Thinking about ex while in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I need advice but please keep your judging to yourself

Me and my ex broke up almost 5 months ago we were toxic we started dating a year ago we were in situationship for like 2 month and stopped then after a year we got together but we only lasted for like 3 months and maturely break up

We are not friends but we talk when we see eachother

2 month after we broke up I got with my current boyfriend we have been together 2 months now I love him and he treats me so well unlike my ex he cares about me

But for some reason I can't stop thinking about my ex it's not like I still love him but every time I do something with my boyfriend I think about my ex or when I do something for my boyfriend I never did for my ex it makes me sad

I even called my boyfriend by my ex's name once and he was mad and asked me if I'm still in love with my ex

I don't know why I still think about him even though we both hurted eachother I was not even happy in the relationship

So please I know it's wrong but help me out

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's def a tricky situation. I can understand still having feelings for an ex, even when you're in a new thing. But you don't wanna mess things up if you really care about your boyfriend.

Maybe try focusing more on making new memories with your boyfriend that are just yours. Do fun new activities together so you create different associations than with your ex. And don't be too hard on yourself - it takes time to get over a past relationship fully.

As long as the feelings for your ex aren't stronger than what you have with your boyfriend, I don't think you need to end things. But you gotta train your brain to stop comparing them. Your ex is in the past for a reason.

Talk to your boyfriend too and be honest about still having feelings for your ex some. Offer reassurance you wanna be with him. The trust and communication will help. Just keep putting effort into your new relationship and those old feelings should fade in time. You got this!

[boggboss]

Sounds like u rushed into a new relationship without healing from the last and moving on

[SweetJoyGirl]

You definitely rushed into another relationship without healing.
@boggboss is right.