What would you do if someone kissed you unexpectedly?

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Out of the blue.

To me it happened once. I was consoling this woman, she was going through a bad time and had drunk a couple of glasses. Out of the blue, she reached to me and kissed me on the lips. Was quite delicate about it, and not the typical drunken slobber.

I just pulled away and pretended nothing happened, she just mumbled she had drank too much. But she wasn't that drunk in my opinion, just used it as an excuse.

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I was already married at the time, so after some days I told my wife, for transparency.
She didn't care at all, she knew the woman, said that a kiss like that is nothing especially she was drunk and mourning a loss at the time.

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Accepted Answer

Not exactly a common occurrence for me but I remember one time vividly in a nightclub in my 20s. I was laughing and having fun with my friends on the dance floor then a girl from behind spun me around and kissed me. Took me by a complete surprise.

But I had a girlfriend. So I stopped her and said, "I'm sorry, but I'm taken. I have a girlfriend." Then she replied, "I don't mind!" and tried to kiss me again.

She seemed to completely misinterpret what I meant. I had to stop her again and said, "I mean I mind." Then she started getting upset and saying things like, "You don't find me attractive?"

Then suddenly things became so awkward. I was like, "No-no-no-no! You're very attractive. If I was single, I'd definitely want to kiss you back. But I really care about my girlfriend and I don't cheat." Yet she started doing this insecure thing like, "You must think I'm ugly!" Me: "No-no-no-no! You're very attractive. I really love the shape of your eyes and the way your hair frames your face." And it went on like this where I was trying to explain to her that she's attractive and it was getting more and more awkward.

After that she basically ghosted me in person! I was talking and she looked the other direction and didn't respond to anything I was saying. Didn't even put her hand out like, "Talk to the hand." She just turned her head and pretended like I didn't exist while I said things like, "Are you all right? I didn't mean to hurt your feelings." Then just completely ignored.

It was so awkward after that trying to resume having fun with my friends while she was staring at me. So I asked them to change to a different nightclub and we bounced. One of the most awkward social moments for me ever being ghosted like that in person.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

If I was not in a relationship and attracted to the woman I might tell her that was unexpected but nice and I hope we could do it again very soon. Now, I would tell her that I am engaged and very faithful and ask her to not repeat that performance.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

I had that happen to me once but it was gross. The guy kissed me randomly in a bar and he was all sweaty and smelled like beer. I just froze up because I was in shock. I should have pushed him away but it happened so fast. My friends got me and pulled me away thankfully.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

Kisses aren't to serious to me so I wouldn't mind it. If it kept happening then I'd tell that person to stop

Anonymous · Answer

Yea, no. Don't be kissing me, especially when you know I'm married, and neither of us knows where the other person's lips have been!

That happened to one of my friends. She was hanging out with another friend of ours, and that guy, like out of nowhere, kissed her full on the lips as she was pumping gas at a gas station. He defended it by saying 'when you really know someone, and you're around them for years, you feel like you have a special bond'.

She said WTF, and told him she saw him only ever as a friend, nothing more. And that dissolved to acquaintances after that, especially since thought he was good to just violate her space and catch her off guard.

A year later, she was actually single by this time, her and I went out for a drink, just to hang out. A couple hours later, we got back to her place, and as I stopped in front of her house, and we leaned in to hug 'bye', she paused, giving me that 'Look" you get when a kiss is about to happen. And so we made out for a while sitting in my car in her driveway. I know it's bad, but I caught myself thinking about the guy that kissed her earlier and chuckled for a sec as she moved to nibble my ear (a huge turn on for me, something she alone found out a couple years earlier and her going for that now was like the only signal I needed for me to be like, 'yessss, this is for sure happening'.

And she asked if I wanted her to come back to my place. 25 minutes later, and I'm experiencing why her exes loved being with her...

Anonymous · Answer

One time a guy tried to kiss me, so I hid my face in his neck so he couldn't reach me.

Another time I stayed over at a guy I barely knew because my friend wanted to hook up with one of his friends. This other guy laid down next to me on the couch while I was asleep and started touching me. Then tried kissing me. I yelled "nooooo!!" in his face. The only thing I was eventually able to do was turn around and hide my face. Didn't sleep that night.

It's an absolute trigger to me when someone tries to without making sure it's alright. So I want to avoid it at all times.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

It has to be a specific person for it to be okay with me. Otherwise I’d just pull off an Ultra Instinct and dodge it like Bugs Bunny dodging a bullet. If a dude tried that however, I’d probably Mike Tyson uppercut his WASHED ass so HARD he goes flying to the moon and the moon landing won’t be fake anymore. Gay ass pot-heads these days, disgusting! Absolutely abominable… Oh dear bastions! Just the thought of where their crusty ass roasted lobster lips could have been as well, that DEFINITELY warrants a f*cking ass whooping. I’d make Godzilla (Minus One version) look like an innocent kittten.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I'd only allow my husband, nobody else, to kiss me like that. Anyone else? I'd try to avoid it, in the first place.  If the action took place very swiftly, I'd push back right away.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Happened to me also, and it was a drunk kiss as well..

