Why is the height so damn important?

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So we all know that the height of a guy matters in dating, and I as a fairly short man tried to challenge this fact that women prefer taller men. But challenging and confronting women about it had an interesting outcome, an almost aggressive deffense of their height prefferences, and after this a bit insulting finish to the conversation. almost the exact same thing was said by multible women at the end. Something along the lines of "you're short just accept women don't like short men" said in the kinda tone that says "you're a lost cost" the thing i don't understand is this very agressive response i've seen with several women when challenging their points and trying to understand whats going on. Because i've never seen it as being that important, then again i've never challenged and confronted womens points on it like I have now. So can some of you women spell it out for me like a 5 year old. Why is the height so damn important? And please don't go into super deffense mode. 😅

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AmandaYVR | 1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Yeah, exactly. And add to that, "You can't help who you are attracted to." Shut up. Just shut up and stop defending your superficial decision making.

I can't explain it, and I'm surely not defending it.
I'll just bullet point a couple:
Supply and demand. Flooded marketplace full of product allows for choosiness.
The objectification of people, thanks to a surplus of dating apps. The most popular is Tinder, the worst offender of them all.
Hookup culture prioritizes the physical; more important character traits are deprioritized.
Tall man = better at fending off masked marauders. Whatever.

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CurLyF | 130 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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I think it's all about preferences and there's nothing wrong with that. I do feel sorry some people (women in the examples you mentioned) say offensive things and it is completly uncalled for.
Again, it's about preferences and it's the same with guys. Some prefer tall girls, others short, some with curves and others very slim, there are ass men and boob men, etc. I personally like that my date is at least my height or a bit taller than me. But I also don't like very skinny guys. I'm not going to be rude or ofensive, it's just preferences and it's ok. I do know girls that don't have a particular preference about height and are dating shorter guys, my sister included. As long as you are not rude or ofensive or hurt anyone's feelings, you are completly entitled to your tastes. Those girls who insult or are rude clearly feel insecure about something.

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RaveWorthy

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Because we would prefer to have taller children. Besides, we are generally shorter than men in general and it's a bit odd to have to look down at a man. That is just my personal opinion and I was only willing to say it since you asked. I mean there are so many short girls out there that are shorter than you... what do they tell you? Believe me there are literally billions of women out there and the chances that you will find someone that has been looking for someone just like you... is inevitable in my opinion.

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Anonymous

It’s very simple actually. It all comes down to sexual attraction. Just how MOST men are not attracted to far girls, it is the same thing for women looking at a short guy.

Unfortunately fat can be changed and height not so much, but yet We can’t fake a feeling ir force an attraction.

Can you force yourself to see a fat woman sexy? Not likely but it’s not impossible. Just the same, it’s not impossible for some women to find short men attractive. But the fact remains the same most men find slimmer women more appealing and are likely to go after them more so than fatter chubbier ones.. and women tend to go after taller men for the exact same reason. There’s an automatic attraction there.

Got it? I hope so. It’s pretty clear.

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Asker

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It's quite a lot of assumptions you're putting on men tbh. But sure it might hold true to some extent, although not as black and white as you present it. I do actually prefer women with a little extra on the sides what you might call chubby, so it's kinda a slim argument in my opinion. I completely get what you're saying. But things are just not that black and white. My attraction usually comes from their way of behaving and their attitude rather than their weight and general appearance. And yes, that goes for sexual attraction too.
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Im speaking in general not about you specifically.
When you’re walking down the street and girls are walking by, a fat girl will surly get less looks than a fitter girl walking next to her, same goes for a short guy walking next to a taller one, taller guy will get more attention, simply because MOST men feel attraction to slimmer bodies and MOsT girls feel attraction toward taller bodies.

Of course there are plenty of women who like short guys just like there are men who like chubbier fat women, but I’m saying in general. Men prefer fit rather than fat and girls prefer tall rather than short (in GENERAL) . Yes it is simple. It is what it is. By nature, you can’t force an attraction. You can also learn to be attracted to someone you were not initially attracted to because of other factors (charisma/attitude/gestures/personality etc..) but the fact remains the same that MOST are attracted to what I said previously. It’s just the truth.

