being so honest and your insights.

[ProbablyClueless]

It's not an appearance-based thing, but I'm generally not interested in dating the vast majority of the women I've met throughout the years. It's a personality/emotional/spiritual hygiene thing. A lot of the Western women I've known have given off a vibe of being these generally angry, judgmental, touchy, aggressive, controlling people. I'm just not interested in having someone like that around me.

I know there are also fantastic women out there too. I've got my fingers crossed that I'll meet one, one day.

[Gigerpimp]

Smart funny fun to talk too a little on the shy side in public but able to open up one on one willing to put up with the freak in the bed I can be once we've worked up to that point not afraid of a challenge aexual there's a few other little things 😉

[patrick994]

I have always been attracted to average-looking women, I think they are desirable because they have a simpler and less contrived appearance than many models who use filters or various make-up.

The point is that I have noticed that average-looking women have too many demands, they want a perfect man at all costs.

[HighValue]

She would be a 5 in looks to be average. That is the minimum for physical looks, but personality, morals, interests, etc. all need to be significantly higher than the physical looks standard to be compatible long term.

For example, a 5 in moral or long term life goal compatibility is completely unacceptable to me.

[ColHathi]

Not sure how to answer what an average woman looks like 🤔 But she wouldn't be less desirable to me. It's possible that she'd be more desirable for a relationship actually, because I imagine we'd be better able to get along than say a highly physically attractive woman.

[bobalife]

why is that?

[ColHathi]

Because I was never one of the popular kids, and generally speaking I imagine a really physically attractive woman would have grown up as one of those more popular kids, and so probably won't have struggled with some of the things that I have struggled with or have been humbled by. I imagine a highly physically attractive woman might be a bit too shallow or judgmental for me, though I'm open to being wrong ofc. I also imagine we wouldn't have the same sort of interests 🤷‍♂️ But an average woman might.

[bobalife]

Thanks for sharing your personal experience. I understand it sounds like you want someone who can relate to your experiences and understand you better as an individual/couple. I'm sorry you feel that way, but I can assure you its not true. Some "popular kids" in high school may not be the same in their adulthood lol. It's easier to judge someone by their looks than getting to know who they are. I'd like to encourage people to get to know someone because you never know what their true character and personality is until then.

[ColHathi]

Oh no, I know that not all popular kids are like that. I'd give anyone the benefit of the doubt :) I was just saying that in general that would be my expectation.

[bobalife]

Oh that’s good to hear! I’m sure you’ll find someone who understands your background rather they may or may not went through a similarly. 😊

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

If a woman has average looks, then one would expect her to shine in other areas like cooking. The way to a man's heart is his stomach.

[bobalife]

Interesting lol what is Avg looks to you and what will that make you think she would be holding those traditional skills?

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

If she doesn't look good and can't cook then perhaps she can paint, or sing or play a musical instrument? If she can't do anything like that, then that's just boring and uninspiring.

My finances are in order so that anything she can or might want to earn is of no consequence to me and the lifestyle I offer. However, I can cook because it's a hobby and I love to cook for my partner as a way to show my appreciation. I took up painting and drawing too and I am quite good at it as to impress and bring a smile when I sketch a portrait with willow charcoal such as of my sister and her newborn.

I would ask this: what is she bringing to the relationship? What is special about her?

[bobalife]

What does Avg looks to you though? Oh wow, I never knew talent was a requirement for a relationship material 🤔😂 It’s very thoughtful of you, I think someone will be lucky to be with you someday.

[bobalife]

Well then again I guess talent can be for some. I forgot I used to have it as a requirement in my early 20s for dancers and artists 😅😂

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

Average looks to me is boring and uninspiring. Therefore, I would look past that for something I can appreciate or treasure or be attracted to (e. g. a passion and tatent for the arts that we might share, sporting achievements, or really impressive philanthropy like Médecins Sans Frontières, etc).

I think people have to have a talent. Usually the go to is a talent for looks. So, if you can't compete in looks then you have to compete some other way.

[bobalife]

Lmao I don't know if some girls compete in looks… or that’s more of a male thing. I just like being myself and what I know I can bring😌 but thanks for these insights on how some men thinks and perceive.

[shanshu]

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, who maybe sexy or average or desirable to some may not be to others.

Those who maybe unattractive or less desirable to some may be desire by other.

By the way you are sexy

[bobalife]

Aw why thank you!

[shanshu]

Like I said beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, you look sexy to me

[shanshu]

If you want to chat, feel free to message me

[Forceinhand]

Difficult to say without seeing the girl in question but it's pretty much a woman who isn't unattractive in any way but neither has anything about her physical appearance that stands out.