I was working as a bouncer/unarmed Security at a club and this woman had already expressed some levels of interest in me before she went in the club.. When she came out she was pretty drunk, but not enough not to ask me for my number, so I gave it to her. Then she just planted one on me outta nowhere. It was soft and kinda sloppy, but I just let her do it.. I was single and thought she was cute enough. I don't recall kissing her back though..

exitseven · Answer

I went to a New Years Eve party with a friend from high school. It was at the home of somebody he knew from college so I did not know anybody there. I was just hanging around watching Dick Clark on TV. At midnight there was a girl standing next to me. she grabbed my face and planted a huge kiss on my lips. I was so shocked and surprised I did not know what to do. I turned around to look around and when I turned to face her she was nowhere to be found.

slatyb · Answer

It happened once at a college party. She had been secretly crushing on me. But we soon discovered that we were unable to have a conversation -- we had nothing in common. I hadn't thought about that for quite a while.

NathanDavis · Answer

depends on who they are really... 99.9% my body will just pull away and back on it's own... and it won't happen

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I’d be upset with the person. I’m married. Everyone knows I’m married. I mention it all the time and I’m very clearly wearing a wedding ring.
So at that point, if someone chooses to kiss me then they’re choosing to disrespect my marriage. And that’s not okay…

TenderFantasy · Answer

What  can  I do? ! They already did it. It happend to me a long time ago with an ex. He was behind me and grabbed my face. Maybe that's also another good reason he's my ex! Haha.

hsvbuddies · Answer

If someone unexpectedly kissed me, I'd probably be taken aback and surprised at first. Depending on the situation and how I felt about the person, I might politely express my boundaries and let them know that I prefer to keep things platonic. Communication is key in situations like these to ensure everyone feels respected and comfortable.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

Violating my personal space is like asking for beating ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

helva · Answer

If somewhat attracted to that person I would need lots of time toghether.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It has happened to me and I enjoyed every second of it.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Not in a relationship, it might annoy me a little just for reasons of principal, but it's just a kiss so kinda no big deal.

If I'm in a relationship she getting slapped and if I had a wedding ring on she getting punched in the face 😂

OddBeMe · Answer

Obviously moments are contextual. Do you not like her that way?

RavenDarkheart · Answer

Depends on who and how I feel about him (and it better be a him or their will really be problems) and if I like them or not.

82lynx · Answer

Considering that her motivation would be similar to Faye Dunaway’s character in Bonnie and Clyde when kissing Denver Pyle, I too would probably spit in her face.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

If she is hot I’ll enjoy it & if she’s not I’ll still enjoy it.

Phoenix98 · Answer

1# If it's a random person I'm going to gently push her off of me. 2# If it's someone I actually like and know then I'd be fine with it. 3# If it's my partner then obviously I'm down.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

I have had random drunken women try to kiss me and I immediately dodge them. Personally I think it's rude as fuck to walk up and try to kiss someone.

Kelley1 · Answer

It would depend on who and the circumstances.

getwiththepg · Answer

It happened. My friends girlfriend at the time. Infront of a few of our other friends. I was visibly caught off guard.. LOL

PeachyPie93 · Answer

If I didn't like them I would ask them "what was that for?" If I did like them I wouldn't care and kiss them back.

RandomUser1000 · Answer

If I'm attracted to her and we're both single then why not. Otherwise I'd tell her to please not do it again.

WhitneySnow · Answer

You did the right thing and so did she. I’m glad you and your wife didn’t blame her.

katiesmuff · Answer

Besides being a bit startled I'd be pissed off but not much else I could do.

Anonymous · Answer

It wouldn't happen I don't allow myself to be alone with people If they have time to kiss me they have time to mug me or accuse me of severe acts

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

If someone kissed me unexpectedly, I'd be questioning who they are and why.

serious_miss419 · Answer

If ur with someone already, you shouldn’t have placed yourself in that situation

grega239 · Answer

Happened to me. She was drunk. I was kinda baffled because it wouldn't cross my mind to do that.  If it happend now, id probably tell her to fuck off.

RossyBoi · Answer

I would call the police and report them for sexual assault.

Samantha_17 · Answer

As long as it is not in the mouth no problem :)

elaphe · Answer

I would probably pull away if it were completely random, especially if it were a stranger.

Heolurt · Answer

I'd wake up, no way possible someone would ever kiss me.

laly520 · Answer

wouldn't receive it in good way

Account · Answer

Depends. Do I like them or not?

Anonymous · Answer

Bro you're a man you could have stopped her. "Unexpectedly "That just an excuse you used to get kissed.

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

I have kissed many girls unexpectedly.. but have never got kissed by a girl unexpectedly yet

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I would have a serious conversation with her.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd be rather uncomfortable and stop it quickly. It would be a very big surprise as well.

doodledee · Answer

Knee him in his nuts.

SongBird3 · Answer

If he's not my husband, I would be throwing hands

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Wonder what I did to be so lucky.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Buckle up sparky, we're going in again.

Becky316 · Answer

It depends on who it is

kat1212 · Answer

I mean I have a boyfriend so

Zestyassmf1997 · Answer

Depends who.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't like it if I didn't know her.

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

Smile

Zorgz · Answer

Be surprised

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