
Why is the height so damn important?


- Yeah, exactly. And add to that, "You can't help who you are attracted to." Shut up. Just shut up and stop defending your superficial decision making.
I can't explain it, and I'm surely not defending it.
I'll just bullet point a couple:
Supply and demand. Flooded marketplace full of product allows for choosiness.
The objectification of people, thanks to a surplus of dating apps. The most popular is Tinder, the worst offender of them all.
Hookup culture prioritizes the physical; more important character traits are deprioritized.
Tall man = better at fending off masked marauders. Whatever.0|00|0Is this still revelant?
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- I think it's all about preferences and there's nothing wrong with that. I do feel sorry some people (women in the examples you mentioned) say offensive things and it is completly uncalled for.
Again, it's about preferences and it's the same with guys. Some prefer tall girls, others short, some with curves and others very slim, there are ass men and boob men, etc. I personally like that my date is at least my height or a bit taller than me. But I also don't like very skinny guys. I'm not going to be rude or ofensive, it's just preferences and it's ok. I do know girls that don't have a particular preference about height and are dating shorter guys, my sister included. As long as you are not rude or ofensive or hurt anyone's feelings, you are completly entitled to your tastes. Those girls who insult or are rude clearly feel insecure about something.0|00|0Is this still revelant?
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- Because we would prefer to have taller children. Besides, we are generally shorter than men in general and it's a bit odd to have to look down at a man. That is just my personal opinion and I was only willing to say it since you asked. I mean there are so many short girls out there that are shorter than you... what do they tell you? Believe me there are literally billions of women out there and the chances that you will find someone that has been looking for someone just like you... is inevitable in my opinion.0|00|0
- Anonymous1 moItās very simple actually. It all comes down to sexual attraction. Just how MOST men are not attracted to far girls, it is the same thing for women looking at a short guy.
Unfortunately fat can be changed and height not so much, but yet We canāt fake a feeling ir force an attraction.
Can you force yourself to see a fat woman sexy? Not likely but itās not impossible. Just the same, itās not impossible for some women to find short men attractive. But the fact remains the same most men find slimmer women more appealing and are likely to go after them more so than fatter chubbier ones.. and women tend to go after taller men for the exact same reason. Thereās an automatic attraction there.
Got it? I hope so. Itās pretty clear.0|00|0- Asker1 mo
It's quite a lot of assumptions you're putting on men tbh. But sure it might hold true to some extent, although not as black and white as you present it. I do actually prefer women with a little extra on the sides what you might call chubby, so it's kinda a slim argument in my opinion. I completely get what you're saying. But things are just not that black and white. My attraction usually comes from their way of behaving and their attitude rather than their weight and general appearance. And yes, that goes for sexual attraction too.
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Im speaking in general not about you specifically.
When youāre walking down the street and girls are walking by, a fat girl will surly get less looks than a fitter girl walking next to her, same goes for a short guy walking next to a taller one, taller guy will get more attention, simply because MOST men feel attraction to slimmer bodies and MOsT girls feel attraction toward taller bodies.
Of course there are plenty of women who like short guys just like there are men who like chubbier fat women, but Iām saying in general. Men prefer fit rather than fat and girls prefer tall rather than short (in GENERAL) . Yes it is simple. It is what it is. By nature, you canāt force an attraction. You can also learn to be attracted to someone you were not initially attracted to because of other factors (charisma/attitude/gestures/personality etc..) but the fact remains the same that MOST are attracted to what I said previously. Itās just the truth.
- I am 5'3" which makes it pretty easy for me to find guys taller than me. But tbh I feel more attracted to guys who are much taller than I am simply because it's hot and looks better. You also get more sense of security for some reason. But, even if that's the case my last boyfriend was only 5'4" so definitely not a really tall guy. In the end, being tall might be an advantage but so does being a great conversationalist, being a good person and having a fun disposition are. 🤷āāļø0|00|0
- Because most girls like feeling secure and protected in their relationship. Thatās simple biology. Height is not the only factor when it comes to choosing a partner but yes for most women, it is quite important.
Just like most guys donāt like overweight women. Can we blame them? No we can not.0|00|0 - Why I prefer men taller than me? Honestly I have no clue. I often find myself more drawn to taller guys and it turns me off a bit when a guy appears to be short. I don't know why, it's a preference.
Thereās probably some evolutionary basis to it, since so many women have this preference.
I have liked guys my height before in the past, but honestly never a guy shorter than me.0|00|0 - Well how tall are you? I personally donāt care about height and never knew why my girl friends cared about guyās height so much. My crushās height is the same as my own. If weāre gonna look at physicality, Iād rather look for a type of built than height0|00|0
- Why is weight so damn important?
Women donāt understand why guys are so picky about weight, and men donāt understand why girls are so picky about height.
