How to help your child to accept your new relationship?

[3hundred]

I am curious about how you handle your child to accept your new relationship. Did he/she get jealous of your new partner?

[cheddar]

You know, seeing a friend go through the whole process of introducing her kid to a new partner really opened my eyes to what it actually takes. Trying to balance your happiness with your child's comfort and well-being is not easy.

She didn't just dive in. She let it simmer for a while. She made sure that her boyfriend will be present in her life. It's kind of like when you're eyeing that last piece of cake but wait to make sure everyone's had their share before you take it. She wanted to be sure.

Then, she started dropping his name into conversations here and there, sharing little snippets of their time together. This wasn't about making her child familiar with a stranger but rather gently weaving the idea of this person into the fabric of their daily lives. Think of it as planting seeds for a garden you hope will bloom beautifully but knowing it needs tender care.

Keeping their special mom-kid time untouched was crucial. No matter what, their Saturday morning pancake tradition stayed on the schedule. It was their thing, a reminder that some bonds are just unshakeable. It's like having that one song that always takes you back, no matter where you are in life.

When the meet-and-greet day came, she picked a place that was all about fun and ease. No stiff dinners at home where the tension could be cut with a knife. Instead, they went to a place with distractions aplenty, so her kid could engage at their own pace. It's a bit like easing into a cold pool—one toe at a time.

She talked openly and honestly. Imagine trying to assemble a complex lego set without the instructions; kids need clarity and guidance, not guesswork.

And, she tried to be very patient. It wasn't all smooth sailing. There were moments of awkwardness, resistance, even a few setbacks, but she stayed the course, believing in the long game.

[IslaTheWitch]

The most important thing is to have a healthy relationship based on trust with your kid. If you plan a new relationship, your kid should be aware of it much earlier.

So, when you are ready to start meeting new people, it's time to talk to your kid. Explain to them how you feel, what you need, and how a new relationship will help you to secure your needs. Reassure your kid that they always will have your full attention and your new partner can become their friend with time.

When you are dating someone, always talk about them with your kid. Describe this person, your dates, and their behavior. Make it funny.

When you are sure it's something serious, propose a short meeting to meet each other at a nice place - like a cafe with ice creams or cakes. Remember, this meeting is mainly for your kid. Your kid needs time to understand this new situation, and if you do everything at their pace, the effect should be positive.

Be also aware that not everyone clicks, so it can happen that your new partner and your kid won't like each other. Have a plan B prepared.

[jaskin777]

I personally believe that u should ask the child if u as the daddy want u " daddy " to be with this person. . because tbh with u that child may see or hear things then u did... that ur not aware about or feel uneasy asf. .

[strateguy632]

the way is spending time with the child.

afterward child will interrupt you, then say, "you had your turn with me, now my partners turn".

[KrakenAttackin]

If women cared about their children's well being they would make things work with the baby -daddy.

[laly520]

by tryna explain it to em
otherwise its better to ask the child before dating
lot of kids r so sensitive to that topic

[serious_miss419]

As long as your new relationship is healthy, no parties, doesn’t compromise time with your child, etc

[DreamLife7]

They need to get over it 🤷🏼‍♀️