Why does height matter so much?

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty short being only 5'7 but have a nice face. Yet most girls won't even look at me and they will look at tall guys with average faces. It makes no sense whatsoever...

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I'd give my face a 7 or 8 yet girls won't look because of my height. Yet a tall guy who's face is a 6 will get acknowledgement from girls...

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It's like they don't even notice my face because my height is such a huge turnoff...

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There is a flaw in my body composition I guess. My arms are smaller than I'd like them to be and my shoulders are narrow and small.

[Odysseas]

It depends on where you live. I'll try to answer from the prospective of a man who's 183cm ( for Greek standards that's tall). I've moved and currently live in a country in which huge differences in height between couples are not celebrated. There is a tendency (I am using the word tendency, because there're always exceptions to the rules), for men and women to date close to their heights (+/-10 cm). That means that I would date a girl who is probably 170-173 min and 193 max, of course I've never met a girl who's that tall but I would date her if I liked her. The same goes for women too. I've met many women here who don't have any complex dating a man who's shorter than them, but within those close limits. That tendency makes people to date within their height range more often so everyone is happy, tall guys date tall girls average guys date some tall-ish or short-ish girls and short guys (who are a little bit rare here) date some average or short/super short girls. On the other hand it seems that in US there is a tendency, or a trend if you like, for tall guys to celebrate huge differences (aka dating short/super short girls). That makes some of the short/super short girls to adopt that "height obsessed mentality" and turn to as many call them "size queens". You see, everyone can be superficial or shallow, but only because other people allow it..

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'8 and never had a problem having many girls telling me how attractive I am. Most girls like taller guys but aren't so shallow they reject shorter guys. Some are, but that's rather a minority. I'd guess it's your lack of confidence is your problem.

[Asker]

You're probably arounnd 5'9 with shoes on... Which isn't bad at all. I'm 5'7 barefoot...

[Opinion Owner]

Yes we are one inch different, not much at all. But I have broad shoulders and a nice tight butt (I lots of compliments on both). Go work out some to look more manly. Also work dramatically on your confidence, that's critical. I like shorter girls in general and I have plenty to choose from, so do you.

[Tamikaze]

First off, I date men your height and my fiance is probably somewhere around 5'7".

So, are you actually 5'7"? Have you measured yourself? I noticed that short men (those under 6') totally add 3 inches or so to their height. I cannot tell you how confused I have been when dating guys from online. I do date men who are short but when they were not truthful with their height and Mr. 5'7" was actually shorter than me (I am 5'4"), that is not cool. I am not attracted to a man who is obviously so uncomfortable with his height that he would not be honest about it.

Overall I believe that your lack of confidence about your height is the biggest problem, not your height. And, girls honestly care only so much about men's faces. We don't think like guys. If I had to prioritize what was most important to me it would be 1. Confidence 2. fit body 3. Clearly attracted to me and 4. Average looks or above. Most women are not going to hold out for a cute guy but they will hold out for a confident guy. And, yes, some women definitely want a guy who is taller than them. Hey, we want what we want. I doubt you are attracted to all women. I am sure you have physical deal breakers.

[Asker]

Yeah, if a girl is too skinny and lanky it is a deal breaker. If she has ugly feet, it's a deal breaker. Too white, etc.

[udolipixie]

Why does height matter so much? Attraction.

Sort of like when youth matters so much for guys. Just like short girls want tall guys & old guys want younger/much younger girls.

I'd give my face a 7 or 8

^ most guys say that and they're just average...I seriously wonder if there's a discrepancy in what guys think girls find attractive

[Asker]

Likewise many girls think they are pretty yet they are just average... I guess it goes both ways.

[udolipixie]

I guess it goes both ways.

^ yep just not to the same degree.

Studies have shown men overrate themselves much more than women do lol

[Asker]

I don't know if that is true. I've seen fat girls that think they are 10's.

[udolipixie]

I've seen fat, ugly, and average guys think they were 7s and 8s.

So fat, ugly, average guys > fat girls in men vs women in overrating themselves.

I find it funny how most attractive girls underrate while the fat girls overrate but no matter what a guy looks like unless he's deformed he usually overrates himself.

lol

[Asker]

I think being fat is far worse than being average looking. But that is my opinion. So going back to you original answer, you are saying being a short man to women is equivalent to how men view fat women? Unattractive?

[udolipixie]

you are saying being a short man to women is equivalent to how men view fat women? Nope

A short man to women is like how men view old women

Not sure why most go the short man = fat woman route since weight is controllable excluding certain circumstances and age is not.

Unattractive? Unattractive yes but mostly less appealing and low for reproductive value. Sort of like I want tall babies & old women give birth unhealthy kids. Or young women are more attractive/tall guys more attractive.