[bobalife]

Why hello, it has been a long time sir. New acct? Interesting. I guess I gotta go work on that…. 🤔

[fuddly]

Average woman to me

Has a head
Two arms
Two legs
Back side
Two boobs
Average face
Average hair
Average figure not too sexy, not too dumpy

Does that answer the question
🙂🙂🙂

[bobalife]

😂😂😂 baesic, yessireee loool

[fuddly]

Can i add bobalob, that you are much much much more above average
You are from your photo beautiful and very sexy too

[bobalife]

Aww, shucks, am I? Tysm 🥹

[kingmaker21]

Ma'am if I'm looking for long term relationship then look doesn't matter for me because as we grow beauty fades heart & nature grow. So heart n nature is more important than her outside looks.

Sorry I believe in old school love.

[Strong_Warrior]

I like submissive women, 18-24 years old range, anti feminist, love sex and hang out, good humour etc. If you are close to these, you will likely to be my girlfriend. If you are far from them then its a red flag for me.

[Anonymous]

Tbh most women are attractive by default assuming they take basic care of themselves. Those women are average, and I could easily be in a relationship with them if they don't have an awful personality.

[bobalife]

so what does an avg woman look like for you? so, I am hearing avg women are more desirable for relationships for you?

[Opinion Owner]

The average women who takes basic care (eat healthy, exercise, good hygiene, etc) of themselves (most do. At least where I am) are attractive, and yes, they are desirable.

[bobalife]

Lol if that’s average for you, then what does above avg looked like for you? 😅

[Opinion Owner]

I really don't see how anything I listed is hard to achieve. Lol it isn't like you have to be a huge fitness freak. Just don't eat like absolute shit, brush your teeth, and shower regularly and get some exercise every now and then.

I guess above average would be, in my opinion - all of those things, tall, perfect face, really just things people have no control over. Some women are just built different.

[bobalife]

LOL yeah, I couldn't agreed more. Hence, my next question haha. Thanks for your insights and sharing your preferences lol.

[Opinion Owner]

No problem at all lol

[Anonymous]

A white woman with brown eyes and blonde hair; about 5'6". Complains about her small A-cup boobs; but still runs 30 miles a day. Her wardrobe is a collection of sweaters and yoga pants. Not my type, but I would still date her.

[bobalife]

LOL how come?

[Opinion Owner]

How come what?

[bobalife]

How come you’ll still date her?

[Opinion Owner]

Physical attributes aren't the most important thing to pursuing a woman to marry. So if she is relatively attractive then I would date then.

[bobalife]

You seem like a good judge of character person, that’s awesome :)

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks

[LiamJHayden]

Oh, that's easy:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/hYNxOtguQj0

[IloveWinters]

An average woman by looks is fine, but average on personality is not desirable. Great personality traits are so important.

[bobalife]

Hm what’s avg looks and personality to you?

[IloveWinters]

Average looks means not so beautiful but decent cute types. Personality traits like : emotionally mature, having routines to stay fit, independent, confident, intellectual, street smart

[bobalife]

It really makes a girl question now what is considered decent cute… or if that’s me now 😅😂 those are some great qualities you identified

[IloveWinters]

Thanks haha

[Anonymous]

An average girl looks very attractive to me
It's very rare that I don't find a woman under 40 to be unattractive

[Opinion Owner]

Attractive *

[bobalife]

LOL what is average beauty to you then? I am sure most women will appreciate this. Well, I am under 40, I guess I made the cut lolz.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know women are just naturally sooo beautiful to me and that includes you too! ❤️
Not that women above 40 are not beautiful.. they are around my Mom's age so I don't see them that way

[bobalife]

Awww thank you! 🥺🤭

[Opinion Owner]

See you around 😌

[bobalife]

Lol see you around mister anonymous 😮

[Anonymous]

I like avg. Looking women like Kim Kardashian or Scarlet Johansson.

[bobalife]

Lol I see em as above average ladies

[jjj101010]

Average is hard to describe, I prefer real women to fake models

[jjj101010]

You much better than average though

[bobalife]

Aw thank you, it’s kind of you.

[Anonymous]

An average woman is for sure sexy and attractive for relationship and conversation!

[NathanDavis]

I don't really focus on these things (=

[bobalife]

that's very kind of you

[Grond21]

More or less compared to what?

[Liketotry]

Just average, not a lot of makeup 💄

[msc545]

Hell no.

[bobalife]

Lmao damn 🫠😂