Should I break up with him and call it quits?

[Anonymous]

When my boyfriend gets mad he raises his voice when we get into arguements. I do yell back at him sometimes but I try to remain calm and talk to him but it jus results in me getting drowned out. We were having an argument after we went on a date late week. I had fun and he asked if he could come up yo my apartment I knew what he wanted so I said no and I wasn't in the mood I just wanted to go to bed. He responded with saying when did I start rejecting him, we've been together 2 years and he's my first, I told him he wasn't entitled to me and I could say no he then said what I wanted didn't matter but what he wanted. Then the lecture of him yelling at me started. I did manage to zone him out a bit while he yelled and I sat there but I got tired and saud we can talk in the morning and I wanted to go. I opened the door made it half way put before he grabbed me and pulled me back in and closed the door and started yelling how disrespectful I was and nudging my head. I told him I wanted to go home but he jus kept yelling at me. I was crying at that point and then he yelled at me to stop but I couldn't then he started squeezing my hand and told me to look at him. He finally told me to get out and mumbled he should have just left me at the restaurant and I'm making him treat me like this cause I don't listen.

[Huntingnfishin]

If your gut says you need to break up then you probably should. Sticking things out and hoping they workout in the end isn't a great idea in a relationship. Dump him before things get any deeper

[Asker]

I think so too I can't relax around him at all anymore cause he groped ne a few time ls while I was sleeping next to him whats stopping him from doing more.

[Huntingnfishin]

If you can't trust a person you can't love them

[Asker]

True I figured it was cause I do sleep talk sometimes but now with how's he's acting its clear it wasn't because of that.

[Huntingnfishin]

Yea that was a messed up story when I read it! Lol hey I sleep talk too!

[MrDaveAPSI]

If you think that you'll profit better without him, not just financially

[Asker]

I don't depend on him for anything, my dad owns a construction company my mom runs a preschool and my brothers and sisters either have degrees or working together on businesses. I do graphics as a sude hustle which is going great and I work part time with an airline and I attend uni getting my law degree. If anyone is lending money it's me lending money to him cause I work and my parents and siblings give me allowances even though I'm now I'm an adult I'm the baby of the family and the encouragement me to save all the money I make to buy a house and stop renting. I'm on alscholarshing for my degree as well. He's just draining sometimes and I have to taking supplements and walking on egg shells around him. Its affecting my sleep and I always get sleep paralysis then insomnia. He's just adding to my struggles atp.

[MrDaveAPSI]

Maybe you're just not ready for a boyfriend right now

[Asker]

Maybe I needed to grow a bit more figured 22 was a good age to start dating maybe not. I'll take some time to myself for a few years sounds like a good suggestion 1 more year of law school I shouldn't get distracted and try to ground myself. I'm not even gonna try to get the 4k back atp he can have it I'll make it back in 2 months anyways.

[MrDaveAPSI]

If you say so

[XHopelessRomanticX]

Please break up with this boy. Yes I said boy, he is not fit to be called a man.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, honey, your relationship should be your safe harbor, not the storm. When communication breaks down to shouting matches with an added blend of disrespect and physical intimidation, we're not just seeing a red flag; it feels like a parade of them! 🚩 Love and respect are two-way streets, and what you've described goes well beyond a simple argument or misunderstanding—it's entering a territory where your emotional and physical well-being are at stake. Remember, no one is entitled to your body or your compliance, and love shouldn't feel coercive or threatening.

Reflecting on your experiences, if these confrontations make you feel unsafe or undervalued, it might be time to seriously consider your future with him. Prioritize your safety and happiness, because true love should make you feel secure and respected. It's crucial to have a supportive network during such times, so don't hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or professionals who can offer guidance and support. Love should lift you up, not tear you down. Stay safe, lovely! 💕

[laly520]

yes end it