Thatās just how it is. You wonāt understand it until youāre a woman yourself.9|00|0 - Anonymous1 moWhy would I get defensive about this? Every human being is ENTITLED to like exactly what they like in another person whether that be their eye color, hair color, weight, beard, or height because the only person they need to satisfy with their answer is themselves. I mean, I could sit here and write an entire book about my preferences, but what does that matter because you, me, all people like what they like, period and you really can't convince someone to like otherwise just because you agree or disagree with their personal choices. FACTS. There is no reason to get offended because if one girl doesn't like A for whatever reason, there are other girls out there that do. ALSO FACTS.1|00|0
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And it's these kinda answers that confuses me, no offense. I'm not saying you should change your prefferences. I'm trying to start a conversation so that i get an understanding of why your prefferences are like they are, and why there is a general prefference for taller men. Because I myself don't see the whole height issue and never has. Answering all aggressive and deffensive dosen't make for a good conversation for either party envolved.
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None taken. You obviously aren't the first guy to ask this question...I mean, literally every day on GAG someone asks about height on here, and honestly, a lot of guys....especially short guys in this case, will never be happy with anything women say in response. WE say something and THEY get all defensive but then you say, I'm pretty sure you have preferences too, and all of a sudden, theirs is okay but the a height preference isn't. The whole thing is just dumb. Like what you like. There is no need to defend, explain, give a reason. No answer will ever satisfy. I mean, I'm looking at your responses, and you aren't saying, okay cool, good for you....you're trying to explain against someone's personal preference but you can't change what they like any more than we can change what you like to see in the person of your choosing.
- Not everyone looks at height, I look at my connection with this guy, how comfortable am I, can I be myself, do we have common interests, is he serious or the joking kind, caring ETC. So not everyone looks at height but I do see that it matters to a few people I've met.0|00|0
- I like for my partner to be larger and more dominant, aggressive, and masculine than I am. It makes me feel protected, I suppose. But itās also just generally attractive to me as a submissive. Iām 4ā11, so this isnāt something far-fetched for me to ask. Typically, the larger the height difference, the better. is that simple enough?1|10|0
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Right, and these are some of the reasons that also confuses me a bit. Besides the obvious being larger that you mention all the other things has nothing to do with height. The height don't define a guys dominance, aggressiveness, or masculinity. I understand you want all those things, but they have nothing to do with the height. Yet somehow I see many people, although women in general linking them.
they donāt have any direct correlation to height, no. but for me, theyāre amplified by it.
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@Asker women like to feel like their man can defend them. If you are shorter than her , she feels like she needs to protect you
@nella965 Height has nothing to do with protection. A man thats skilled in martial arts or any type of fighting is still better than a man that is taller than a woman that doesn't know how to. I see plenty of short guys with taller women, they're not complaining. Obviously a guy thats taller that knows how to fight is better, but that doesn't mean automatically being taller makes you qualified to be someone that can offer protection.
@Purplesky121 no. My ideal height is 5ā10 or taller. It isnāt a huge ask for my man to be at least a foot taller than me.
@Purplesky121 itās not only about fighting. A woman likes to feel submissive and feminine around a man. If she is with a smaller guy, it makes her feel more masculine than feminine. It stimulates her maternal instincts to protect him. Women are designed to look for a mate who can protect her and her offspring. This is purely part of evolution. Nothing can change it
Men also prefer women that are shorter than them. Men have a biological instinct to protect women and children. Men tend to enjoy feeling dominant and masculine
Trust me if the asker was 6ā0ā tall , he would also prefer shorter women. He just has no options right now so he would date any woman regardless of her height@babysteph. my ideal height is 6ā4ā-6ā7ā. But I find very few guys are that tall
@nella965 Okay so then why is a guy thats 3 - 6 inches not good enough, but a guy thats 18 inches good? Both are taller. If you need a guy a foot or more taller than you than you have issues
The average height difference between most couples is 2 - 6 inches since most men and women are closer in height statistically.
@Purplesky121 I was talking about physically ideal. Itās the same way for men. Men like women as short as possible even if she is already shorter than him.
