Why are my friends acting like this?

[Stac123]

So, I have 3 girlfriends who all have boyfriends. One is supportive of me wanting one and me dating to get a relationship. The other two act annoyed and kind of condescending about it. They talk about their relationships “‘we went here we went there on group chats” I always answer cool, fun! Glad you had a great time ! But, then if i bring up “ o I met this guy” o, this one didn’t work” then it’s quiet. Or one says be happy being single. These girls have guys and they know how bad I want to be in a relationship. My life is intact. I feel so hurt. They don’t call to say anything about it or to ask how I’m doing with it. They ignore the subject. What if it was them? And they didn’t have anyone? And we all did? Maybe , I’m annoying about it but, I know I would be there for someone if they wanted something for themselves. Do I have a right to be hurt about it. Because I feel really bad about it more than even wanting the relationship itself

[Hardy_007]

You seem to be of caring nature. This might be the reason you feel even bad when you don't expect the same from others. I can feel the same. I have the same personality type.

Now the thing is What to expect here then?

Its simple. Don't let them discourage you with their poor sense of support in friendship.

Everything has a price. It's a basic rule. If you aren't getting enough worth for what you are paying... That's not something worth buying right?

Same goes in life. Efforts should be mutual in a friendship. I believe you should stop bothering the other two straighaway and focus on yourself and hold on to what's yours (something that has a value/gives back value/supports you)

Do you have the right to be hurt?

Well it's a choice. You can have your happiness back if you start neglecting people who don't even care if you have someone or not.

or you can hope that one day they will change and they will feel what you are feeling right now. Nobody cares. We need to understand this. Learn the art of self-love. It's a process. It will help you a lot. Let's talk in detail someday in pvt😉 Happy to help

[Stac123]

You’re right , so right. No one really cares about anyone

[Hardy_007]

Lesser the expectations... More the Happiness 😉

[Stac123]

That’s a great way of looking at it. It’s not so much the relationship. But, you’re right. Completely

[HusamRocks]

It could be one or more of many reasons, for example

They know something about you you don't know
Or
Ur stories end with failure so they kinda expect ur words
Or
U complain about it, maybe?
Or
They don't care
Or
They care that they don't make a comment because it might not go well with u 🤔
...

Now here's a small hint about relationships, u don't search for it, it finds u 😉

[Stac123]

So, if they think a way, it’s their perception not everyone has the same perception. Complain? Not really. If stories end in failure then a friend should help you figure out why: a comment not going well with me? A friend is honest and it’s their opinion. Take it or leave it. They don’t care? A real friend cares. You have just helped me come to the conclusion is that they must just be jealous. And as for you dude. You have to work at everything you get in life including relationships. They don’t come falling on your lap and when that happens it’s a memory forever but also a toxic one. That kind of thinking you will be alone. I will find someone who wants the same as me.

[Daniela1982]

You never know, maybe their relationships are not going as well as they pretend. Maybe that is why they say to be happy you are single. For every one good relationship there are 10 that aren't so good. If these girls are bringing you down then I would lose them. Friends are supposed to make you feel good, not bad. But don't worry, it will happen when it does, and on its own time. Whenever you try to make something happen it can lead to heartache and failure. If you have other friends without boyfriends, maybe you should hang out with them. What I'm wondering is if you are 33, have you ever had a boyfriend? I'm 35 and don't have one either but if it never happens, I'm not going to worry about it. Like I said, it happens when it does. You can't hurry love.

[Stac123]

Yea I’ve been in relationships, took time out for myself and now I’m ready for a lifelong partner , that’s all… I know it will come but, just have a hard time understanding why they are not more supportive is all

[Daniela1982]

Because you chose some turkey pot pies as friends.

[Stac123]

❤️ probly right they are not super cool like maybe you or I lol

[linguistrosey]

Yeah you have the right to your feelings. If they aren't supportive, I'd rather not talk to them about my encounters.

[Stac123]

Thanks , I know it could be annoying but ,
They have their lifelong partners so , to be like this is just mean

[Anonymous]

Talk to your friends

[Saamee]

What you want?

[Stac123]

Maybe to actually be supportive, to ask how it’s going me dating is all. That’s it. For them to assure me. To be friends to me is all