Is getting a girlfriend supposed to be hard?

Question

Its one of the most difficult things in life for me. Almost 30 and i've never had one before

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes I agree it's extremely hard, But your not gonna get any Sympathy or even Reasonable explanation from on any Girls on here.

pethouse · Accepted Answer

Some people are not meant to find love

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Before you start finding a girlfriend, start finding yourself…

Get to know yourself and find the confidence in who you are.

Once you find yourself and stop acting like someone you are not, girlfriend will fall onto your lap like a puppy.

Women love confident men, men who know who they are and where they are, men who mean business.

Oliverlogan263 · Answer

Hey man, I know getting a girlfriend can feel difficult, but try not to be too hard on yourself about it. Everyone goes at their own pace.

A few things that might help:

- Work on feeling comfortable and confident being single first. Girls can sense when a guy isn't fully happy alone.

- Put yourself out there socially more. Join some clubs or activity groups to potentially meet new people.

- Ask your bros to set you up if they hear of any single gals who might be a good match.

- Online dating can expand your options too. Just don't take it too seriously at first.

- When talking to a girl you like, don't put so much pressure on it feeling like a "date." Just have fun connecting as friends first.

- Compliment girls sincerely and make them laugh. But also listen well when they talk too.

- Remember most relationships take time to grow. Don't get discouraged if something doesn't work out right away.

Try not to stress too much, bro. Focus on self-improvement and meeting new people. Your someone's perfect match is out there - you just gotta keep putting in the effort to find her. You got this, dude!

ManOnFire · Answer

It's not  supposed  to be, but women want you to feel like it is. It's about them having a sense of power or control in dating and desirability. They want you to feel hopeless, depressed, or powerless about getting a girl or even having sex. Dating is not hard for guys just because. It's hard because women have an unclean desire to make men feel like they're not good enough and should be struggling. But this inner uncleanness in women is less about men and much more about their own ugliness deep down, because these are the same women who will go out with men of bad character really easily.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Yes life is hard, nothing is easy for either girls or guys, different problems but it’s not a walk in the part. Being approachable socially (not the fucking internet, real life) is one of the main things, being able to hold a conversation using proper words greatly helps, having a level of intelligence (not exam stuff), having a sense of humour coupled with determination and a fairly stoic view on crashing and burning helps. Anyone that is a whining arsehole will remain single, anyone who is just stupid and zero social skills will invariably remain single. Remain single is really just life is going to be much much harder.

Nirmroth · Answer

If you dont go out much, have a small friend circle and are unconfident it can be hard. Looks ofc play a role aswell when talking about dating apps but in person not that much.

Irl its actually men who are more superficial and look mainly for looks while women dont care about looks as much but look into social aspects like a man having a good social status, personality, stability/security, confidence highly aswell

Funnily enough thats why you see women caring subconciously deeply about their looks while men are more likely to chase status.

Ik this went slighty out of topic but I found this very eye opening when reading about it.

Reason beeing I look good enough to get frequent likes on apps and dates but were I fail at is my low confidence in person and beeing awkward and shy at times. Not really something women would like to see in a man.

SphynxUK · Answer

‘Hoeflation’.
Using this descriptor tells me enough. You don’t value women, they’re not people to you, just possessions, which is why you ‘want one’.
I’m sure women get this vibe off you and steer clear.
You need to be happy and content in life to attract the right people. A partner can only enhance what you already have. So if you’re bitter you won’t get very far.
Describing women today as worse than grandmothers back then is disgraceful. I hope you remain single.

lightbulb27 · Answer

ha, yea, was hard for me too. the problem was really me to a large extent. nothing good comes easy

sorry about your luck, but you will figure it out. it's hard though. if you are having this much difficulty, time to start exploring the world of emotions, psychology, socialization, religion.

Anonymous · Answer

I was going to empathize with you as a woman who also has never had a boyfriend, but then I saw your replies. “Hoeflation”? Im sorry? Im glad you're single and hope it stays this way. You do not deserve a relationship if thats your mindset. Using that term tells me everything I need to know about you. You already have gross views on women and would treat any girl/woman horribly.