But of course if I met the perfect husband, Iāll take him even if he is just 1 inch taller than me. Finding the perfect fit is very hard and itās one of the things you only come across once in a life time.
there is a huge difference between man who fits my physical ideals and a man who fits to be the love of my life. Sometimes the man who inspires so much happiness in you isnāt over 5ā10. But If you force me to marry a guy who is shorter than me. We wonāt be cuddling or having sex very often due to lack of physical attraction
- I like tall men bc i am 5ā7, thatās what Iām attracted to but most importantly thatās what makes me feel feminine it makes me feels safe subconsciously. But if I meet a good man and heās shorter I will definitely give it a try.0|00|0
- Height isn't important to me at all but it has been for the guys I've dated. I'm a tad on the tall side (5' 8" ish). Most times it's okay except when I wear heels for a nice night out. All of a sudden I'm 6' tall and it has freaked guys out when all of a sudden I "tower" over them the first time. I guess I could wear my Mary Jane flats but they wouldn't give me the overall effect I hope to achieve, Ha! 👠0|01|0
Well to be honest , what make a girl want to wear heels if she love the shorter guy, when girls know guys sometime hate suddenly being towered, so is heels more important to us women than the love with a hot guy, and I guess 90 % of all women deep inside are more sexual attracted to guys there own height or shorter. To be attracted to a taller guy seems odd and queer, as s guy isn't meant to overpower a girl and certainly not be taller. I myself is 6'8 tall well very tall, and I'd never felt attracted to guys my own height. But generally height is by far the least important factor in a person, and height might be the least insignificant thing about s person to be honest, I don't regonise if a guy is 5'2 or 7' tall but I'd notice if he has a great personality as the very first... and sadly not many tall guys have, so guess that's why there is so few very tall guy, as it's hard for them to spread there genes as few women really get attracted to them
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My hubby thoug 8" shorter than me but me high heels shoe as he love me in them, so eventhoug I'm 204 cm tall in my barefeet, I usually wear heels when we are out. Due to he love me wearing then, and my shoe is costly as hell , a size 47-48 for a female need most of the time to be handmade, do hubby use 3-400⬠a pair to make us happy and me I become at least a feet o more taller than him, just like real men like us girls in our opinion
- Anonymous1 moSociety tells woman that being feminine = thin, short, needs to be protected, etc. These are all things that dating a taller man allows woman to feel. I personally want someone who is taller then me but Iām 5ā3 so itās not hard to find. I guess you just need to find the right person that either doesnāt care for height or is short lol0|00|0
- Some donāt care. (Me)
Some preference taller.
Some donāt want to look tall against a shorter partner for self confidence reasons.
Ultimately, if you met your dream man who happens to be petite, most will accept it. If they donāt, their not the right person.1|10|0 - If I were short, I wouldn't care if he was shorter too. I'm 5'10 and I'd prefer to have a guy taller than me or at least around the same height. I've dated a guy who was probably 3 inches shorter.
For me, I was always self-consious about my height, like I wasn't feminine or something. So in the deepest place of insecurity, I guess I wanted a taller man to make me feel more feminine. Although I don't actively think like that anymore, I'm sure it's still rooted there subconsciously.1|00|0 - I don't have anything personal against short men, but I can't say I've had great experiences with them either. Also I'm just more attracted to guys who are at least 5 inches taller than me🤷 there are preferences as well as biological reasons.0|00|0
- The same reason why most men don't find fat or ugly women attractive: personal preference. Stop bringing it up to women; insecurity is the biggest turn off there is. Also, start dating short women.0|00|0
- Because you don't want to be dwarfed by the girls you date.0|00|0
- Same reason why men like shorter women. Iām sure you prefer shorter too if you were born a taller guy0|00|0
- It isn't important to all of us. The sooner people stop painting everyone with the same brush the better we will all be.0|00|0
- Anonymous1 moBecause I want a man who is taller then me I canāt help Iām more attracted to taller guys just like guys canāt help when they are more attracted to girls with big boobs0|00|0
- I have really low standards when it comes to dating. ( Which is a plus) so I don't care about a guy's height0|00|0
- i'm 5 10 my boyfriend is 5 3 doesn't matter much since i'm on my knees most of the time so it works out this time.0|10|0
- Why is xxx physical trait so important in your ideal woman?0|00|0
- Because I like to feel protected and safe in his arms, and I canāt feel that with a short guy 🤷🏻āāļø0|01|0
Im not sure is its a sex thing but I am asexual and from a romantic point of view it dosent really matter to me...
@rachiga For me itās both. I donāt find someone shorter than me sexually attractive either.
- I just like the look of a taller guy, I feel more protected and would not be conscious wearing heels. Iām only 5ā7 so Iād expect the guy to be over 5ā10. Itās just an eye sore seeing a woman hand in hand with their shorter SO0|00|1
- Anonymous1 moI really donāt care. My crush of 6 years is my height. If a girl really likes you then she doesnāt care about your height3|01|0
- Anonymous1 moI feel uncomfortable when i am dating someone who shorter than me. If i must be honest i do not know why i feel uncomfortable. In other hand higher guys feel to me i am protected and i need this feeling.2|00|0
- Iām 5ā8 I would like to have a men taller then me or the same height.0|00|0
- honestly I just prefer a guy be my height or taller, but im not against shorter guys at all either. Its guys who don't want to date me, because they think 5'8 is too tall for a girl0|01|0
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