[Asker]

My dad is 6'2 so I don' tknow what the hell happened to me. My mom is 5'5 so I should of at least been 6'. It's not like I have no chance of producing a tall son, it's in my genetics it just didn't happen to me

[udolipixie]

Sucks but you're only 5'8'' just go for taller girls.

Most tall girls are used to dating shorter guys because the guys their height want shorter girls and it's hard finding guys taller than them.

[Dom163]

Well in general people tend to rate themselves above average

[moonlightdream17]

I'm 5'1/5'2, so I don't think 5'7 is too short. It really depends on the height of the girl in question. If she's 5'9, she might want someone taller than her but if she's under 5'5, then I don't see the big deal. Girls like guys who are taller than them, so as long as you're taller then them...

[decentusername]

if most girls won't look at you for your height then you are hanging around in the wrong places.

and tall guys probably get acknowledged by everyone, not just females- for some reason people tend to notice taller people simply because, well, they're tall.

[Asker]

I walked around my school and counted how many men were taller than me. I did the math and around 75% of guys are taller than me... Everywhere I look so I'm not looking in wrong places...

[decentusername]

your school? is that it?

[Asker]

Older generations are shorter, but my generation is full of giants...

[decentusername]

so, the only place you looked is your school? you can't generalize if that's the only place.

[lafeeverte]

i think it's something subconscious, girls just want to feel smaller, and a taller guy immediately gives that sense of protection. I feel more feminine when I'm with a tall guy rather than one my own height, just because it's nice being the smaller one in the relationship. I know it's not fair, but hey girls can't choose their body type either. so I'd suggest you go for short girls :)

[Anonymous]

I don't think height should matter.I got teased a lot for being short at school,I'm 5'4''.My ex boyfriends were fairly average height wise,one of them was 5'7'' and the other 5'9''.My current boyfriend is 6'2'' but the fact is height has nothing to do with weather I'm attracted to somebody.

[Chrissy1986]

i don't notice tall people more my husband is 5'4" and I'm 5'5" and he is very attractive, he still get hit on from random people around town

[Asker]

I'm sure he doesn't... 5'5 is laugably short.

[Chrissy1986]

no I'm serious he does I find it funny actually lol he's frodo sized

[Asker]

Believe it or not girls like frodo... Not all, but elijah wood has his small fan base of girls that want to r*pe him.

[Chrissy1986]

then there you go

[ShootingStar5]

Not all girls are into tall guys. My boyfriend is shorter than you are. And most girls don't seem to mind what height a guy is, as long as he's taller than she is. Maybe it's something else?

[girlfriday86]

My husband is 5'4". Of course, I'm only 5'2"... I like the way my head fits perfectly onto his shoulder. Tall guys make me feel...well, short, and I don't like it much.

[Habakkuk]

it shouldn't be that big of a deal, but height isn't everything, personality, confidence, good looks in general, etc

[DontGivaaFock]

Well I'd prefer a taller guy because I am 5'6, but I bet plenty of shorter girls look at you. There are loads of girls who like 5'4 and under who wouldn't care about height at all.

[Asker]

That's not true, girls that are 5'4 are worse than them all.

[DontGivaaFock]

Nah, that's not true. My best friend is 5'4, she is pretty and is fairly picky about most aspects of a guys appearance, but height doesn't even factor for her. She just figures cos she's small any guy is tall enough really.

[Asker]

Most girls that height I see are always hangin off an arm of a 6'2 dude.

[DontGivaaFock]

Well I don't know where you're seeing this. None of my short friends are into tall guys.

[MarcusBorino]

What if he’s 5’7?

[Hades]

Women are more shallow man, that's the way it goes. Good thing there's so much more to life than them.

[Anonymous]

the guy still has to approach the woman no matter if he's tall or short. I'M 6'1'' and I've only been approach by a girl once.

[Asker]

You are tall so you are probably noticed more by men and women... Consider yourself lucky you will probably be far more successful in life than me since I"m only 5'7. Whether girls or men admit it, people are discriminated based on their height.

[dIO_oIb]

Maybe you're ugly, link?

[Asker]

Not even a possiblity... Sorry hun.

[dIO_oIb]

LOL wow, not a possibility eh? back it up with a link..

[Asker]

There is absolutely nothign wrong with my face. I'm actually hot as f*** ( in my opinion) but trust me there isn't a slight thing wrong with it lol.

[dIO_oIb]

The thing that sucks about physical appearance is that it can never be for certain if we're ugly or not.

[Asker]

How is that?

[dIO_oIb]

Physical appearance is all based on opinion, right? Just because you think you're hot as f*** doesn't mean everyone else does. You can never be certain your hot because it's not fact.

[Ezmotts]

Sorry man, but most girls like tall dudes.

[Asker]

I see that

[moviedude714]

security reasons, girls are paranoid like that