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Asker

It's quite a lot of assumptions you're putting on men tbh. But sure it might hold true to some extent, although not as black and white as you present it. I do actually prefer women with a little extra on the sides what you might call chubby, so it's kinda a slim argument in my opinion. I completely get what you're saying. But things are just not that black and white. My attraction usually comes from their way of behaving and their attitude rather than their weight and general appearance. And yes, that goes for sexual attraction too.

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Opinion Owner

Im speaking in general not about you specifically.
When you’re walking down the street and girls are walking by, a fat girl will surly get less looks than a fitter girl walking next to her, same goes for a short guy walking next to a taller one, taller guy will get more attention, simply because MOST men feel attraction to slimmer bodies and MOsT girls feel attraction toward taller bodies.

Of course there are plenty of women who like short guys just like there are men who like chubbier fat women, but I’m saying in general. Men prefer fit rather than fat and girls prefer tall rather than short (in GENERAL) . Yes it is simple. It is what it is. By nature, you can’t force an attraction. You can also learn to be attracted to someone you were not initially attracted to because of other factors (charisma/attitude/gestures/personality etc..) but the fact remains the same that MOST are attracted to what I said previously. It’s just the truth.

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Beautyforeverybody | 63 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Because most girls like feeling secure and protected in their relationship. That’s simple biology. Height is not the only factor when it comes to choosing a partner but yes for most women, it is quite important.
Just like most guys don’t like overweight women. Can we blame them? No we can not.

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spuitkaas | 563 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Why I prefer men taller than me? Honestly I have no clue. I often find myself more drawn to taller guys and it turns me off a bit when a guy appears to be short. I don't know why, it's a preference.
There’s probably some evolutionary basis to it, since so many women have this preference.
I have liked guys my height before in the past, but honestly never a guy shorter than me.

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navyrobin | 119 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Why is weight so damn important?

Women don’t understand why guys are so picky about weight, and men don’t understand why girls are so picky about height.

That’s just how it is. You won’t understand it until you’re a woman yourself.

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hellohruu

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Well how tall are you? I personally don’t care about height and never knew why my girl friends cared about guy’s height so much. My crush’s height is the same as my own. If we’re gonna look at physicality, I’d rather look for a type of built than height

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I'm 161 cm, or 5'3 in murica units lol.

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Asker

I'm 161 cm, or 5'3 in murica units lol.

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Anonymous

Why would I get defensive about this? Every human being is ENTITLED to like exactly what they like in another person whether that be their eye color, hair color, weight, beard, or height because the only person they need to satisfy with their answer is themselves. I mean, I could sit here and write an entire book about my preferences, but what does that matter because you, me, all people like what they like, period and you really can't convince someone to like otherwise just because you agree or disagree with their personal choices. FACTS. There is no reason to get offended because if one girl doesn't like A for whatever reason, there are other girls out there that do. ALSO FACTS.

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Asker

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And it's these kinda answers that confuses me, no offense. I'm not saying you should change your prefferences. I'm trying to start a conversation so that i get an understanding of why your prefferences are like they are, and why there is a general prefference for taller men. Because I myself don't see the whole height issue and never has. Answering all aggressive and deffensive dosen't make for a good conversation for either party envolved.
Opinion Owner

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None taken. You obviously aren't the first guy to ask this question...I mean, literally every day on GAG someone asks about height on here, and honestly, a lot of guys....especially short guys in this case, will never be happy with anything women say in response. WE say something and THEY get all defensive but then you say, I'm pretty sure you have preferences too, and all of a sudden, theirs is okay but the a height preference isn't. The whole thing is just dumb. Like what you like. There is no need to defend, explain, give a reason. No answer will ever satisfy. I mean, I'm looking at your responses, and you aren't saying, okay cool, good for you....you're trying to explain against someone's personal preference but you can't change what they like any more than we can change what you like to see in the person of your choosing.