The “male loneliness epidemic” is self inflicted and well deserved. There is not a single non-toxic one.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Almost 30 and no girlfriend? Ooooof. It shouldn't be that hard.

Anonymous · Answer

Whoa calm down. For a minute it sounded like you were trying to talk about a serious problem young men are facing.

We’re only allowed to talk about women’s problems in this society. Because no matter what problem you have, women clearly are most affected.

EmmaMary · Answer

"Hoeflation"... What planet does this bollox come from?

Dongie · Answer

Don't give up. Don't listen to those who say it'll happen, be patient. It won't unless you work on it. Don't be afraid of rejection, eat rejection up like a dog. Just keep going and fine tune yourself.

Katebfun · Answer

Yep. So is getting an honest, non-sec addict man who will be loyal to you.

laly520 · Answer

not that hard but hard enough when u lack social skills

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I found it's pretty easy to get applicants for the position when the interviewing process happens in person. "Dating" sites aren't going to do it.

Slim57 · Answer

It's tough for any average guy nowadays and tougher even then to find a decent one. These women are bitter, hoeflation is real and I have a girlfriend so you can believe that and still get one, you just keep trying, stay away from women online though, they're the ones who have the most brain rot from social media.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

Still single here, sure. And think of it slightly spiritually/transcending as this, even without that cue magical music vibes: "there's lots of ones out there to be thankfully dodging" - true mmm 😋😋😅😅 both emojis can't be wrong 👀

normalice · Answer

If you are looking online, yes. But in the real world it's much easier.

RainBat · Answer

No, it's easy as long as you have the right jawline (like a real sigma male), you just ain't built for these streets cuh'

Anonymous · Answer

No this is very obviously a you problem. I mean that in both a harsh but trying ti be honest to help way, have you been to therapy? It sounds like you have some issues if you’ve genuinely never been able to form a romantic connection with someone.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Not hard. It’s not easy though. I’d pitch a different question. Why should men have a girlfriend? What does a man benefit from having a girlfriend?

Booklover_90 · Answer

Are you shy? Do you think women don’t (or won’t) find you attractive?

Yannae · Answer

It is hard and it's a huge time investment. It's like growing a tree, but you need two people for it to grow.

Unit1 · Answer

No. When in doubt obtain a passport and become a passport bro and go where women love men.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends. If you want to have high standards (hot, integrity, common values, nice, fun) then it's going to be pretty hard because those girls are in short supply and in VERY high demand. If you loosen up your standards it'll be easier.

Posithink · Answer

Not at all. Wear a white coat and there are needy RILFs around every corner. Give some free samples 💊💉 then they're yours forever.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Nothing is supposed to be anything. It just is what it is.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not, if you aim low. But would you be in a relationship with a woman who slept with many men, to whom you are the first to commit?

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I believe so considering a easy woman is a red flag

he-takes-a-part · Answer

Not at all. But leaving one is too hard. So please enter with caution. Whatever comes to mind say it at the entry point.

Anonymous · Answer

Don’t worry, according to the bitter males on here as soon as you turn 30 tons of random women will want you.

Twalli · Answer

It's not easy unless you're assertive and don't fear rejection

grega239 · Answer

In my experience yes.  On the bright side, you can do whatever you want.

Anonymous · Answer

Reminder of how my mindset and perspective has changed towards interactions or relationships

Anonymous · Answer

Unfortunately most modern women are awful people. One trip around GAG confirms this.

MemeSupreme · Answer

become a drummer of a band lmao

AngryCarl · Answer

Yes, it's called natural selection.

exitseven · Answer

Anything that is good is hard to get

VV3ZZY123 · Answer

Yea it's hard. Try being Funny.

Anonymous · Answer

What's your personality like?

Anonymous · Answer

Do you look good? are you socially awkward?

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Yes.

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