My boyfriend's *enis is too hard that sex hurts?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend isn't bad in bed tho he rough sometimes I don't mind certain positions I can tolerate the pain but it's like a metal steel pipe being shoved into me and rubs to the point the friction hurts and doesn't feel good. I've bleed a few times and been bruised a couple times. so I limit the amount of time we have sex but making excuses that I'm busy or on period or have stuff to do. I'm thinking about breaking up with him I've been tolerating it for a year now and he doesn't take note or remember or calling me a cry baby or overreacting. He's gotten annoyed a few times at me as well when I bring it up. I like him a lot but it hurts way too much that I literally have to use ice down there afterwards or take painkillers. He's the first guy I've been with but I don't know if i can put up with this, does anybody else deal with this.

Updates

3 mo

None of the opinions were of any help at all. Maybe he's jus going too hard, dildo's don't hurt as much.

[sawno]

"rubs to the point the friction hurts" To me that doesn't sound like an issue with how hard he is, toys would be hard to right? Sounds more like a lubrication issue, have you two tried using lube?

[Asker]

He doesn't wanna use lube

[sawno]

If he doesn't want to use something you need during sex you are not sexually compatible.

[Paul09]

Sounds like he isn't good in bed. As much as you think he is. Sex is suppose to feel amazing not hurt. He probably goes into far and too hard. Sex communication is a must. I don't get why some men seem to only care about their own pleasure, rather than both having a good session.

[laly520]

sex shouldn't hurt and most likely the issue isn't in his penis
females vaginas can handle giving birth to a baby so penis is nothing
I suggest seeing a doc

[HateyouxD]

Could be an std

[laly520]

@HateyouxD yes I thought so

[Asker]

I get tested every month as recommended so I doubt it's that since nothing comes back positive.

[Asker]

Maybe its how rough he's going.

[laly520]

u gotta ask him to be more gentle cuz there is no point of sex if u aren't enjoying

[HateyouxD]

How you also describe how he's treating you he only cares for himself. That's not right

[guy_123]

Let's see...

If "the friction hurts" then you need lube. If he doesn't wanna cope with that then don't have sex with him. Some females may cum more after 4play which may eliminate the need for lube but I see that is not the case here.

If he only considers his own sexual feelings and desires after a year together "calling me a cry baby or overreacting" is another reason why he may not be as good in bed as you think. Of course you are crying if "it's like a metal steel pipe being shoved into me"!! If your boyfriend does not understand this, dump him. It is the best you can do for yourself.

I'm not surprised you are "thinking about breaking up with him" and I fully understand it and support you. You have no reason to "put up with this"... the relationship can only exist if both parties benefit from it. Good luck! :)

[Anonymous]

You're complaining because he's too hard? I don't get it.

[Asker]

To the point that sex hurts isn't normal.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok, but that's a you prblem, not a him problem.

[Anonymous]

What is an *enis?

[sawno]

An *enis is the kind of penis so hard that it makes you ask these kinds of questions. The * comes from the kind of censorship people use when they swear, like Holy F****. Applied to a penis the *enis makes the girl go "Holy F****" once used.

[Opinion Owner]

@sawno Why can't they just say penis and fuck like everyone else does on here?

[sawno]

No idea, but I could not resist the sarcasm xD

[Opinion Owner]

@sawno 👍

[Anonymous]

Well, have you discussed this with him?

[Asker]

I have mrh changes

[Asker]

No changes

[Opinion Owner]

Then maybe its time to move on.

[Anonymous]

Just say penis lol without blocking it out