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Asker

And it's these kinda answers that confuses me, no offense. I'm not saying you should change your prefferences. I'm trying to start a conversation so that i get an understanding of why your prefferences are like they are, and why there is a general prefference for taller men. Because I myself don't see the whole height issue and never has. Answering all aggressive and deffensive dosen't make for a good conversation for either party envolved.

Answer 14

Opinion Owner

None taken. You obviously aren't the first guy to ask this question...I mean, literally every day on GAG someone asks about height on here, and honestly, a lot of guys....especially short guys in this case, will never be happy with anything women say in response. WE say something and THEY get all defensive but then you say, I'm pretty sure you have preferences too, and all of a sudden, theirs is okay but the a height preference isn't. The whole thing is just dumb. Like what you like. There is no need to defend, explain, give a reason. No answer will ever satisfy. I mean, I'm looking at your responses, and you aren't saying, okay cool, good for you....you're trying to explain against someone's personal preference but you can't change what they like any more than we can change what you like to see in the person of your choosing.

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AngelLily | 439 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

To me at least it's very dumb to only go after someone because of their height like height should probably be almost one of the last things on the list of choosing a partner because height doesn't evolve physical look but more presence. Like Hugh Jackman is tall but the character Wolverine that he played in the comics is actually pretty short.

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FairEnough

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Not everyone looks at height, I look at my connection with this guy, how comfortable am I, can I be myself, do we have common interests, is he serious or the joking kind, caring ETC. So not everyone looks at height but I do see that it matters to a few people I've met.

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babysteph

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I like for my partner to be larger and more dominant, aggressive, and masculine than I am. It makes me feel protected, I suppose. But it’s also just generally attractive to me as a submissive. I’m 4’11, so this isn’t something far-fetched for me to ask. Typically, the larger the height difference, the better. is that simple enough?

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Asker

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Right, and these are some of the reasons that also confuses me a bit. Besides the obvious being larger that you mention all the other things has nothing to do with height. The height don't define a guys dominance, aggressiveness, or masculinity. I understand you want all those things, but they have nothing to do with the height. Yet somehow I see many people, although women in general linking them.
babysteph

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they don’t have any direct correlation to height, no. but for me, they’re amplified by it.
Purplesky121

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So your most ideal height is probably 7'0 feet and up
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nella965

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@Asker women like to feel like their man can defend them. If you are shorter than her , she feels like she needs to protect you
Purplesky121

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@nella965 Height has nothing to do with protection. A man thats skilled in martial arts or any type of fighting is still better than a man that is taller than a woman that doesn't know how to. I see plenty of short guys with taller women, they're not complaining. Obviously a guy thats taller that knows how to fight is better, but that doesn't mean automatically being taller makes you qualified to be someone that can offer protection.
babysteph

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@Purplesky121 no. My ideal height is 5’10 or taller. It isn’t a huge ask for my man to be at least a foot taller than me.
babysteph

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@nella965 that’s true, to an extent. The only beings I’ve met that are shorter than me are children and puppies. My maternal nature is revealed when I see small things, because people and things smaller than me have always needed protection.
nella965

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@Purplesky121 it’s not only about fighting. A woman likes to feel submissive and feminine around a man. If she is with a smaller guy, it makes her feel more masculine than feminine. It stimulates her maternal instincts to protect him. Women are designed to look for a mate who can protect her and her offspring. This is purely part of evolution. Nothing can change it

Men also prefer women that are shorter than them. Men have a biological instinct to protect women and children. Men tend to enjoy feeling dominant and masculine

Trust me if the asker was 6’0” tall , he would also prefer shorter women. He just has no options right now so he would date any woman regardless of her height
nella965

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@babysteph. my ideal height is 6’4”-6’7”. But I find very few guys are that tall
babysteph

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@nella965 agreed. everything you’ve mentioned is very traditional. It’s somewhat popular and edgy to go against that in today’s culture, but it’s true and it makes sense biologically and historically.
babysteph

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@nella965 they’re definitely out there. Most of them look for taller women (in my experience). The average ideal height difference seems to be 12 inches- 18 inches.
Purplesky121

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@nella965 Okay so then why is a guy thats 3 - 6 inches not good enough, but a guy thats 18 inches good? Both are taller. If you need a guy a foot or more taller than you than you have issues
Purplesky121

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The average height difference between most couples is 2 - 6 inches since most men and women are closer in height statistically.
babysteph

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@Purplesky121 I said average IDEAL. not actual.
nella965

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@Purplesky121 I was talking about physically ideal. It’s the same way for men. Men like women as short as possible even if she is already shorter than him.

