Is having an addiction an excuse for this?

[Anonymous]

My partner has spiraled into addiction with crack. He has stolen money from my dad’s bank account (more than once) even sneaked in his house and took his bank card (my dad is blind) he denies all of this even when my dad caught him
In his hallway one day, does having an addiction excuse this behavior? And would you guys be able to forgive?

[Roudyrebel8]

Forgive yes but he should still be held responsible for his actions. And no it's not an excuse

[Asker]

So would you be able to carry on the relationship after this? I just ask because you say forgive?

[Roudyrebel8]

Forgiveness doesn't always mean things stay like they are, no I would not carry on the relationship by forgive I meant don't hold on to all the toxic emotions that go with it don't let him have any power over you which includes holding a grudge but by all means cut him out of your life. Don't know if that makes sense

[Asker]

Yeah I understand why you would say to forgive, like would you feel loved by your partner if he or she done those things to you. There is so much more I have went through and I’m unsure if I’m being emotionally abused by him …. 🥲

[Roudyrebel8]

Personally I wouldn't feel loved. He seems emotionally abusive to me. The main thing is I don't want to see this eat you up

[Asker]

The house we live in is his house & in his name and in the last year he has thrown me and the children out around five times all relating around me not being happy about his addictions …. One of his “ friends” also approached me last year and told me how he boasted to him
About cheating , all of this he obviously denies, he has now fallen out which the friend, and is saying that this guy groomed him, 🤷‍♀️

[Roudyrebel8]

I think you need to get as far away from him as fast as you can

[Nikki1989]

It is never an excuse.

[Anonymous]

Hell no.