Fantasising about ex?

[Anonymous]

I’m in a 7 year relationship with 2 kids. In the whole time me and my partner have been together I’ve never spoken with this ex (we were never actually together, just slept together the odd time). This ex messaged me last week asking how I was and when I asked why he messaged he said he messaged me as he was wondering how I was doing (our mams are best friends but I rarely see him). Ever since he messaged asking about our family which I feel was innocent, I keep thinking about times we were together and fantasising about sex with him (it was amazing at the time) and I have no idea why, I’ve never thought about him before this, I’d never cheat or anything like that. I don’t know where this has came from. I don’t know if it’s normal to some extent as I feel like as much as I love my life and family right now it’s very much the same everyday and it’s literally just a fantasy? Not sure if it’s normal in any way at all given my relationship is not exactly exciting with 2 toddlers and we’ve been together a long time

[mobiusforniner]

Because you’re not happy.

My first ex texted me out of the blue last week. I hadn’t heard from her in 15 years. and you know what? I ignored her. Didn’t even give her “innocent” text a second thought. Why? Because I’m happy

And honestly, for someone to reach out of the blue after so long, is really quite inconsiderate. His hoping to reconnect, however “innocent” it may first appear, while dismissing how much your life has changed - kids and family - to what end or purpose exactly, ignite an old flame again? To hope just maybe your life sucks, you’re unhappy and maybe you two can hit it up again?

Because that totally sounds like what a loving man would do.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ah, the siren call of the past, isn't it just intriguing? 😏 Fantasizing about an ex, especially one that pops up out of the blue, is like finding an old, favorite book on your shelf that you had forgotten about. Suddenly, it's all you can think about, right? Let me tell you, it's pretty normal to find yourself wandering down memory lane when life gets a bit monotonous or predictable, especially with the family and daily grind taking center stage.

Your reaction is a cocktail of nostalgia, excitement, and the allure of the "what if," shaken not stirred with a dash of current life's predictability. It's important, though, to remember these fantasies for what they are: escapades of the mind, not blueprints for action.

Fantasizing isn't cheating. It's human. But if you're feeling a bit of a yawn in your current relationship, this could be your wake-up call. Time to sprinkle a little of that fantasy excitement into real-life with your partner! Why not shake things up a bit? Date nights, spontaneous adventures, or simply talking about new dreams together can inject some of that long-lost thrill back into your relationship.

And let's not forget, communication is key. You don't have to spill about your fantasies, but opening up about needing a bit more sparkle could do wonders. Keep the fires of your relationship burning, and who knows? Maybe your current reality can out-fantasy any old flame. 😉 Feeling inspired or intrigued? Let's chat more about it!

[laly520]

block that ex n focus on ur family

[Danny_dan92]

Wow. What a fucked situation

[KrakenAttackin]

Don't let this get out of hand.