But of course if I met the perfect husband, I’ll take him even if he is just 1 inch taller than me. Finding the perfect fit is very hard and it’s one of the things you only come across once in a life time.

there is a huge difference between man who fits my physical ideals and a man who fits to be the love of my life. Sometimes the man who inspires so much happiness in you isn’t over 5’10. But If you force me to marry a guy who is shorter than me. We won’t be cuddling or having sex very often due to lack of physical attraction

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Asker

Right, and these are some of the reasons that also confuses me a bit. Besides the obvious being larger that you mention all the other things has nothing to do with height. The height don't define a guys dominance, aggressiveness, or masculinity. I understand you want all those things, but they have nothing to do with the height. Yet somehow I see many people, although women in general linking them.

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babysteph

they don’t have any direct correlation to height, no. but for me, they’re amplified by it.

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Purplesky121

So your most ideal height is probably 7'0 feet and up

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nella965

@Asker women like to feel like their man can defend them. If you are shorter than her , she feels like she needs to protect you

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Purplesky121

@nella965 Height has nothing to do with protection. A man thats skilled in martial arts or any type of fighting is still better than a man that is taller than a woman that doesn't know how to. I see plenty of short guys with taller women, they're not complaining. Obviously a guy thats taller that knows how to fight is better, but that doesn't mean automatically being taller makes you qualified to be someone that can offer protection.

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babysteph

@Purplesky121 no. My ideal height is 5’10 or taller. It isn’t a huge ask for my man to be at least a foot taller than me.

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babysteph

@nella965 that’s true, to an extent. The only beings I’ve met that are shorter than me are children and puppies. My maternal nature is revealed when I see small things, because people and things smaller than me have always needed protection.

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nella965

@Purplesky121 it’s not only about fighting. A woman likes to feel submissive and feminine around a man. If she is with a smaller guy, it makes her feel more masculine than feminine. It stimulates her maternal instincts to protect him. Women are designed to look for a mate who can protect her and her offspring. This is purely part of evolution. Nothing can change it

Men also prefer women that are shorter than them. Men have a biological instinct to protect women and children. Men tend to enjoy feeling dominant and masculine

Trust me if the asker was 6’0” tall , he would also prefer shorter women. He just has no options right now so he would date any woman regardless of her height

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nella965

@babysteph. my ideal height is 6’4”-6’7”. But I find very few guys are that tall

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babysteph

@nella965 agreed. everything you’ve mentioned is very traditional. It’s somewhat popular and edgy to go against that in today’s culture, but it’s true and it makes sense biologically and historically.

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babysteph

@nella965 they’re definitely out there. Most of them look for taller women (in my experience). The average ideal height difference seems to be 12 inches- 18 inches.

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Purplesky121

@nella965 Okay so then why is a guy thats 3 - 6 inches not good enough, but a guy thats 18 inches good? Both are taller. If you need a guy a foot or more taller than you than you have issues

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Purplesky121

The average height difference between most couples is 2 - 6 inches since most men and women are closer in height statistically.

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babysteph

@Purplesky121 I said average IDEAL. not actual.

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nella965

@Purplesky121 I was talking about physically ideal. It’s the same way for men. Men like women as short as possible even if she is already shorter than him.

But of course if I met the perfect husband, I’ll take him even if he is just 1 inch taller than me. Finding the perfect fit is very hard and it’s one of the things you only come across once in a life time.

there is a huge difference between man who fits my physical ideals and a man who fits to be the love of my life. Sometimes the man who inspires so much happiness in you isn’t over 5’10. But If you force me to marry a guy who is shorter than me. We won’t be cuddling or having sex very often due to lack of physical attraction

Why is the height so damn important?

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