How do you know if you have REAL feelings?

[Anonymous]

I've definitely had crushes, but I'm not sure if I've ever had real feelings. But here is what I like about this current guy:

- I love that I can be myself around him, I even feel a bit more loose as well.

- I love that I can tell him anything and I never feel judged.

- I never want to stop talking to him / never run out of things to say.

What are some other signs that your feelings are real?

[jennifer_bloom]

The way I operate is I date based on happiness and respect and not attraction because attraction is temporary and might bind you to an abuser or an undesirable personality. But I will exclude guys if I do not feel we are aesthetically compatible. I believe attraction tells you who has the best genetic code for your children so is not a pointless standard.

[Anonymous]

They say that if you have a crush even after 2 year, it's no longer a crush, but 'limerence'. I suppose then you'll know your feelings are real. Personally, I think a crush is automatically real as long as you actually know the person. That means you know the good and bad of them and you love them anyway. That's not to say the love will never fade, maybe you will lose interest if you begin to date him and find out he's not what you hoped he'd be. Still, I think your feelings in this moment likely are real.

[ohsheeT]

well if you don't know just because then what you need to do is sit down in a chair take off your shoe grab a hammer and hit your big toe if you say ouch then yes you have feelings

[ohsheeT]

oops wait a minute it means you have real feelings

[ohsheeT]

well when answering the question and then running into it again the next day and rereading it the right way makes me want to say something else LOL.. the things about emotion the things about feelings is that they are true they are real if they're coming from you but to what level and how committed are you to yourself and how committed is that person to you in order for you to keep those feelings going your feelings all might be 100% pure in that moment but the person that you feel those things for are they 100% going to always stay or try to get better as a person when it changes when they change of course our feelings are emotions change so whatever you're feeling it's the truth you feel what you feel because it's coming from you but just because in that moment you feel that way doesn't mean that there's something that that person might do to make you change your mind

[JacobJordan]

Simple. Time. Time gives legitimacy to all things including feelings. If you feel the same after 2 weeks or 4 weeks or 2 months or 6 months or 1 year then it is real.

[Jessikaah91]

I've been with my partner for 3 years so for me it was pure excitement waking up in the morning and talking to him all the way through to night or sometimes even until the next day! If I went out I'd rush home just so I could speak to him, felt nothing but happiness when he was around and emptiness when he was gone then started to see a future with him. We now live together for like 2 years have a 13 month old baby and another on the way! Still can't see life without him.

[KillinItHard]

When you want and are attracted to him and only him and you want the same type of reciprocation, it's generally a good indication that you have some REAL feelings.

[exitseven]

I do not think it is possible to know for sure. Is love just a reaction to chemicals? Do people have feelings for a reason or is it a construct they are fed their whole lives?

[Anonymous]

if your crush isn't a fluke. like if you've been crushing hard on a guy for 3 months it's not just a crush anymore, you're in love. if its just been 5 days then its not love.

[SongBird3]

I think its healthy to have crushes. It takes time to build that crush into a relationship

[LiamJHayden]

I never go by feelings. Or at least not feelings that are not verified by a logical analysis of whether or not she is a decent person and worthy of the effort.

[Islandguy7113]

I have real feeling every time I got dumped by a girl in high school and in my adulthood it stings like shit

[Anonymous]

If you are using the word crush or crushes, you are probably too immature to know.

[Asker]

I'm not sure what else to call it. I've never dated anyone.

[BigBlueEyes343]

It’s ok. I’d say you’ve got real feelings.

[es20490446e]

8 is better than 10.
as 10 creates unnecessary stress.

[MrShaun]

I hit my hand with a hammer. If it hurts, then I have feelings.

[Unycorn]

You will know it when you feel it

[LaurenM1997]

Because it’s normal we are human

[OddBeMe]

As opposed to fake ones?

[Zestyassmf1997]

Do they feel real?